Wait until marriage and PMO

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  1. Untamed_fantasy

    Untamed_fantasy Fapstronaut

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    Hello guys I just posted about my relapse after I was 16 days PMO free, for all who didn´t read it, I´m a 20 year old male student and I´m struggling with PMO addiction for many years but these days I´m more determined to fight this addiction than ever before.

    But there is one thing that is very hard to deal with and that’s following:

    I must be celibate until marriage. I know this isn´t just a rule, it would help me to live a better life. I´m not in a relationship and I never was, I´m a virgin but I had a lot of possibilities to had sex with pretty women in my age, because I´m not the ugliest person in fact many friends and family members of mine told me that I should become a model because I have the height, face and body for it, and would say my character isn`t bad at all. So would say I´m a handsome dude, maybe a little bit crazy but not in a weird way.

    Why I never had a relationship? I would say I never saw a girl in which I was interested, and the girls which were good looking had a personality I didn´t like and vice versa.

    If I`m going to have sex one day then only after marriage, because I think it is only made for marriage. I´m sure if it is Gods plan, he will give me a wife one day, but what if that’s not his plan for me, then the only sexual thing I ever experienced was Porn and Masturbation, while other people experienced real sex, and I could had experienced it too but never had because I choose to right thing.

    So I`m a guy who wants to experience everything (but in the right way),I want to understand everything, to summarize I would say I have to know things, (I would say that’s also the reason why I chose to study science)… So lets say Gods plan is that I`m not going to marry someone, then I couldn´t get this thought out of my brain that I could have had it (sex) but I chose not do it, because waiting until marriage is the right thing to do. As a person who is scientific embossed, this is a dilemma for me which would make me crazy because I would like to experience sex.

    And that leads to my PMO journey because it is very hard for myself to quit PMO when there is the thought, that the last time I had PMO could be the last time I had sexual pleasure (even if it isn´t real sex) for the rest of my life, if I`m successful with Nofap and no PMO.

    So how should I think about this? What du you guys think about this?

    Maybe now I should focus first into overcome my PMO addiction, until that I wouldn`t consider myself as eligible for marriage anyway.

    I don´t know if I explained my worries any good, I hope it is not too difficult to understand bc of my bad english (sorry again)

    I hope this doesn`t sound too crazy for u guys and I can´t wait to read your answers Thx for your answers in advance.
     
  2. jarvyjarvison

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    Sounds like you've got a case of FOMO (fear of missing out). You haven't met a girl that you're interested in having a relationship with in 20 years of living? That's kinda weird. But, hey, maybe you're the kind of guy who will fall in love at first sight. Wonderful things may be in store for you.

    Just remember, whatever God's plan is for your life, it's better than anything you or I can come up with. So relax and enjoy the ride.
     
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  3. CPilot

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    You are going through a difficult and important period in life, for sure. I recommend praying to God and praying for help from the saints to find your soul mate. In my case, I recognized and longed for the love one finds in a beautiful marriage earlier than most. I began praying the rosary fervently and frequently at age 18 with a request to Our Lady that I would find my wife. I only asked to meet her and develop a relationship with her, I didn't intend to get married so young. LOL, although it wasn't my plan, God had a better idea, my beautiful, smart and loving soul mate was introduced to me in the autumn of my 18th year and we were married in the following spring.

    Everyone felt we were doing the wrong thing to be married so young. Now, 42 years later, I still see it as the best decision I have ever made. Contrary to other's expectations, marriage did not slow my University studies but rather accelerated them and my grades improved as my course load increased. By any reasonable standard I have had a very successful and exciting international career and I am now comfortably retired and focused on a new project hand in hand with my wife. Throughout it all, I have had my wonderful wife by my side. She is even more of a joy today than she was 42 years ago. I encourage you to pray for your soul mate. You will be surprised at what happens next.
     
  4. Untamed_fantasy

    Untamed_fantasy Fapstronaut

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    Wonderful post, thank u very much!
     
  5. CPilot

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    PS, please let me add, this. When we met, I didn't find my future wife to be the most attractive girl I knew. She was certainly cute and fun to be with but she was not a runway model. Had I held out for another with more outward beauty, I hate to think what would have become of me. Also, as time went on, my wife just became more and more beautiful both in character and appearance. Most importantly, we married because we realized we hated being apart. To us, that was confirmation of our love for each other.

    I am so glad I didn't wait for the "perfect" woman. A man's idea of perfect is tainted by what the modern media (and worst of all porn merchants) want us to believe the standard of perfect is. That standard is a big lie and worst of all, the outward appearance of a woman is not a reflection of her inward beauty - something which is far more important.
     
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  6. Untamed_fantasy

    Untamed_fantasy Fapstronaut

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    Hey,
    I didn`t post anything lately (but my streak is up to date, and I cannot thank god enough for it) but I wan`t u to know, that I did pray for my future soul mate as u said in the summer and since few weeks I met a girl (and now as i`m writing this I`m in tears idk why bc I didn`t cry for years), because the first time in my life I`m seeing a girl and I`m really liking her (and vice verca) and it is going to get more and more serious, and god is speaking very clear with me lately and it realy seems like he is bringing us together and it seems like it is his plan. And I didn`t think this was ever possible. And I will continue praying and hope god will lead everyting even there are many worries bc she is a little bit older than me and I just started to study at university etc... And I could write a lot about how good god was lately to me and how he is leading everything I do, even there where tought times too lately. But I just want to say thank you and god bless u and I will pray for u too. You`re a doing a great job, keep going!
     
  7. CPilot

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    FANTASTIC news! God is great and He is in charge! I hope your girl friend has faith, like you. If not, you can slowly lead her to this by simply introducing her to Our Precious Lord, He will do the rest. When my wife and I married, God became the third member of our marriage. When times got difficult, our faith in Him was the lifeline that saw us through. When we do God's will, He sends His Holy Spirit to encourage us and help us. Thank you for your prayers, I will continue praying for your success!
     
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