Want tips on how to avoid my chastity slave fetish

I can see where it would be more difficult as it is feeding into it in a way.
You still need to use the same tools of finding other things to keep your mind busy and being out away from being alone. Strengthen your plan if you need to. Find an AP who can help and who you can talk with her the urges are strong.

 

You are here and asking questions, reaching out, that's a good thing.
Stay strong

 

It's difficult to dissociate the choice to not masturbate from having a denial fetish. I had a denial fetish for a while (along with most of the rest of them) and, even though abstinence seems counter-intuitive, it's still a good idea to purge the dopamine addiction. An AP would be really beneficial to you along with maybe focusing on a pastime you love.

 

Abstinence by way of doing something else that you love (and avoiding the connection to the fetish) might be the best way. I write, so that wasn't too hard for me since it can be time consuming. If you like to exercise or hike, that's good. Get out where there are other people. Read in a coffee shop or somewhere where you're not isolated.

 

Staying sober from all PMO will most likely get rid of this fetish. Also for me it requires lots of therapy too, because the issue for me is really really low self esteem.

And in a world that is scary and full of people who can harm me, participating in Femdom, master/slave extreme degradation stuff Gave me the power I always wanted but at the same time allowed me to feed the self hatred.

It was a perfect coping mechanism where I could transfer the selfnhate into sexual arousal and at the same time completely escape the real world by going deeper into femdom fantasy. Almost feeling like an alternate relm. It’s incredibly destructive and left me in ruins.

Luckily 9 months of sobriety from porn and nearly the same amount of time from all MO, mixed with lots of therapeutic work, I am gaining self esteem back and have less desire to be dominated and degraded and in a sexual fetish level, those thoughts only enter my mind when I’m really really down on myself, but most days I don’t fantasize about it.

 

So you have a fetish. The fetish does not come from porn, it comes from you, your experience, your feelings.
You can deny those feelings, try to get rid of them and enjoy sexuality in different ways. I don't know whether that will work out for you.

Another way is to try to live your fetish. There is absolutely nothing morally wrong with the practices you describe. Maybe you should look for a beautiful mistress? There are people who have such relationships. You could try it.

I don't want to say with this that you should spend your life watching porn about such fantasies.
All I am saying you should not dismiss your sexual fantasies just because they are frowned upon by society. That could make you seriously unhappy.

 

One can only HOPE bro. One can only HOPE.

 

I'm going through similar problems to you. Have a chastity fetish and feel like NoFap is a mental chastity thing. But, I'm giving it a try by giving up PM. I still have O through sex with SO, although I limit it to 2-4wks and sex life has improved considerably. I still think of it as mental chastity though, not sure if that feeling will go away, we'll see...

 

Do everything you can to learn to love yourself. This is the true solution for me and my degradation obsession.

Therapy is really helping me with this. Yesterday I decided to count the number of times in a day I have a negative thought about myself. And the thoughts are so quick that I could only count about half of them. I counted 60...

It just shows how deep my self hatred goes. And learning a new positive internal dialog, will get me further from the need to destroy myself.

 

My record for stopping P is 41 days, currently I'm day 6. It use to be a combination of Fedom, chastity, pegging, TS, etc. Other improvements: I get morning wood much harder and almost daily now and I have a higher sex drive. That's pretty much it for me.

 

Wow!!! I am so glad to see this thread. I have a chastity fetish also. It even goes wayyyyyy back to when I was a young child. I liked the feeling of an athletic protective cup placed on my penis and it prevented erections.

I know first-hand how tough this fetish is to overcome. The very act of "NoFap" is itself arousing. And fapping to it only makes it worse.

Thank you guys for the posts.

 

Helps to know there are others out there who understand or who are similar

 

Thanks ClaritySeeker. It's so difficult to break the cycle when the act of breaking the cycle is part of it!

I go to great lengths to find articles that explain how healthy it is NOT to ejaculate.....as part of my fetish! The more scientific and "authentic" the better. In fact, I have even written some and posted them to the internet under various names. You can't believe how often I have been quoted as an "expert"......by experts!

 

It is quite interesting for me as a real cuckold to read about your experiences as people with femdom fantasies. My fetish (induced by my wife) is certainly not going as far as wanting to have my genitals caged, quite on the contrary. But I am in contact with people who do that and have mistress wives dominating them, so now I understand a bit better where this is coming from and what else is behind it.

 

Have you been having any progress?