wanting sex vs wanting a partner

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by enz, Nov 16, 2020.

  1. enz

    enz Fapstronaut

    5
    1
    3
    does nofap personally make you want to hookup or want a partner?
     
  2. neverpolitcallycorrect

    neverpolitcallycorrect Fapstronaut

    31
    93
    18
    That depends on you NOT NoFap, what do U want?
     
  3. mr.mistakeful

    mr.mistakeful Fapstronaut

    48
    230
    53
    Personally neither, i just want more cakes.
     
    yrjyrj and Icouldprobablyhelp like this.
  4. OhWhenThe

    OhWhenThe Fapstronaut

    271
    243
    43
    I bounce between the two ... but end up with neither.
     
  5. Yes, I tend to have more genuine romantic thoughts and less visceral, sexually motivated thoughts as my NoFap recovery progresses.
     
    Icouldprobablyhelp likes this.
  6. iwanttoheal

    iwanttoheal Fapstronaut

    57
    42
    18
    It encourages me to build myself and my life up rather than either.

    I learned the hard way that neither a relationship or hook ups can truly satisfy me unless I’m living up to my own standards.
     
    Icouldprobablyhelp likes this.
  7. Ngo27

    Ngo27 Fapstronaut

    25
    29
    13
    I think NoFap can increase desire for both wanting sex and a partner. However, we should also use the time and energy from NoFap to improve different aspects of our lives.
     
    iwanttoheal likes this.
  8. JoeinMD

    JoeinMD Fapstronaut

    Yes, even now in the latter stages of no PMO together or separately, I get intense urges for sexual hookups (one-night stands or ongoing one-night stands), even though this has not been characteristic of me for many years. Usually, PMO satisfies all such urges, and I know even now that if I relapse with PMO (as the lesser of the two evils in my mind), all the intense onset urges for random hookups, which become hallucinatory almost for me as well, and all the thoughts of how to make it all happen would vanish. It's all quite distressful to me in PMO recovery, and I've been suffering this off/on from days 50 through day 70. It's quite terrible.

    I don't know if that's what you mean. Maybe you meant hooking up in a normal relationship, which is not what I'm taking about.

    .
     
  9. Enulv

    Enulv Fapstronaut

    741
    2,616
    123
    I tend to think more about having a partner rather than having sex. I just really want that little feel of safety you get when there' s someone close to trust.
     
    Icouldprobablyhelp likes this.
  10. Trobone

    Trobone Fapstronaut

    126
    156
    43
    It;s a struggle honestly. I'm working with a professional to untie my self-esteem with my sex life with my wife. Right now if we don't have sex, I take it very personally, and after long enough I create resentment and anger because I connect emotional intimacy with sex. I need to disconnect those to accept that she can love me and be attracted to me, but not want to have sex. it's not healthy at all on my part.
     

Share This Page