Wanting to be the woman in porn

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Carabisto, Feb 13, 2019.

  1. Stop porn and you Will be healed! If you str8, that is only a severe porn intoxication.
     
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  2. Risitas67

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    Thanks a lot for sharing ! Good continuation :)
     
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  3. Vitoriosa

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    [QUOTE = "Guilherme Brasil, post: 1944451, membro: 301139"] Pare de pornô e você será curado! Se você str8, isso é apenas uma intoxicação pornográfica grave. [/ QUOTE]
    Isso mesmo Guilherme, meu marido está longe da pornografia a 7 meses, e realmente isso tudo e induzido . Ele não tem mais esses impulsos, não gosta mais de pornografia de travestis e ele também tinha fetiches de vestir_ se com roupas femininas, e já não faz mais isso. A uniún coisa que ainda incomoda sao alguns flashs. Mais é só isso.
     
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  4. MonkeyDo

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    This kind of thing doesn't surprise me. Porn itself causes the watcher to fantasize. In order to feel engaged in the porn, we imagine ourselves being really there, having sex ourselves.

    Most of the time we as guys imagine ourselves as the dude in the porn. We train ourselves, day after day, to become very good at fantasizing.

    So it doesn't surprise me that someone's mind may want to take this fantasizing even further. If some fantasy is a good thing, even more fantasy must be even better, right?

    Decide that you are not going to fantasize anymore. You are going to live the life that's right in front of you. Make that commitment to yourself every moment, over and over again, until it becomes second nature. These problems you're having will start to fade away.
     
  5. Legal que vc tenha podido dar suporte a seu parceiro num momento de tão grave perturbação. A pornografia destrói a identidade da pessoa e deve ser evitada, combatida e reconhecida como um mal. Estimo sucesso e felicidades para vocês.
     
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  6. MrUndo

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    Hi, I just wanted to tell you that the reason why it feels good is because your g spot is there. I have had several coworkers open up to me and tell me that they actually enjoy anal play. I think that makes sense considering it feels good. In terms of wanting to be the woman, I mean for the average person on this website (straight guys) it would seem as if you are gay, but some guys like submission. As a gay man, I do like the feeling of being submissive sometimes. You should feel able to do as you please as long as you feel good about it and it’s not affecting your life negatively. Some women are OK with anal play. Some are not. Only you can truly figure out if it was influenced by porn by removing that out of the equation and seeing how you react.

    Have you actually tried pegging by a woman? If not, then try it and see if that’s what you like. You do not have to conform to what society is telling you. If you want to try on a guy, then that’s also an option. But porn and real life are truly different.
     
  7. Optimist85

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    It is not enough to stop watching porn.

    To manifest a change you need to take action in the direction you want to go to, and form better habits.

    Just stopping to do something creates a void. If you have no solution, something else will take its place. So think ahead and then do the necessary steps.
     
  8. Vitoriosa

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    [QUOTE = "Guilherme Brasil, post: 1944551, membro: 301139"] Legal que vc teve tempo para ajudar o seu parceiro num momento de tão grave perturbação. A pornografia destrói a identidade da pessoa e deve ser evitada, combatida e reconhecida como um mal. Estimo sucesso e felicidades para vocês. [/ QUOTE]
    Todos os seus temas também estão no fimes firmes e foquem no maior that sesty deste vicio.
     
  9. I appreciate this thread... I’ve always been pretty heavily addicted to sP and anal pegging since I was maybe 17 or 18 years old. It really escalated at 19 to now. Constant cycle of trying to stop and then relapsing and accepting that I “can’t” before I even discovered NoFap at 22/23 almost 3 years ago now. I remember the moment I discovered it, I was high on meth.... I have a rough story.

    Before any of this had even happened I had slept with a couple of girls. I had even had uncomfortable experiences where guys were pretending to be gay with me (my one friend Ben who was always a little weird) and it just made me feel really uncomfortable and like I didn’t like it at all.... I also had an experience at 11 where a kid who was a year older than me over powered me and made me touch him and it was no good. If I was genuinely gay I believe in my heart that I would have just slept with the kid.... But this sissy and trans porn has gotten me to some strange places since then.

    I was picked up by a guy when I was recently homeless... I thought he was going to give me a place to stay. He made moves on me... I slept with him. He gave me money and dumped me off on the side of the road. I was going to drink myself to death but I went into a mental hospital and moved into a sober living house instead. This was a little over a year and a half ago.

    Now I still find myself watching sissy porn and pegging, even though I know that sleeping with men disgusts me. Anal feels “good” but is this what I really want? No. Porn feels “good” too... But at the end of the day I see that I’m simply an addict who has had some major brain changes from years of abuse...

    How do you guys get out of the fucking cycle.... It’s like this craving takes over everything and renders me powerless/stupid. I’ve gotten thirty days and even slept with a girl within the past 6 months... but we broke up and it caused me to go right back... I want genuine results.
     
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  10. u376

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    I was in this situation.....but now I am out of it
    I am straight
    Sexually attracted towards girls only
    But for 2-3 years continuously.....I liked to fap from female POV
    Also.....I was having interracial fetish at that time
    It's embarrassing.....but it is true
    As of now I just watch porn without imagining any of the side
    I mean I look at the real aspect of it
    Two people having sex on my screen....
    This approach has completely healed my earlier messed up approach.....
    Also I was doing prone masturbation......and now it's 440+ days without masturbation
     
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  11. ultrafabber

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    Well, that should not arouse you... I used to be the same (masturbated to "straight porn" for almost 20 years) but then i figured it's abnormal to be aroused by that.

    The thing that is naturally arousing is a woman feeling good, being naked etc. A man being naked, with an erection, enjoying himself etc should NOT be arousing to a straight man. More so, a man fking the woman you are sexually attracted to and want for yourself should be extremely NON-arousing. That should totally turn you off, not on.

    The problem is that the arousal you get from the woman overwhelms the disgust you get from the man.

    These are two completely opposite directions and most of us messed up our arousal so that we can enjoy the woman BUT because of that we end up enjoying the man also.
    It's just classical conditioning, you associate pleasure with both women AND men.
     
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  12. TheArtist1923

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    Hi, I'm a woman and while watching porn, I always picture myself being the man. The active, rather than passive one. I am definitely straight though, but I also have this issue, well reversed. Never understood why. I do like the female body, and find it in many ways more attractive than the male body, but I can't picture myself with a woman.
     
  13. ultrafabber

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    This is interesting, while i did think this gender inversion is possible, you're the first woman i've encountered to actually describe it. Why do you think this inversion preference happened? Do think about what the man is feeling or about what the woman is feeling?
     
  14. TheArtist1923

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    It's really weird but now that you asked, I have to say that I feel what the man is feeling but for the pleasure of the woman. So kinda both, I have no idea if it makes sense or not. But I position myself in the pov of the man.
     
  15. ultrafabber

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    I'm asking because that's what i was feeling (not that i'm the woman but how the woman feels) as well, but in reverse cause i'm a man. Even during sex, for some weird and backwards reason, i was thinking how the woman feels me rather than what i'm actually feeling. I wasn't getting much pleasure during sex, masturbation was much more pleasant than sex sadly. But during both masturbation and sex i was thinking about how the woman perceives the dick, which is really weird. In a way, my pleasure was derived from the woman's feelings.
     
  16. TheArtist1923

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    Hmm interesting. I understand what you are saying because for me I feel how the man is feeling, the vaginas etc. But I also derive my pleasure from looking at the woman in a man's pov. This is super weird for me because I know 100% I am straight, yet in porn I position myself as a man, when in real life I could only derive pleasure from being in the position of a woman with a man.
     
  17. ultrafabber

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    Well considering most porn and pov porn is from the perspective of men (even in "regular" porn you get many shots of man's pov)... if you watched those cause you had no other options i think it's understandable that you paired pleasure with a man's pov.
     
  18. TheArtist1923

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    Yes that's true. This is also one of the reason stopping porn is so important for me. The visual stimulation goes way to far sometimes and completely detaches me from the reality.
     
  19. Pexton

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    I personally do not have such thoughts (be a woman in porn). But I've heard about such cases with users who have used porn intensively for many years. They were always advised be community to abandon it before it would do more havoc in their brain (maybe not a change in sexual orientation but doubt, guilt, depression and social phobia, HOCD). I advise you all the same.

    About me ... In my case I have HOCD and in watching porn I often have intrusive thoughts about things that disgust me, reject me and be scared of them. Every day, she tries to give up on porn but whenever I think about a very nice girl (for most often previous watched in some porn movie) and it always ends with masturbation and ejaculation. I have to finish it.

    I think that in my problem and in your also, we need to apply the best and the simplest solution. Finish this and start rebooting. The brain should go back to the default state.Then we will be happy again , like those who have succeeded in this challenge. It's good that there is a forum, being members of the community is a little easier to face this carcass (but still this is not as simple as we would like).
     
  20. u376

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    Just want to add one thing in this conversation
    Glad to see that a lot people suffered from this pov thing
    Because for 2-3 years I was masturbating on women pov
    And I am 100% straight
     

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