Watched few hot pics in facebook

Why not keep a journal of your feelings. That helps me.

 

Well, for me the biggest Problem was that in my head there was a firm connection between PMO and Shame. I felt ashamed after coming to Porn or sexy images or else comparable. But the thing is, you shouldn't be! It is perfectly normal that our brains crave the sexual superstimulus that porn and all that other stuff offers us. There is no shame in that! Do you feel ashamed when you drink lemonade or eat a cookie? If you do, then don't! If you don't then, why should you feel ashamed of being enticed to Porn? I found for myself, that if I cut this connection, if I accept my desires and urges, I automatically do not feel compelled to jerk off all the time. It's complex and hard to explain, but acceptance is in my opinion a much stronger key to a healthy sexual life than punishment. And this of course leads to the key question if Sex in general is something good or bad. If you think it is something bad, then I find it hard to develope a healthy attitude towards Sex. If you think it is something good though, then the distinction between negative, energy-stealing, bad aspects (Porn,Aggression,Addiction,Pain causing behaviour, Shame) and positive, healing, good aspects (Love, Intimacy, Relaxation, Tenderness, Self-Confidence) can be made. Sorry for the blabbering

 

I did the exact same thing you did on my last run. I thought it was okay to "look"(more like lust) at women in sexy clothes, im glad I found out that doing that was a relapse trigger for me. That and being on my laptop in bed. Dont continue doing this, it is one of your relapse triggers, write it down. Make a list of all your known relapse triggers, after you make a list NEVER do these things again. good luck!

 

Well, I think that the acceptance is basic for overcoming this habit. At least, it helped me a lot. If you don't accept your urges, you're going into a "tug-of-war" with them. And me personally, I lost everytime. However, if you accept them, you can take a step back mentally and say to yourself:" Ok, I have a thought about looking at attractive pics online." And then, you take another step back and say:" I think I'm having a thought about looking at attractive pics online." And you'll see, you'll have build up some distance between you and your urges and at best, they will disperse. And then of course, it depends on what you intend to achieve. Do you want to abstain from PMO (all three) forever or would you like to fight off an existing Porn addiction or do you aim for a healthier attitude towards Sex?