Watching Porn without masturbating

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by chase, Oct 19, 2014.

  1. GripLess

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    My fingers heal a hell of a lot faster than my brain.
     
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  2. Enter36thChamber

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    I was 4 days in when I got a strong urge to watch porn without masturbating which I did, but then it got me thinking, if this is still just as damaging as masturbating to porn then I may as well masturbate to it and have a full relapse, because watching it without touching myself is basically a relapse anyway… so if I’m going to start again I may as well experience that orgasm, right?

    Unless I’m wrong and masturbation to porn is worse than just watching porn without mastubating.
     
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  3. Derek Holt

    Derek Holt New Fapstronaut

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    Start something that makes u forget or puts you into shame for watching P. After sometime you will feel Guilty and hopefully removes its from your memory
     
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  4. No..you must not do it. No PMO is the only option otherwise No PM. Watching P is destroying our brain.
     
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  5. Nicolette

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    Good for you, man! I wish only the best! We're all individuals, we've different perspectives and visions towards life. If you tend to choose path which you personally believe is good, then you pursue it, no matter what. God is a mystical sense which is unexplainable.
    I believe that we are our own gods, at least in this life. Whether it's true or not, it doesn't matter, as long as you achieve inner clarity. God never forced anyone to believe in him. You can't believe in anything, if you don't believe in yourself in the first place, I think. Guess, it makes a little sense.

    Cheers!
     
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  6. Gooding

    Gooding Fapstronaut

    :) This occurred to me around my puberty! Something that influenced my life significantly.

    Profound words. Completely agree.
     
  7. Mybrownblanket

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    I thought PMO means abstaining from Porn, Masterbation and Orgasm altogether ? Are you on Standard mode or Hard mode, if you're on Hard mode you need to stop watching porn because it would be very counter-productive.
     
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  8. samsingh

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    Today i watched porn for 2 minutes after 15 days of avoiding pmo.it was tough to avoid ejaculation.however the effort is worth it as social anxiety is going away and i am feeling better and stronger.did i break the rule?
     
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  9. Gooding

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    If you ask me I would say avoid porn completely for at least 100 days. Along with that erotica, porn subject in your mind etc.
    That worked for me. You will be glad after you see life long benefit.
     
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  10. Renascer

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    STOP PORN!
     
  11. Letmetellusomethingpendejo

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    Don't do it man! Focus on go and get some girls or boys and have some natural quality time!
     
  12. LonelyStranger2020

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    i have just completed over 1 year without no PMO and today I started watching F***** Nudes. I feel to masterbate and release the tension but I haven’t yet. Watching explicit pictures alone is lesser than masterbating to it becuase with masterbation you attached your private part to what you’ve seen, then you attach your feelings and so many other things get attached to the clip. Rather just recognise it and STOP.

    Watching something is watching but connecting your feelings, private parts and everything else is the killer.
     
  13. its good that you stopped your self from masturbating and orgasming, but you are not quitting masturbation my friend, the addiction you are fighting is Porn-Masturbation-orgasm, doing any of these without the other will give you a chaser effect to complete the full cycle because, dopamine is released after peeking is received in the porn pathway alone but in the pathway of pmo, this is why some guys go 30/60 days have sex, orgasm and return to their habit of pmo, your goal is not to stop watching your goal is to be cured, you stay away form all 3 doing one of them will hinder your progress, plus think about it you’re giving your brain dopamine from porn, you want to be cured stop giving it dopamine, its like saying i quit drinking but i keep taking 1 small sip every Friday night at bat with my friends, i suggest your read more about pmo because you seem like you have little knowledge about it my friend. If you have knowledge you will be prepared because when you are an addict you are not thinking straight you addiction literally start talking to you, your willpower to think clear and logically when it comes to pmo is damaged from porn usage, will power when it comes to pmo is almost none existent when it comes to pmo addicts by abstaining you are slowly developing it, read and read and get cured.
     

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  14. controlling sexual urge is easy ignore it, the most important part of the reboot, is to heal the brain, edging damages the brain to and reinforces those pathways, when you experience high libido, or pure sexual urges, accept them, let them pass, and do not fantasize, dont fight it either treat it like any other feeling, do meditation do another activity, change your place or break your push up record, but don’t fantasize, successful rebbot is when you still fight porn without thinking about, this is by programing your brain, your auto pilot to avoid triggers and to be very alert when a thought that say lets masturbate or pmo, this small book could help shed some light
     

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  15. LonelyStranger2020

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    i agree with what you said man.

    I went over 400 days without PMO but only today I slipped by watching nude “pictures”. Not videos. And I was close to masterbating but I didn’t.

    I saved my self becuase I didn’t carry out the fully thing which reinforces and fully confirms a relapse. By not Engaging the hands, the feeling, the orgasm mechanism, the emotions. I somehow did not slip up fully today. But it was a slight slip. However when I go out or even look out the window it’s a filthy world. Tight blue jeans and all sorts. So right now I’m just repenting and asking for guidance on what to do becuase in this current day n age it’s almost impossible to fully reboot unless you live on the mountains or somewhere discreet etc.

    I’m trying my best.

    I get mental pains instead of pleasure by even thinking about porn so yeah. I’m really Traumatised and In a bad situation. Being alone in the house for the past few days really showed my sexual appetite and functioning is still working correctl. It’s the fear my parents instilled and the guilt shame im carrying that also plays a role in the way I am now. Mental pain. Don’t know how to get rid of that.

    I’m most probably going to move out of my parents anytime soon. This will mean I will be alone and it will be really challenging to go onto fully reboot. This time around it felt like I was rebooting due to guilt shame trauma and parents being around.
    Now i want to finish of the full reboot by being alone. When the test of my character is at its peak.

    Any advice will be appreciated. I’m 29 man and I’m really unhealthy mentally and physically. But I have to move out. Staying here all my life just messed me up especially sexually. There is to much fear around parents. Cannot fully relax
     
  16. FARHARD-H-KHAN

    FARHARD-H-KHAN New Fapstronaut

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    A Stumble May Prevent a Fall.

    NoFap is a lifestyle, it is a habit and for the people who are addicted to porn and fapping all the time a challenge to test their willpower.

    In the long run, if a person is fapping on porn all the time and getting constant dopamine hits will ruin his sexual health, the excess of fapping can cause ED. (Google it for details) and can affect his relationship with women.

    In my understanding, NoFap and semen retention go together.

    When a person retains semen for a long time it could bring a lot of health benefits. (Google Yogis and Bharmachari) tons of videos online/youtube.

    The person lives in a state of Bliss which is far more superior quality BUZZ compare to fapping or casual sex. Beware the energy could be intense you must know how to channel it or it might lead to frustration, depression and aggression.

    Let say, If you watch porn and you are turned on (horny) and you are ready for action but you smile, observe and don't do anything, you let it go. You did not masturbate or have sex that is REAL SELF CONTROL. If you struggling hurry up Go and take a cold shower.

    We are spirit/soul trapped in the human body and the human body got its limitation. It will get hungry, it will get thirsty it will feel cold and hot depending on the weather. It demands sexual pleasure, your mind and your heart will tell you what is right and what is wrong.

    I also think if you are on NoFap, No sex, semen retention journey to check oneself to boost own healthy ego to watch some kinky film, get turn on but not do anything that is self-mastery, self-control, warrior trait. And also Fuck everybody else who tells you what is good what is bad. Listen to your inner voice. Your best friend and best enemy both are within you.

    If you go for a temporary buzz and feel guilty later, the enemy within you won. If you watch it, smile and comment like fook n hell that was good. She was hot but that's it she is on the screen not in front of you that you have to lose self-control and lose your power watching porn.

    Browse on youtube Buddha vs Mara (demon of lust) presented his three daughters in front of him. Buddha observed and remained composed and that's how he reached the Enlightenment.

    In Christianity the name of the demon of lust is Asmodeus (you can google it) He is one of the Prince of the hell He and his army work day and night to tempt humans so at least for the sake of courtesy, we should appreciate his hard work by at least watching kinky films once in a while. That doesn’t mean we have to Fap or indulge in anything which gives us temporary pleasure with a guilt trip.

    You should only have sex with your partner, the person you love or who you are in a relationship with, with anyone else like hookers you will unknowingly damage your own soul not even realising it.
    Hope it Helps.
     
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