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Weak erections due to PMO . HELP ME!!!!

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by fETOrTaB, Feb 15, 2021.

  1. fETOrTaB

    fETOrTaB Fapstronaut

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    I am depressed because masturbation suddenly has started to affect me physically. When I masturbate I don't have morning woods for at least 4 days. My erections are weak for 4 days and my libido is zero. I peek to look if I am okay, not because I'm horny and then I relapse. I wasn't like this before. Masturbation looked normal and I felt no harm but recently it has been very harmful for me. If I don't masturbate I get rock hard around day 7. I also experience semen drops coming out from during urine which was never seen before. Am I normal? All the physical progress just goes away with a single fap. And tell me how can I overcome this please......
     
  2. Yes. Try to sit and pee.
    No. It doesnt. But masturbating continously does.
    Simple. Self control.
    modern science has said that masturbation once a day is ok. But its definately not the case in Ayurveda. The scientist researched about semen, they found that 90% of it is water. 10% of it is the nutrients which are essential for the brain. Ayurveda has also confirmed that if you abstain from masturbation, the semen flows upward and nourishes the brain cells. Thats why the focus gets improved in Nofap.
    Now you have a reason why not to masturbate.
     
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  3. fETOrTaB

    fETOrTaB Fapstronaut

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    Thanks King for the support. I was genuinely worried about my erections. Yes you're right when I do masturbate I do it 4-5 times consecutively. I agree and I WILL CONTROL MYSELF. I'm going hard mode and won't peek from now on.
     
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  4. Divine By Design

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    Everyone who does this is already "okay" to begin with. There's no reason to do this
     
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  5. Uncle_Iroh

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    I will say this friend, don't make lofty statements, because when you break that promise, and you will break it, you will just feel worse. Not because you're a bad person, but because you are POWERLESS to this addiction. You will not do this on will power and self control alone, you need to put many things in place to overcome this, only with time can you gain any self control. I post this everywhere because I believe that these are steps that need to be taken, if you feel like you are losing control of have lost control of your porn use (which it seems you have) then I think you need to take these to heart:

    1. No half measures
    This thing has you gripped, it's not going to disappear one day and you'll be fine, you've got to work for it and give your all to getting through it, if you don't it will always haunt you. So don't take any half measures, don't allow yourself to make excuses or just take a peek, you've got to be in the fight 24/7!

    2. Get rid of your smart phone (I said no half measures)
    Smart phones are amazing, they open our world up to so many different amazing quality of life apps, information that we wouldn't know and instant messages to friends, and that's just the tip of the iceberg. Tragically though, they close people off from the real world, maybe not everyone, but many people find themselves sucked into their phones and never looking up (I mean just look around you on the street or in public places). For porn/sex addicts, it is no doubt the case. One minute we're just relaxing, then BAM there's an urge, and within 30 seconds you can be looking at all the sexual material you ever wanted (as you just described), any fetish, any body type or even specific people. It's hell for us, it makes it too easy for us, and that's why it needs to go. NO EXCUSES!

    3. Find a group or a person to help you
    I think for me the best thing I have done is join my weekly SAA (Sex Addicts Anonymous) group in my city, it has opened me up and made me for the first time see other addicts, not just read about them over the internet. A place like NoFap is brilliant and supportive, but I think getting together face to face (or over Zoom as it is currently) is game changing. Seeing the faces of other people with your problem, some over it and some still struggling just give you some motivation, you can see there's an end and you can see that you're not the only one. On top of that it gives you a simple program to follow, a way of realising how far you've delved and the things that led up to it, plus any actions you did whilst gripped in your addiction that you are ashamed of all with the help of someone just like yourself.
    If you don't want to reveal yourself that's fine, I am joining weekly phone meetings as well, they're available for all and there's no discrimination there, no judging, you can say your piece and listen to others knowing that it's all confidential and anonymous. I would highly recommend the face to face meetings though if you have one in your area. If you do join a group, swap numbers, call people daily or less if there aren't enough people to call 7 days a week, and get yourself a sponsor straight away. Just have an open mind.

    4. Exercise
    No doubt you've heard this over and over, or read it on here, but exercise is a great way to help overcome addiction, and also just great for your mental health period. For me there's no better feeling than waking up in the morning, not wanting to get my arse out of bed, but making myself do so and go running for miles, pumping some weights or working on cardio and abs based workouts. Another one that I can sadly not do right now is Swimming, for me I adore swimming and can't wait to get back to it, but be warned you will see people half naked, so that's something to consider. Exercise is great in a pinch too, doesn't always have to be strenuous, but when an urge is coming you get your arse up and start moving, flail those arms, kick those legs, get yourself on the floor and do some press ups, just work yourself and don't stop til you feel a bit more clear headed.

    5. Tell someone
    If you haven't already, I recommend talking to a friend, maybe multiple friends, even your parents. Addiction thrives in secrecy, we kind of enjoy that it is ours, but when you expose it you drag it out of the place that makes it so powerful, your own mind.

    6. No half measures
    Yeah I'm saying it again, you can't do this unless you go all in, it will be too hard and that I guarantee. I have fought for 6 years and still I am fighting, but I am always learning every step of the way what is right and what is wrong for me. Can't use the PC when your alone without urging? Move it somewhere else with other people around or you can be seen from outside, otherwise if you live with parents, detach your ethernet cable or wireless adapter and give it to them certain times in the day, or just always and only take it back if you really do need it. Can't use the internet without an urge? Then block sites with the many apps out there, if you don't have the money to pay for them then a good one I recommend is Leech Block, it's free and although you can access it, you can make it harder or impossible by giving someone else the chance to set the option password, then you're never changing the blocked sites. You don't trust yourself even when you're using the internet with all these problems out the way? Then get an accountability app, it does cost money though and haven't found one that hasn't, but you can have that lingering feeling there to scare you that someone else (who you trust of course) can see everything you are going on, not a nice thing to know if you are like me and aren't proud of your past history.

    These are the actions that need to be taken to overcome this, in time thing may be able to be brought back to use, but you cannot trust yourself to fight this alone and without rules in place. This is a fight for life, it ain't going to go away one day and you'll be cured, you just need to take it one day at a time and stop worrying yourself that you are broken, these are clear facts that you have lost control and only with time and effort will you regain a healthy look at sex and your sex drive. The more you worry, the less it will work let me tell you that from experience.

    I hope these help friend, and if you need advice or guidance just drop me a message.
     
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  6. fETOrTaB

    fETOrTaB Fapstronaut

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    Thanks Man. May God help you in your life. Yes, you're completely right, doing noFap without a strategy will always lead to relapse and that strategy requires going all in. Yes I have deleted all my social media apps and I have decided to adopt good habits which will replace the bad habits. I'll definitely follow you and ask for help whenever I need. Thanks man I really appreciate it
     
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