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Webcam addiction

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Matthew37, Aug 14, 2018.

  1. Matthew37

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    A little back story I’ve been struggling with porn since I was in my early 20’s 38 now.I found this site about a year or so ago and it helped me a lot. I made it all the way to the 21 day challenge and that was big for me. I kinda gave up on it all a few months ago and have just went back to my old ways of watching porn daily. Lately I’ve become addicted to web cam models, Ive spent a good bit of money on it. When I first started paying I thought I could stop whenever I wanted but I’ve soon realized I’m addicted to webcam shows now, so I’m going to start over with the 7 day challenge and try again!
     
  2. Kai101

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    Tou shold be proud of yourself for getting back on the horse. Please do not feel ashamed or guilty about your addiction. We all are addicted. Feeling guilty about it makes the urges worse, and the relapses that much more painful. Focus on the positives. and take it one day at a time. If you mess up, it's not all over. Dont reset your days back to zero. However, if you continue to go back to your old habit, then reset. I k ow this is going to be hard to break, but just think, how many men can resist the most powerful urge on the planet? You are a cut above the rest for trying to break this habit. Btw, 21 days is AMAZING! If you want anyone to talk to, feel free to message me. I hope this helped.
     
  3. bootstrap

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    Hey Matthew37 I am a total noob on this site, but have realized how good a bit of timely support is at getting us past the difficult times. I am struggling with my own PMO demons this evening and just wanted to pass on my admiration for your own confession.

    Keep the faith brother. The path is difficult, but you are not alone.
     
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  4. Dontask

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    I believe in you! Good luck!
     
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  5. You’re not the only one that has spent lots of money on cam models, so have I.

    For me it has been an easy one to stay away from since I set some financial goals for retirement and cam models aren’t going to help me get there.

    Also I was losing my mind over one Ukrainian gal in particular. I started pleading with her like a sappy school boy to let me start emailing her privately since I loved her. She coldly refused and started giggling and dancing for everyone that was online after I laid my heart out to her. She had said some nice and tender things to me and like a dumb kid I had chomped on the bait and was spending lots of money on her. She revealed her true colors that day. I woke up to what a fool I’d been. That was the last time I ever went to a cam site, it was an epiphany that struck me hard. That happened well over a year ago.
     
  6. g2stop

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    Cam girls are trained to make you fall in love with them so they can drain your wallet, it is a form of findom
     
  7. g2stop

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    They can be very convincing. I thought I had kicked the habit months ago and only had porn and stripclubs left to deal with. But unfortunately I spent some money on webcam models this week and I feel pretty ashamed of that. I am hoping that was the last time.
     
  8. Don’t give up. Keep up the fight!
     
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  9. MasturbatieAtelier

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    My addiction has also moved to webcam shows during the last 3 years. I've been trying to analyze the behaviours of my addiction. This helps me to understand and hopefully overcome one day.
    Many PMO addicts, like myself, tend to go towards the more extreme and fetish kind of porn as the level of addiction grows further. Moving from extreme porn to camgirls seems like a step back.
    I guess lonelyness makes the interaction of camming very appealing. Also, the fact that you can basically be the director of the scene, gives you a dominant feeling, wich might give that desirable dose we need. Als paying for sex has something exciting ofcourse.

    Camgirl addiciton is definitly a very dangerous line of in the world of PMO addiction.
     
  10. Matthew37

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    Thank you!
     
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  11. Matthew37

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    Thank you!
     
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  12. Kai101

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    You're very welcome. I wish you all the best
     
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  13. hd339

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    @HopeForBrightFuture " She coldly refused and started giggling and dancing for everyone that was online after I laid my heart out to her. "
    It must have been really painful, but I think this actually was a great thing, that happened to you on that day. Cause like you said, it made you " wake up ". Think of how much more time and money you would have spent on her and maybe other virtual girls, if that didn't happen.
    I think this was a blessing in disguise, even though it hurts.

    Man, did you know that on some camsites they even hire psychologists to help the girls find the weak spots of guys chatting with them so they can make them spend more money. I saw that on a documentary that was about the camgirls industry in Roumania, where they have whole buildings organized with rooms, computers, cameras and people supervising the whole thing out. This is real guys. I know there's still a lot of girls doing it alone on their spare time with no bad intentions, but there's also a lot of dangerous professionals.
    But I think all of them are harmful anyway.
     
  14. hd339

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    Oh and btw, I've also spent way too much time and money on that stuff so I'm not judging you in any way
     
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  15. Amen brother! It was a very good thing that happened!
     
  16. Barry Rolfe

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    Wow...I am glad to have found this thread. Honestly wondering what it would take to perhaps start a webcam addict group on here. I have recently marked a month of sobriety from cams. The longest that I have gone without cam sites in the last 7-8 years has been about 3 months. They are a drain. In so many ways. Also in many ways surpassing regular old vanilla porn of the video variety. My worry is on VR is coupled with cam girls and other things to make them even more realistic. Not a good civilization prospect.
     
  17. They really did get my dopamines flowing. It was an intense high for me having a pretty woman acknowledge me and say kind things to me. Usually beautiful women ignore me or give me strong signals to go away. Also having them get excited when I'd come back online to chat with them was always a thrill.

    Remembering my financial goals along with seeing and remembering the true nature of these swindlers has helped me a lot.

    I'm so glad I've never gotten into VR porn. I think people are going to be hooked a lot worse than they are now.
     
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  18. Marcothebest_1995

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    Welcome back man. I know your feeling, as I had a period when I was into cams. Luckily I did not give 'em a buck anytime.
    I got rid of them as I did not want to wait, so I got back to porn (not good at all).

    As you have to pay, you can also consider the economic aspect. When I dealt with cigs, it gave me a huge hand
     
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  19. Do you mind sharing what the documentary is?
     
  20. Beedrick

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    Camming has been my downfall over 8 years when I was curious about it. I've dipped into my retirement several times to cover the cost of private chats. I started with straight women on there and went novelty with transgender after. I've foolishly spent in the ballpark of 30-40k on this easily and my mental state is not good at all. I'm on the verge of divorce and my poor wife has every right to a better husband than what I am. I've been to the point where suicidal thlughts come into play and hopes of ever recovering from this is slim to none. Its a dangerous game dabbling with cam models they are absolutely there to drain you financially and mentally. I hope I can somehow overcome this.
     
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