Weird booty problem

I have the same issue. I have always loved butts. In fact, I have always prefered M with pics of normal women who are wearing leggings/shorts/bikini and have a "perfect" ass than P or naked pics. And we can see many butts like that everywhere, in real life, and the mind generates tons of thoughts.
When I am outside and I see a girl is like my eyes goes directly to watch the ass the moment is that possible. Many relapses has been produced for coming home, horny for that.

But I don't think it's a serious problem. I think it's kind of natural to feel attracted to some parts of the body like breasts or ass. Maybe P has intensified that desire or maybe not. The real problem is when you NEED watch pics of asses or P to M and get hard and feel pleasure.

In my case, I know that PMO has intensified that desire and has caused other weird fetishes, but I have to focus on the real enemy: P and M. And I know some fetishes will vanish and others will remain but with less intensity, but I am sure I will be much better, much in control and not living in slavery anymore.

 

I think the real problem is when you allow your thoughts to run in channels that create that "need." You wouldn't "need" it if you consciously rejected all such thoughts.

This evening, for example, I was in a group setting where an older child was constantly moving around and fidgeting, as children will. She was wearing the skirt of her school uniform, which barely reaches her knees, and she was constantly lifting her knees, and or elevating her skirt--actions which my eyes caught from my peripheral vision, as this girl was sitting across from me in the group (all of us cross-legged on the floor). I could have chosen to focus in for a real good look--and, being a man, it was a temptation. But I deliberately avoided this, averted my eyes, and kept them focused on the faces of those who were participating in the discussion.

To look is to let down one's guard, which is followed by degraded thoughts and imaginings, after which the body becomes aroused. The rest of the sequence most here well know.

Where does it all start? It all starts in the decision of the mind to think on lecherous themes, and to seek imagery to support those thoughts, imaginations, and fantasies.

 

Yes, I totally agree. One thing is "I am a person who generally is attracted to butts" and other thing is "I like butts and it is normal to watch butts on the street without taking my eyes off them, but hey I don't do PMO anymore, I am fine"
The second is not healthy for the mind and for the recovery because it is not the same "just one natural peek in a specific moment" than keep looking for a while, because in that moment you are going to think about many negative thoughts, thoughts who are usually created in the mind of an addict.

 

I was never into hooking up so the only source of pleasure was my ex girlfriend so i broke up with her. After the breakup I was sexually abstaining for almost eight years now.

 

OP--troller?

What's the problem, man?

Be more descript. Take a writing class. You just sound like someone being silly, to be honest.

 

I have mentioned this elsewhere on this forum but - I went to college in the late 80s/early 90s. If you saw a woman with leggings or tights on it was maybe once every six months and it was a dance major running to her next class. (Yeah there was the beach for seeing that but that during a set season and very few people lived at the beach.)(i talked to a woman dancer i knew my age and she said they usually put on sweats going to and from the studio. I remember seeing a woman in tights close up for the first time and a baboon in heat started bouncing around my brain.....

Now we see it 3x a day if you live anyplace with significant female population. And the way those yoga pants are made they actually emphasize the rear and make it look even nicer. (I know because I had girlfriends who's asses looked much better with them on) and yeah I actually prefer it over naked.

So the problem here is not that it isn't natural just like sugar or honey isn't unnatural - but in the wild it was scarce and now we get too much of it and we all know what too much sugar does for our health

I am far far from perfect about this but lately I think - what is the point of staring at a woman's ass who i am never going to talk to and getting aroused - can that lead anywhere positive? Also it can subconsciously sap are energy and concentration.

 

I said it was natural because of the title of the post "weird booty problem". In my opinion is not weird to feel attracted to asses. If the title was "weird elbow problem" I would agree it is a pretty weird fetish. So I wanted to expose that I don't think it is a weird fetish but an understandable and natural one.

About that question, I think there is no point of staring at someone's ass. I really try to look at the face and appreciate the beauty of that person as a whole unity, not only a specific part of her body.

I also have to say that all my actual thoughts about the matter are very influenced by this recent addiction. Two days ago I was practicing PMO, and all my life I have been practicing and relapsed, so I am eager to know how a life free of PMO are going to change my mindset.

 

Just to give my response some context: I made the decision to quit porn about 6 months ago. Since then, I’ve slipped a handful of times , and I’ve “peeked” at photos and videos of clothed models wearing clothing meant to emphasize this body part.

However, I can say, it has become easier to look away, or to make the decision not to “check out” women’s body parts. Like many people have said, I think to myself, “Staring is just going to get you all revved up, which leads to nothing good.”

Occasionally, it still happens, because I am only human, but I don’t dwell on it. I acknowledge it, and move on. I think binging on porn had made my brain conditioned to large sexual dopamine hits. So when seeing attractive women during my most severe time in addiction, it was near impossible not to simply stare. But it seems easier now to move on with my thoughts.