Weird happenings and anxiety

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by GuideMeBetter01, Dec 27, 2018.

  1. GuideMeBetter01

    GuideMeBetter01 Fapstronaut

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    I have posted a couple of times here before but I have never been very open my issues with pmo. However, the last week really freaked me out and after going through a very dark phase, I will let go of my feeling in words here.

    I am in my early 30s and have been pmoing for half of My Life. Growing up in a Conservative household., it was really bad in my teenage years and 20s but it has gone down in my 30s. I am probably 2/3 times a week with mo being another 1/2 times a week. I have a healthy sexual life with a gf and no pied issues.

    However, over the holiday season, I was supposed to go fly halfway across the continent. However before my 2 week holiday, I got really worried about my flight and flying and as a result missed my flight. The night before I was really anxious and was sweating over it. I know such fear is irrational but I was really worried about becoming claustrophobic on the plane. I have taken over 200 flights in my Life so this was really weird to me.

    Now it has been a week since I missed my flight but I actually haven't booked a new one and stayed at home. All because of my new found fear of flying and the massive anxiety surrounding it. Not going anywhere makes me even more anxious and is affecting basic things like appetite, memory, getting excited.

    I am wondering if this anxiety is a result of my years of pmo. I am generally an anxious person and attribute it to my mild pmo habits but I have never had it so bad.
    I thought home alone wouldn't have been this bad but it is.

    Any thoughts or anyone faced the same issues?
     
  2. ras-tanura

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    i've had irrational fears skyrocketing as a result of NoFap. Good news, you're probably not afraid of flying, or other things. The first few days of quitting pmo introduce crazy withdrawal symptoms, your brain puts itself into survival mode so it can get the dopamine flood it craves.

    Due to that, there are some thoughts that are intrusive: "this plane is claustrophobia-inducing", "this plane i'm in might crash", "i'm going to miss my flight and my girlfriend won't like it", are some of the many intrusive thoughts you won't get rid of easily. I think now is the time to address controlling compulsive thoughts. It's totally natural to have weak coping skills after many years of addiction (16 years of addiction for me).

    Stay grounded!
     
  3. Ezpz

    Ezpz Fapstronaut

    it is more likely to me that you have been masking this anxiety with PMO. Suddenly when you take away the means to deal with this anxiety it comes back in full force. I would say you need some time for your body and mind to adapt.
     
  4. GuideMeBetter01

    GuideMeBetter01 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks both for your responses. I will stay away from pmo for at least 4 weeks and see how I feel. This is the most debilitating I have ever felt. Seeing a therapist is also on the cards.
     
  5. Colin75

    Colin75 Fapstronaut

    Hi there. I am new on my NoFap and am going through identical what you are. Its pure hell. But im determined to push through. I agree that PMO is masking general anxieties, but am convinced that the withdrawal symptom ( for me any way) magnifies this beyond comprehension. I think the withdrawal symptoms makes a mountain out of a molehill. I really do wish you every health and success! I know how it feels, and is not nice. BUT it will be worth it all when we both come out the other side! Sincerely,Colin.
     
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  6. You'll need longer. Abruptly quitting pmo can cause profound anxiety disorder, as others have said because of the tremendous trauma the brain has to go through. This may sound ridiculous but if you've been masturbating to porn for half your life and then quit, your brain is not gonna be happy at all. Long term pmo addiction often results in clinical depression, anxiety disorders, ocd and other irrational fears. Unfortunately it's the part of your brain that processes porn and masturbation that also processes anxiety. You are not going to undo this wiring in a mere 4 weeks.
     
  7. Wario32

    Wario32 Fapstronaut
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    Yup especially if you first started Nofap as well. I remember by first streak, all my fears hit me like freight train once I stopped PMO. Ocd and anxiety increased
     
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  8. GuideMeBetter01

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    Thanks so much for explaining this. I am keen to get my recovery going and am determined to get out of it. I am thinking no pmo/mo for 30 days minimum and then build on from that by successively increasing the days. My longest streak was 10 days so starting with more than 30 days sounds a lot. Also I have a gf so cutting all sex isn't possible.
    Thoughts?
     
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  9. Raven King

    Raven King Fapstronaut

    Dude, I can relate to your story. I have also has an irrational fear of flying, which never used to be a problem before. Time to get rid of PMO, anxiety and start a new and better life. My anxiety has actually gotten worse since I started nofap. But I know it will eventually get better, it's just the brains way of panicking for not getting fed tons of pmo anymore.

    Cutting all sex might speed your recovery, I know it's difficult when you have a gf/wife, but it's recommended to do 'hard-mode' when you have been doing pmo for so long. I am trying this myself.

    Good luck.
     
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  10. GuideMeBetter01

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    Appreciate the response and help. It's my 9th day without pmo today and am pretty focused on getting to at least 30 if not more.

    I have realize how much time porn consumes of my life. Since I gave it up, I realize I have so much free time which I can fill with other productive activities. So hoping to do that and will report on my progress in another week.

    Best of luck
     
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  11. Colin75

    Colin75 Fapstronaut

    Best wishes to you too! Colin.
     
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    I've watched the Tedx video, but I am still confused about the correlation between tapping to porn and social anxiety, and even self-confidence. Someone posted on here about our two instincts are to survive and to reproduce, and when we take away the reproduction, the survival instincts cause us to ""take the safe route"" with everything.

    With that being said, I can't understand the social anxiety derivation? People see women in public as sex objects due to pornography, and get nervous? Can someone please enlighten me?
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