I welcome all feedback to help me to be a better partner. I have always had a relationship with porn and masturbation. I am very new to rebooting and am currently journeying towards a 90 day hard mode. I have gone without P for 3 weeks. Deleted all questionable apps and such. I feel that I was using M as a way to hide from my own issues with being a poor husband and father. I blamed my wife at every turn and descended into a once sometimes 2 a day M habit for the last 5 years. I know P and M are linked and have started reading brain on porn to learn, but I feel that P for me is not a driver. Yes I used it to M, but I was hiding from my marriage. I have not used P for 4 weeks and just started here. I may be totally surprised to learn new things, but I feel I do not miss P at all. This is not the norm here and it scares me. Yes I used it as a tool to masterbate, but I dont feel urged to use P, I feel urged to M and get that release. I got by in from wide to do PMO for 90 days and felt that hard mode was best because I know that the chaser will be one of my greatest issues. Imagine my utter surprise when she was 100 percent on board and even accepted the challenge herself. I know this is not the norm of partners please do not take it as bragging. My question is 1. Is this fair for my wife or do I need to find ways to be intimate with her and give her the benefit of the O. What are the pitfalls and tips or absolutes that I need to prepare for to reboot but still be the best husband I can learn to be?