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Went on my first date since recovery

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Newlife33, Apr 21, 2021.

  1. Newlife33

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    I asked a girl out from my flag football team a few weeks ago, and she said yes! We went out last night and walked around the park, and it was interesting. I wasn't worried about sex or trying to get her home or porn or any of that.

    Instead I enjoyed hearing about her dad and how they like to garden together. We bonded over a love of bike riding. We shared the different types of art we liked. We walked around and had a good time.

    It was nice too when we left and I said my subway was a certain way, and she said she would walk me back with me to my stop. We said goodbye with a hug.

    It was surreal to be hanging out with a women in a "healthy" way. It was so much different and lighter! It wasn't the super high of a one night stand or porn, but that's ok. It was a slow burn, and much more enjoyable.

    I don't know if things will work out as we did have a lot of conflicting beliefs, but whatever the case it was nice to feel healthy and attractive and normal.
     
  2. Slimjimjones

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    Yah love to hear it, good job man
     
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  3. brassknucks

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    Didn’t go in for the kiss?
     
  4. ElSabio

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    Great to hear it man. I met a girl too and it was the same way for me. Really nice to connect with a woman normally and just hang out and enjoy it.
     
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  5. UncleBarnacle

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    I love this, this is how it should be, thanks for sharing!
     
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  6. Slowlybutsurely

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    Nice one! Please for you mate.
     
  7. bjorkstadski222

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    That’s awesome to read. Congrats on recovery!
     
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  9. Asgardian36

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    man.....this post is so refreshing to hear/read, its so awesome. This is what an initial encounter with a girl should be ideally. Its so nice to have such a time, man! Its my dream to have a similar experience. I hope this worksout. Godspeed!
     
  10. UncleBarnacle

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    This is very nice to read and I dare say charming. Good luck with everything, please keep us posted, it is a pleasure to read a post by a young person who is obviously some kind of gentleman, this will aid you your entire life - patience, prudence and not always in a hurry to get their clothes off.

    WTG have a great day
     
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  11. jrm61

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    Congratulations man!
     
  12. Different Built

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    She get your energy bro I’m sure she was into you
     
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  13. DarkWarrior98

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    You are right my friend!

    I am quite sure that when we are in a streak we emanate a different energy, a different vibe.

    Is because you are doing something else with your sexual energy and you are not just objectifying any girl you see,

    Girls are pretty receptive against this

    @Newlife33, it was great to read that, you do not went for the first date kiss, that is quite brilliant tbh,
    trust me if she agrees to go to a second date, just find a nice spot to take the step.

    Good luck mate!
     
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  14. Different Built

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    Make sure you maintain masculine frame and she will be drooling over you. Game over bro
     
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  15. matt2k12

    matt2k12 Fapstronaut

    Don’t listen to the guys telling you to go for the first kiss. It has to be natural, and if you do it just because you have to prove something, who are you kissing? Your ego. Part of growing up and be a man is to know that you already are a man and don’t need to prove it. Am I saying you shouldn’t go for the kiss? Not at all. I’m saying, kiss her if you want it, for the sake of it, not because you feel you gotta prove a point.
    Glad to have heard your story! Keep at it bro
     
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  17. I'M DC

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    Nice to read your experience buddy.It is really inspiring for me:) Wish you all the best and keep on the journey with both brain and heart ;)
     
  18. Reborn16

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    There's something about a slow burn attraction which is calming. Where neither person is in a rush, or going from hot to cold overnight. If a LTR is on your agenda, this is ideal.

    It's good to have this experience, because it really gives us something to contrast against the other things like casual or PMO like you said. And ultimately a deeper connection brings more fun anyways! Awesome stuff!
     
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