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Wet dream - 2 days in a row

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by PJT, Nov 11, 2018.

  1. PJT

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    I know many have posted in the past concerning having wet dreams 2 days in a row but I wanted to report what happened to me and maybe hopefully get some feedback on whether or not I am still moving in the right direction or not. So on Friday I played basketball for the first time in nearly 6 months. Now I am very active so this wasn't the first time doing any physical activity per say. Regardless i woke up in the middle of the night (not lying on my stomach but on my back) with a wet dream. This reminded me back to another night after I was at the boxing gym sparring and had a wet dream that night as well...i was excited just from the sparring i remember during the day. Both times i was on a NoFap streak. I am wondering if this first one happened because of the new level of physicality or if it was just time to release? Then on Saturday morning i went to the boxing gym and sparred and was rather productive the whole day. I had some different people call me on Saturday night, all to drink smoke and do drugs. I have been attempting to go completely sober since mid October and have been pretty successful outside of two drinks (one wine and one beer) on Halloween. In any case, when my one friend called me he asked if I wanted to go to his friends house because his friends girlfriend would have other girl friends over. Now i know his friend and his girlfriend and both are cool people. The girl is hot, so the assumption is her friends are hot. I also am aware that they always have party favors (drugs) at their home which was mainly why I ended up electing to sleep and not go out. Part of me wanted to go but I have to keep my eye on my studying and NoFap. In any case, I woke up again in the middle of the night having had a wet dream. This time, I actually had a dream and it was me having sex with a BBW and then her just leaving after i let go inside of her. It felt so real for one. I was also on my back when i woke up. In my dream i thought i had impregnated the girl. I'm thinking this was just a subconscious method telling saying that had I gone out tonight I would have made a mistake. i'd rather not have the wet dream at all, I mean i did go to sleep a little disappointed but I knew i made the right call too to not go out. I don't know how to feel about having 2 wet dreams on 2 consecutive days and especially going to sleep the second day with debauchery clearly on my mind.
     
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  2. Hank Pym

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    I dont get wet dreams for more than 70days. But get a lot when I do leg workout(trekking and cyclimg)
    One of my friend's family doctor told him that there is compression and tension near penis areas and balls during leg workout which increases the testosteron level(also penis size) and finally it reaches max level and out.
     
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  3. CH3RRY

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    I've never in my life had a sexual wet dream. Sounds weird I know. I remember when I was prob around 10 years old, I'd be in deep sleep and then orgasm while dreaming. Cause I was so young, nothing came out, it was just the orgasm. It wasn't a sexual dream. This happened a few times. Then when I entered puberty, I'd have wet dreams but those weren't sexual either. It was always a dream where I would get stuck or something like that. If you've ever dreamed of running from something really slowly and then maybe falling down, that's exactly the kind of dream I orgasm'd in. I've only had like 5 wet dreams in my entire life. Latest one was over a month ago, after quitting PMO. Again it was dream in which I got stuck or something and then my body responded to it by me ejaculating. Last night I had a dream where I was thinking about the concept of precum and then felt like actually coming but that didn't happen.
     
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  4. Hros

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    I've had so many wet dreams, especially on consecutive days, since I've started my reboot that I've stopped counting. I've heard different theories about what causes wet dreams even if you do your best not to fantasize. One is sleeping in a cold room, especially very near an AC. Another is that your body needs time to rewire itself from your old addiction of constant PMO. Another is the inevitability of PMO-related thoughts entering your mind - even if you do your best not to dwell upon them, they still cause some kind of internal physical reaction which builds up and releases during your sleep, when you're less in control.

    Personally, I'm always sad to have a wet dream - and usually there wasn't anything bad in the dream itself - but I use that sadness to push myself harder when it comes to cracking down on my messed-up thoughts. I truly believe they'll stop eventually.
     
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  5. Ravefist

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    Man, I've been having wet dream constantly. What were some things htat you did to try and mitigate their occurrence? Thanks in advance!
     
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  6. Hros

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    The most important thing, in my opinion, is learning to control your thoughts. Having thoughts just randomly crawl into your head is hard to control, but I believe that the more you experience and strive to experience a positive lifestyle, the better your random thoughts will get. Having said that, once you do have a PMO-related thought, you need to get it out of your head ASAP. Some tips I've found helpful:
    • 5 seconds rule: whenever you have a PMO-related thought, you have up to 5 seconds to stop thinking about it. With time, lower the max to 3 or 2 seconds.
    • Having trouble of what to think about? Decide that you'll always have one really random thought to fall on. For me, I recently decided to think about a pink elephant (like the classic psychological example... )
    • Don't know if you're religious, but if all else fails, pray for strength in keeping it together.
    As I mentioned above, I've heard that sleeping in a cold room can cause wet dreams. I don't know, I've never researched this, but recently I moved from the top bunk to the bottom bunk in my dorm room, farther away from the AC, and I didn't have a wet dream for several days.

    The last point I made was that it really just takes time, so as long as you do your best to have the most positive reboot, it should pass eventually (though, as I understand, there is no permanent solution. It's a natural biological occurrence that's just bound to happen. What's unnatural is what happens to guys like us that get them way too many times in a short period of time).
     
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  7. PJT

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    This totally makes sense. I am happy no chaser effect occurred and that I am still on my streak. There are days I get aroused or sexually frustrated, but I just try and keep my mind off of it. I noticed, just eating right also helps and just doing any and all things that promote healthy living. Ofcourse I am not perfect, but really am noticing how the food i am intaking sets the stage for my mood. When I eat bad, I get frustrated and tired quicker. More sugar, more crash. When i eat healthy and make my own food i am more energized and more focused and just more active. Not even always physically more active, but mentally as well.
     
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    So when I was young, I never really understood what masturbating was. I used to get wet dreams all the time, but I really was so dissassociated from what was going on. I mean looking back, my mother doing my laundry at that time in my life, she probably knew but never had my dad talk to me about the physical changes going on or just didn't know how to bring up the subject. Like i mean, I literally didn't understand that I ejaculated. I knew I didn't pee my pants, but I didn't know what was going on either. I finally figured it out when I was like 15 years old and finally got the internet and then went on a porn site for the first time. One thing led to another and then finally i started to touch myself or whatever and when i first hand saw what shot out, it all made sense, the wet dreams I was having before. And then after the first time it was like corn pops once you pop I couldn't stop. My mind steady been getting diluted with porn thoughts since I was 15. Between that and smoking weed (at around the same time as I started masturbating) I am here now 34 years old with all types of issues when it comes to commitment, discipline, communication with women etc.

    It sounds to me like you are further along in the whole reboot process and that your mind is working with your body to block out the diluted thoughts and having what i would consider mature adult type thoughts on sex/relationships? Maybe your subconcious is telling you to start talking to women? Forgive me, idk if you already are or have a girl friend at this point. just kinda rambling, but giving my two cents.
     
  9. PJT

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    so in the past year i have gone on now 3 separate streaks where I get to around the 70 day mark and then eventually relapse. For me, the biggest thing is to lead a healthy life. This go around, i have really tried to limit alcohol consumption, weed consumption, and hard drug consumption. I feel like this time around, I have been in a flat line since the beginning and not really out of it yet. I'm just trying to fill my time with something meaningful. it may sound corny or not your cup of tea, but this time around I have been reading the bible (which is not something that I have practiced doing prior, read the bible maybe once front to back without understanding what i was reading before), reading fiction books, studying for cpa, and continuing to box and continue to go to work without complaining too much at work. Im just trying to be more schedule oriented and fill my time with activities that stimulate me physically or mentally. I do not do cold showers, but I hear this works. I have also stayed away from nicotine. I still have a bad habit of logging onto youtube too much and watch conspiracies or just whatever other videos pop up in my news feed. I really feel like mood is the big thing. Try not to get frustrated, learn to focus (through reading), and apply yourself. Look, I am fearful that I am going to relapse but i also know that once i start a task during my day that it pays to focus on it. Good luck buddy, please reach out any time and we can talk through all of this. I know i am not the best poster on here, but I really do wish you and everyone on this site succeed.
     
  10. Ravefist

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    Thanks man, I'll pm you in a few days. I went under a bit of depression as I believed to have permanently damaged my system after releasing 11 times within a 2 month span. I recently had a relapse, my 12 the time in a 4.5 month span. I just want to know how to heal the physiological damage, and I'll do anything to get that back. Thanks man.
     
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    Hey, man. Just want to say that no point in your life is too late. I really wish I would have never started this habit in the first place. I have learned a lot though, but I am on here to find help healing. Thanks for your offer to open dialogue.
     
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  12. CH3RRY

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    Very interesting that you mention this. I don't think the dreams have anything to do with my situation, but no, I don't have a girlfriend yet. Very soon though, I can guarantee that. I haven't talked to any women yet cause of my life situation but I'm moving forward to that everyday. The latest dream I mentioned probably happened just because I was thinking about my experiences with wet dreams the day prior to the dream. I had also seen someone made a post about precum so the concept was in my mind aswell.
     
  13. PJT

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    No problem. Im not so sure about the physiological damage. Somoene on here said that we can be suffering from ED for over 100 days and up to potentially 2 years after no pmo. For myself, I feel as though given my dependence on porn it may take up to a year. It's just something I have in my head. I hope that it's not the case, but if it is, it's something that I have to deal with and not something that makes me go under.
     

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