Wet Dream = Fail?

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  1. DickyAnonymous92

    DickyAnonymous92 Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys,

    Nice to be back with you. Just come back to update you on how I've been getting on, and ask a simple question.

    Had a wet dream last night, so is it classed as failure or not? Because I woke up and reset the counter after 9 days this time due to this happening. I'm starting to get a little annoyed because I keep telling myself I'm doing so well, then I either trigger myself off by accident or have a wet dream. I can't win!

    Here's a record of how I've been getting on since starting NoFap on this website:

    Bare in mind that there were time when I started, and I hadn't heard of NoFap. In which I lasted between 2 weeks one time, and 7 days after before these listed:

    - 21 days which ended 05/11/2015 around this time I attempt to sustain away from porn and nofap, a new start, but grabbed a hold of the chicken wrong and it were enough for my d___ to think f___ it! Had a mind of it's own. Lol.. I did have a lot of female wallpapers and basic style porn on my phone and PC at the time, but I wasn't that bothered about it all at the time. It were just strangling the d___ to much out of frustration. Around the time I did delete all of that though, to bare in mind. At the time I had the symptoms of blue balls what scared the hell out of me, vibrations and tingling sensations, which I mentioned in another post.

    - After the failure: I were p_____ off enough to not care again, and I went and kept beating my s___. Waiting for a date to start fresh, but you guys managed to convince me not to wait to start, and just start straight away as soon as I stopped fapping.

    - [6 Days] Starting fresh after the failure: I were distracted enough at work as usual to not have time to worry about fapping. Until I decided to grab my d___ wrong again! I suppose subconsciously I were trying to fap but tried to restrain myself and just grabbed my d___ wrong. So I were p_____ again at myself for making the same mistake twice out of stress.

    - [9 Days] I were a bit more confident like the 21 Day: Started straight away again after failing after 6 days. I decided to not follow the same mistakes that I did before. I refused to grab my d___ in bed at night, however I did passively look at porn styled content online and some points and didn't react during the day. So it wasn't exactly not using porn either but I've started building enough confidence to not be so bothered about it, this is probably because I've been looking into a lot of MGTOW stuff online so I don't feel like fapping and loosing my energy for nothing anymore. Went to work Saturday night, for my usual Sunday night shift, when I were in my car, I could feel vibrations in my d___ again I thought "Here we go again. With the blue balls affect." this carried on again when I walked out the car. Went to bed last night and just had a wet dream this morning! The dream were really shit to! Woke up and reset my counter! I can't win! I stopped the counter at: 9 Days 12 Hours.

    - 0 Days [9 Days if it's not classed as a fail]: Here we go again!
     
  2. JoeinMD

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    Anything involuntary, like wet dreams, doesn't count -- in fact, they are indicative of actual recovery and normal male biological functioning. Distress over normal male biology or trying to repress nature is destructive to recovery in the end.
     
  3. IGY

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    I agree with Joe, wet dreams are irrelevant and certainly do not require a reset. What we are fighting against are the intentional sexual behaviours. What happens when we are unconscious is neither here nor there, so don't worry man. :cool:
     
  4. DickyAnonymous92

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    I've f___ed it all up. Since I can't stop going back to my old ways. Every time I try and start fresh I've been thinking f___ it! I'm going back to my old ways. Sigh!
     
  5. Kyoheix

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    What happened dude? I'm concerned since I had a WD last night, maybe something got you closer to a relapse.
    Didn't you feel relieved by the nocturnal release? Don't count it as a reset, it was out of your control.

    Also, be strong in your resolve. You know why you tried this, don't let a slide get into your way. Your body deserves to be treated well.
     
  6. DickyAnonymous92

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    Hey dude! Yeah I had one, woke up and were like "Oh no." Lol. The problem I had is that it caused me to relapse. Maybe somewhere down the line I thought it were a relapse, so later that night it caused me to watch porn and I were unable to you know, without even fapping. So then it were offically a relapse! Which now I'm pretty dissapointed. But I'm going to start fresh, new month, new start. Won't let a dream stop me next time. :) Sorry for the delay dude.
     
  7. The Powerpuff Girls

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    What's a wet dream? I don't think I've ever had that before?
     
  8. Kyoheix

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    Oh, dukes. If I was awake when I had mine, I'd probably relapse too. It's great to see you back on track.
    A wet dream is when men release semen while asleep, sometimes because we're having a sexy dream, sometimes we release for no reason. We can feel it as an orgasm or sometimes it happens and we feel nothing. It's called a wet dream because that's how we wake up, wet.
     
  9. DickyAnonymous92

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    Yeah, I don't have them commonly. Only had this one as a first in a long while during NoFap. Others when I were younger. Yeah what I think it were, is because when I woke up and realized I had one, I think a part of me at the time wanted me to be able to hold my seed. So I were disappointed, which in a way is a little silly because you're body needs to release anyway. Instead of getting on with it and continuing NoFap regardlessly, a part of me must of decided to give in due to the feeling during the dream. So I went on during the day and resulted back to porn. Which were a bit of a cop out really. But I won't judge myself too harshly next time.

    I'm aware that I probably didn't explain myself properly. Basically I had a wet dream, woke up and the usual. It put me in a bad mood for some reason for the rest of the day. Then later on that day I turned back to porn and ended up thinking f__k it. But this is the weird bit, a part of me during porn still didn't want to give in to it, but I some how managed to blow my load without touching myself if that makes sense? As well as the wet dream before, in the morning. Hope I make sense. :)
     
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  10. Never_Return_There

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    WELL, DUDES HERE IS THE TACTIC :
    Since i am one that suffers from WD's very much, i mean i have them happening frequently, i had recently 3 WD's in 4 days. And they started to occur once in a week approximately, so here is the scheme. I can't tell you how to prevent them, since obviously in some cases they can be prevented, but in other there is no way, so WHEN YOU GET A WET DREAM, and you wake up, if it's time to get up already, AS FAST AS YOU CAN, GO AND TAKE A BATH, WASH YOURSELF AND POUR WATER ON YOUR HEAD WITH THE SHOWER. I mean you are going to do it anyway, but the key is to try to make it as fast as possible, since when you are awake with a wet dream and a stain on you, THE CHASER EFFECT IS ON YOU !!! BAM ! And you know what it drives you to...
    So when you take a bath, the water kind of makes your thinking clear and makes you realize yourself and the situation from a better point of view.
    Don't leave time for the relapse thoughts to begin to obsess you. I had 2 streaks ruined because of wet dreams, so i am not going to allow this to happen one more time. It's all about how much you want to be free. ;D That's what i can say.
    If you don't want them to happen at all, there are some things you can do, but it's not guaranteed that it will work every time, since sometimes they must happen.
     
  11. DickyAnonymous92

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    Dam man 3 in 4 days, that's a lot. How far into your NoFap experience are you dude? I'll try the water affect next. When I get erections tempting me, I always get out off bed and do something to distract me if it goes on too long, like lifting dumbbells or getting out and getting my shopping done, anything to take it off. Wet dreams are funny, it kinda reminds me of a girl having a period except that we only get this at night and it's more enjoyable to us. Lol.. I just found myself looking at pornographic images again this afternoon, I thought to myself "Why am I doing this if I'm not really getting anything out of it." I guess I'm chasing the high. Your brain will play any trick on you, currently back into my 6th day again. Lol

    Cheers for sharing your advice. =)
     
  12. Never_Return_There

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    ^ Yeah. This morning i had the next one, its six days from the previous. I feel very angry and irritated today, and i feel like i wanna smash something, i even feel angry at people. I want to cut my balls and eradicate my fuckin prostate, that's how much i hate them :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:. I didnt even remember if i have dreamed something, but yesterday i had big urges, so maybe its because of that... :mad:
     
  13. DickyAnonymous92

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    LMAO! Don't be hard on yourself dude. It can't be helped. Don't worry I've just failed last night, and went to sleep in a bad mood. Yet again, without fapping and no dreams either. Just posted another forum about it, you can find it here:

    http://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/i-feel-like-im-wasting-my-time.53685/

    :(
     
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  14. Never_Return_There

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    ^Alright, will check the thread later, now i gotta go out ;D
     

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