Wet Dream on normal mode? (Trigger warning)

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by wildwood, Jun 19, 2015.

  1. wildwood

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    My boyfriend had a wet dream even though we regularly have sex once week (usually 2 or even 3 times a week) with him having sometimes 2 orgasms per sex session. What I don't understand is why he would have a wet dream almost 3 months in his reboot with him regularly having sex? He also recalls his dream going from porn scenario with another woman to me and then finishing with oral sex with me, he woke up right in the middle of ejaculating. I rarely get them but that's due to lack of orgasm. Can anyone please tell me the possible reasons why he had one ( first time he ever had one too)? We were both curious.
     
  2. I dunno what's the deal with wet dreams. I'm past my 3 month reboot hardmode and I never got any, but I don't remember having hyper-sexual dreams either, so maybe that's the reason.
     
  3. wildwood

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    I totally get it actually, he tends to fantasize and ogle women (Not as much as before) and uses porn to fill the blanks (obviously if you don't know what a woman look like naked images of porn will be used). It's like taking taking snapshot to use later but since he hasn't PMO'ed or fantasized durng sex it seems like he's doing it subcociously. It's a habit that he has able to lessen but not get rid off. He needs to shut it down, this has never happened to him even in the two weeks we took for hardmode. He has been complacent lately (he has mentioned it) and I think that is the reason why. @Neil Von Schafft your reply actually had my mental wheels rolling lol Thanks Oh and the by the way I only had wet dreams after not having an orgasm for months and heavy fantasizing about my boyfriend which means I caused them. Mind blown. :eek:
     
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  4. Mitre

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    Most likely from a build up of liquid in his prostate causing his body to naturally release it, also testosterone levels are associated with wet dreams. Even with regular ejaculation it can still happen.
     
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  5. wildwood

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    If he had a build up of liquid in his prostate it would mean an infection which would make ejaculation very painful, not a wet dream. If he did have a build up from liquid it would be from overstimulating himself without release which usually discharges itself during urination. He isn't edging or watching porn, Occasional slip of fantasy is all (according to him) which needs to be controlled better. If I can now get a hold of my thoughts so can he.
     
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  6. IGY

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    Because he is having sex regularly, his reboot will slowed down considerably. In addition, fantasizing and ogling women isn't a subconscious habit. It is a deliberate act. :oops:
     
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  7. wildwood

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    I totally understand that, we decided only sex once a week, it's only recently we've had more sex in the past 2 weeks not his entire reboot. He's doing WAY better than where he was three months ago but you're right. It's nice to hear someone gives me the straight truth rather than a "he can't help it". I do appreciate it. We spoke about Karezza (sex without orgasm) and see if it works out lol but thank you for the truth I do appreciate it :) @IGY
     
  8. NoBrainer

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    Fantasizing is a deliberate act?
     
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    It is possible to still have dreams about porn months after the last PMO session. For example, some of my wet dreams are still about porn, despite not having used porn in 9 months. Just my 2 cents.
     
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  10. I also disagree that fantasizing is a deliberate act. Most of the time it's not and that what makes it very annoying.
     
  11. IGY

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    @NoBrainer question my assertion that fantasizing is a deliberate act and @Kurapika 2, you have stated the opposite view (for most times). Please let me explain my pov:

    I suspect that what you are considering is the case when we see someone we are attracted to and we begin thinking of them in sexual ways. :rolleyes: Yes, a certain amount of fantasy can occur at a subconscious level. However, I used the word fantasising according to the definition below (and expanded upon with the supplementary definition):

    Fantasize [verb] 2. to conceive pleasant or satisfying mental images | Conceive [verb] 3. to develop or form, esp in the mind she conceived a passion for music

    In my experience, what may begin as a reflex, soon becomes deliberate. It comes into the forefront of our conscious mind and we wilfully participate in the development of that fantasy to ensure we experience the maximum pay-off - usually undressing the other person, kissing them, touching them and performing sexual acts with them. :oops:

    In summary, I refer not to the first spark of fantasy which may be unconscious, but the deliberate development of that fantasy to sexual acts with that person. Do you see?
     
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  12. Mitre

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    By liquid I mean ejaculate. That's what wet dreams are used for to clear the prostate of any excess stuff and get rid of unviable sperm
     
  13. Yes , I agree that developing these fantasies after you realize them is a deliberate act.
     
  14. wildwood

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    If you aren't having regular ejaculation or orgasm than yes I would agree but not in this case. Which is why I'm asking a specific questions. In the case of someone on hardmode or lack of orgasm yes but not in his case. It's probably from his fantasizing and rationalization not due to lack of orgasm with over stimulation (maybe mental). But other than that yes fantasizing is deliberate. I used to do it, I was also an addict. It's a way of getting your fix. Anyway maybe he isn't giving all the details but I'm open to other interpretations. I'm just hoping he's being honest with me, I am his AP.
     
  15. wildwood

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    I don't mean to offend but I know when to stop fantasy in it's act. It's a habit I've formed, it's different when finding someone attractive but to imagine said person doing pornographic or sexual things. Maybe in the beginning it's automatic but 3 months into reboot? Especially if getting complacent? It is deliberate in this situation but I'm not speaking for everyone. I'm sorry if I read as pushy :oops:
     
  16. wildwood

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    I guess more fact and information along with more accounts of wet dreams while having regular sex and orgasm would help not occasional sex or relapse I mean just sex with partner multiple times a week.
     

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