wet dreams caused relapses, please help

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by frozenben, Oct 1, 2014.

  1. frozenben

    frozenben Fapstronaut

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    Hi,
    I am 24, new to the whole reboot thing. I have this problem that I feel urgent after wet dream which happens about once per week or sometimes continuous two nights . Anyway, so often I cannot carry on even my counter reached one month during which I controlled myself from few wet dreams but finally beaten by the urgent after wet dreams. I am so frustrated. Also I felt weak after having wet dreams.
    Anyone who can help me?
    Sorry if my language is strange, I am not an native English speaker.
    Thank you guys.
     
  2. jfats100

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  3. frozenben

    frozenben Fapstronaut

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    I knew these tips from internet. I tried but it doesn't work.
    Often my "wet dream" doesn't have a dream involved.
    How do you call this in English? nightfall?
    Thanks again.
     
  4. Heelhook

    Heelhook Fapstronaut

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    Got same problem , after a while i just accepted it are little bumps , just dont pmo and ur good.
     
  5. But I've read that these dreams don't restart your progress?
    I'd much rather dream instead of PMO anytime.
     
  6. IWantABetterLife22

    IWantABetterLife22 NoFap Moderator

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    Sometimes wet dreams cannot be controlled and thus cannot be avoided. They are your body's way of getting rid of excess semen. After any release of semen through any means, you can experience the "chaser effect," and that is true for wet dreams as well. So, while unfortunate, please don't blame wet dreams for relapsing. If you really don't want to relapse, and you truly control your sexual urges, wet dreams shouldn't be a problem.
     
  7. Hostage

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    Loving the sig!
     
  8. IWantABetterLife22

    IWantABetterLife22 NoFap Moderator

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  9. BetterPerson

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    Wet dreams are normal dude, it is a sign that your hand is clean too you know.
    Yeah wet dreams may comes after sexual activity in dreams so you should enjoy and no it isn't a relapse.
    It is funny many people hate it and they think it is their fault, I'm not an expert but I don't think there is a way to prevent it :)
     
  10. itsme!!

    itsme!! Fapstronaut

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    Man, this is one of the things I don't like about this movement. People seem to be so willing to berate themselves over everything!

    you seriously have next to no control over a wet dream, so why do you look for ways to punish yourself?

    Unless you just want to emotionally and mentally pummel yourself, I see no reason why you'd want to reset your counter or try and prevent these dreams.

    its just my opinion so don't take it as an attack or anything, but I seriously think too many focus on holding on to semen-rather than self improvement!!
     
  11. fightback

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    I just had one; i didn't feel a stronger urge.
     
  12. That was what I was thinking too. Another thing is, believing that you can control your sexual urges 100% may be a myth as well. At least to some degree. Only thing I know I'm really capable of, is 'observing' and that's what will get me to complete my challenge and hold me back from PMO, Edging etc.

    It still feels like forcing yourself, but it really is not.
     
  13. frozenben

    frozenben Fapstronaut

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    Thank you all guys!
    I just read a article (http://yourbrainonporn.com/doing-what-you-evolved-to-do) which explained the mechanism behind the addiction. I guess the wet dream and relapses are part of the circuit, pathway I have in my brain.
    So I will try to ignore it and rebalance myself.
     
  14. NoFapAsian

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    agreed. Just don't touch your penis. Anything else is fine.
    Not that I'm in a position to talk right now but yeah.
     
  15. frozenben

    frozenben Fapstronaut

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    Thank you man.
    I really appreciate your suggestion. Just read the article(http://yourbrainonporn.com/doing-what-you-evolved-to-do). I guess this whole thing including wet dream is a circuit, pathway causing the relapse.
    I will try to control myself to rebalance my brain.
    Thank you all guys!
     
  16. Sonu1983

    Sonu1983 Fapstronaut

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    Dont worry about wet dreams it will leave you after some time but dont relapse. wet dreams r out of control we can do anything about it. but we have control on fap. so do ur job of nofap and dont worry about ur bodys fap that is wet dream.
     

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