I joined this forum to share this very experience. I was on reddit earlier and I am on Day 56 and the journey here has been full of ups and downs. The downs include frequenting incel forums and capping 13 times a day(yes that is indeed possible).
The ups include getting a girlfriend when pre NoFap I had hardly ever talked to a girl before (Age 25). No sex yet but that will certainly follow I am sure. The confidence that Nofap gave to be more social was amazing. It essentially showed who I really was - someone who I could admire and look up to in my fap days but couldn't imagine being.
To those who are doing this to get a girl - you will understand that is not even the tip of the iceberg - the restructuring of your entire mentality (assuming your addiction was strong) is where its at - nothing is the same. Trust me on this - nofap is fighting a battle with big players - industries that won't survive if you succeed - pharmaceutical and porn. I will give a brief timeline and list the benefits subsequently:
First 5 days: Tough but an intense event (my best friend got his first girlfriend, not a no fapper btw ) made me completely jealous initially but gave me the momentum needed to stop with the 10 year habit which led to my ruin in every way - professionally personally everything. The momentum carried me through this period.
Day 5-15: Hardest by far. Had to make use of nofap forums for motivation and remind myself of what I would lose if I fapped. But some benefits shone through like a beacon to help my nofap self beat the fapper zombie in the argument.
Day 16-30: Relatively dull/event less. No real threat but no new superpower. Signs of stagnation. By this time I started talking to girls though - an ability I acquired early on but had a chance to practice in this duration.
Day 31-45: Got signals of girls being fond of me - two specifically, one of which I liked back. Started talking for longer periods with confidence (wouldn't have happened in fap period). Was more or less sure of there being a move from either of us at some time.
Day 46-55 : Successfully proposed and went out. Made out in a secluded area after. Nothing else but the big confidence block of never being able to get a girl is certainly gone. Doubts as to my attractiveness I realized were largely artificial - there are so many indicators and everyone can hone on some strength. But certain ideologies prevent us from believing in that and put us in a rut. I am glad I had NoFap to pull me out. I will take the streak till sex/90 days whichever is earlier.
List of benefits more or less in order of appearance:
1. Burst of energy
2. Voice gets deeper
3. Changes in appreciation of music/art in general
4. Social anxiety reduced
5. Feel healthier
6. Brain fog gone- as if I became intelligent suddenly
7. Productivity increased.
8. Concentration increased.
9. Interacted with girls without hesitation(Just knew what to say)
10. More intuitive than over think
There are many more which I will describe when I remember. These were the most prominent ones.
PS: How many changes you notice depends on how bad your addiction was. For me it was absolutely terrible averaging about 3/day for some 8 years then probably 2/day for two more. I had tried nofap earlier and failed but the intense event I mentioned was really a catapult - just fins yours.
The ups include getting a girlfriend when pre NoFap I had hardly ever talked to a girl before (Age 25). No sex yet but that will certainly follow I am sure. The confidence that Nofap gave to be more social was amazing. It essentially showed who I really was - someone who I could admire and look up to in my fap days but couldn't imagine being.
To those who are doing this to get a girl - you will understand that is not even the tip of the iceberg - the restructuring of your entire mentality (assuming your addiction was strong) is where its at - nothing is the same. Trust me on this - nofap is fighting a battle with big players - industries that won't survive if you succeed - pharmaceutical and porn. I will give a brief timeline and list the benefits subsequently:
First 5 days: Tough but an intense event (my best friend got his first girlfriend, not a no fapper btw ) made me completely jealous initially but gave me the momentum needed to stop with the 10 year habit which led to my ruin in every way - professionally personally everything. The momentum carried me through this period.
Day 5-15: Hardest by far. Had to make use of nofap forums for motivation and remind myself of what I would lose if I fapped. But some benefits shone through like a beacon to help my nofap self beat the fapper zombie in the argument.
Day 16-30: Relatively dull/event less. No real threat but no new superpower. Signs of stagnation. By this time I started talking to girls though - an ability I acquired early on but had a chance to practice in this duration.
Day 31-45: Got signals of girls being fond of me - two specifically, one of which I liked back. Started talking for longer periods with confidence (wouldn't have happened in fap period). Was more or less sure of there being a move from either of us at some time.
Day 46-55 : Successfully proposed and went out. Made out in a secluded area after. Nothing else but the big confidence block of never being able to get a girl is certainly gone. Doubts as to my attractiveness I realized were largely artificial - there are so many indicators and everyone can hone on some strength. But certain ideologies prevent us from believing in that and put us in a rut. I am glad I had NoFap to pull me out. I will take the streak till sex/90 days whichever is earlier.
List of benefits more or less in order of appearance:
1. Burst of energy
2. Voice gets deeper
3. Changes in appreciation of music/art in general
4. Social anxiety reduced
5. Feel healthier
6. Brain fog gone- as if I became intelligent suddenly
7. Productivity increased.
8. Concentration increased.
9. Interacted with girls without hesitation(Just knew what to say)
10. More intuitive than over think
There are many more which I will describe when I remember. These were the most prominent ones.
PS: How many changes you notice depends on how bad your addiction was. For me it was absolutely terrible averaging about 3/day for some 8 years then probably 2/day for two more. I had tried nofap earlier and failed but the intense event I mentioned was really a catapult - just fins yours.
