What Alternates are there that can calm you down when you want porn?

Looking at any type of sexual content even if it’s aloud in society is not a good idea for your addiction. After all if you think about it, society is already moving towards that, heck there is porngraphic content on Netflix that kids could easily access that isn’t considered porn Bc it has a plot, meaning, and artistic aspects. So basically, you can’t trust what society puts says is acceptable because all the time it’s moving towards porn or real movie sex as an artistic and accepted thing. Plus, watching anything sexual at all can inflame urges and make them worse.

So here is what I recommend you do to get through urges: skill building such as juggling, handstands, martial arts, ect. Something to get your mind working and that takes a while to master due to muscle memory development/trial and error. Something to work on that will make you feel good after finally mastering it. Instruments and music also can help, but I’ve found more physical activities to be more effective.
Also doing community exercise like CrossFit. My CrossFit gym just opened back up where I am. even social distancing and all, it’s still a blast.

If you are in good shape and feel good about yourself and feel accomplished, getting through urges will be easier.

also get a girlfriend! That pretty much always helps!

 

I'm increasingly realising that there is no single thing that will replace all of the urges that are 'fulfilled' by pmo.
So we need to develop the self-awareness to understand exactly why it is that we 'want porn'. Like what specific need/want is not being met?

If it is triggered by loneliness - get out of the house, meet a friend or just hang around in a cafe/park. Ring someone.
If it is a habit caused by idle internet browsing - turn off the computer!
If you are horny/filled with sexual energy - do a vigorous workout to exhaustion. or go for a run.
If you are stressed or depressed - meditate. Read a book (something edifying/absorbing), even watch TV (careful about triggers ... nature documentaries are your friend).
If you are feeling emasculated and want to feel like a real man - go pump some iron, or go fishing, or light a fire or something

The solutions are not hard to come up with, but the hard part is really being honest about yourself about what is really behind your 'wanting' porn. It might be quite subtle. It's likely a combination of things, and triggered by the time of day, the place you are or the people you are with (or not with). It probably comes down to habit above everything else.