What are some of your triggers?

Youtube is a trigger and convincing myself to have a sneak peek of explicit material. If you look at something then it would be harder to resist so best thing is to stay away completely.

 

Would it help our thinking to separate "trigger" into three parts.
When you put your finger on the trigger of a gun, it is to shoot. When you take your gun out, it may be to clean it, or show it, or sell it, or shoot it. Many options are on the table. Taking out the gun is necessary to shoot it, it is a preparation or setting the stage. Around it all is how we are feeling.
I think something similar happens with PMO. We have feelings of success or failure, loneliness or friendship, happiness or depression. From that position, there are preparations that we make, things we do so that PMO could happen. These things aren't so much triggers cause a reaction, as an opening the door to the option. We keep our options open and set the stage for it. We are active participants in setting the stage for PMO, and we can unset it, by moving our laptop upstairs, sleeping on the floor, getting up when we wake up, taking shorter, colder showers . . .
There is something else, something small that sets off an immediate reaction. Suddenly we have one hand on our mouse and the other one in our pants. Something snapped our resistance, and we lost it. Occasionally we can regain our composure and stop mid-fap.
Rarely do we try very hard to understand the steps that got us there.
1. What were our emotions, our attitude?
2. How did we set the stage so that we could relapse?
3. What set us off?

1. I think we can be aware of our "dangerous emotions" and work to help them. Change our dead end thinking behind them, or get help from friends and others. If I feel lonely, a failure, depressed, angry, mistreated, I am i danger of relapse.
2. I think we can most easily act in resetting the stage in order to make PMO more difficult. We can remove electronics from our bedrooms, use K-9, take off our bedroom door, cut the hot water to the shower, be with others, use Covenant Eyes, . . . Many things can help, and we can fix them while we are thinking coolly, not feeling strong urges.
3. I think the real trigger is some subconscious connection that we make between our old experience, our present reality, and our desire. The three come together, and BANG, we are off to the races, panting and stroking. As long as we desire it, we run the risk of getting what we desire.

 

Thanks. This isn't my first day here or the first time that I have thought about it.

 

If you hadn't started this thread and brought it along with your openness, none of us would have anything here to comment on. Thank you for doing your part.
Keep up the good work, and you might consider making your basement into a less fap-friendly space.

 

my triggers are being alone, depressed so I want to hurt myself in some way, boredom, having no purpose in life essentially, pausing the disaster of my whole life. After I have been left by my last guy I went straight to porn again coz I thought "all my efforts to be a better person have no value now"

 

Whenever I see "Dating Advice" ads online. It's weird because porn is the farthest thing from actually being in a relationship with someone.

 

Idleness is definitely my biggest trigger. Whenever I'm alone or get bored the urges seem to come more easily. To offset this I try to keep busy by being productive or doing something else. My last few relapses have been caused in some way or another by being idle.

 

Fight it!
It feels good to feel sexy. Enjoy the feeling. When you fap, you drain it with a bang, but soon you don't feel so good. Resist PMO and enjoy the healthy sexy feeling.

 

Clickbait ads with a caption, "You'll never believe what this cameraman caught," and a woman in a seductive pose.

 

hey so i don't think you should consider this as a trigger cause it's actually our normal guy brain... like much before you had discovered porn you found girls attractive didn't u... so that's normal just appreciating and thinking about them is okay cause of course you are gonna think about that.. actual pmo is the thing we don't want

 

The biggest one for me is the bed i would prevent myself from using the mobile in bed so i go like a horse with days with no relapsing but when i use my mobile in bed I immediately having urges and it causes me to relapse. So the biggest trigger for most of us is bed. Do not use any kind of device in bed.

 

Skimpy clothes turn me on, i am sick of looking at girls exposing their body on social media. For some reason, i am unable to unfollow them all although i did get rid of majority of them but i want to keep things a little spicy and i know it's dangerous but without that my feed would look bland.

 

How about you delete your feed. You want to win, right? Nobody needs your feed.

 

When I wake up after a sex dream with a morning boner. It's fight from there on out to not to go computer and fap.

 

I've got so many triggers... feet, some kind of ballet flats, leather leggings, cute hands with nail varnish, sometimes even perfumes... Or having access to internet, most of all when it's without any parental control or porn locker... Gymnastic girls, yoga girls, TV models, mermaids, stockings, skirts, some kind of boots... Even if a woman starts to play with a whip is triggering...

 

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