silex_jedi
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hi, i was wondering if some specialists about addiction could help us. if you have made some research, or learned based on significant amount of different experiences please answer. addiction specialists, or "enlightened addicts" (you have some scientific or even spiritual sources, but please try not to be too esoteric please).
what makes the difference between someone who is successful at recovery and someone like me whose quality of life seems to keep going down because of this plague?
there must be patterns!
i have some ideas i have stolen from the "12 Steps", but i need help:
if there is some other thread that covers that sorry for the redundancy, i'll remove this. i might not be the best student, but i hope some well informed people, together can answer these questions. thank you very much.
what makes the difference between someone who is successful at recovery and someone like me whose quality of life seems to keep going down because of this plague?
there must be patterns!
i have some ideas i have stolen from the "12 Steps", but i need help:
- certainly maintained abstinence is the key.
- how long?
- how intense: complete dopamine detox/retreat vs only PMO abstinence?
- how to deal with triggers?
- how much to cut off from relapse source? especially if the object of relapse is your own body!
- dealing with withdrawal:
- how?
- acknowledgement:
- talk to people about our condition?
- how necessary is that? it must be because we can't be lying even about that can we?
- inventory/reconciliation: trying to fix the bad we have done,
- what can be done?
- what can't?
- social connection/support:
- what is the role of others in that? we need others, but in the end it's US who must recover, they are only help, not the bearers of our pain.
- how to deal with isolation? porn is a very isolating drug i believe. i mean, smoking or coffee are "work compatible" you know. i isolated myself mostly of shame. easier to hide than bear the look of others knowing what i have done.
- building healthy alternatives:
- how to when the motivation has been depleted by this disease?
- what to aim for?
if there is some other thread that covers that sorry for the redundancy, i'll remove this. i might not be the best student, but i hope some well informed people, together can answer these questions. thank you very much.