What are your biggest challenges with women?

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  1. vibemaker

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    Hey guys,

    I'm currently researching for a personal study.

    I would highly appreciate it, if you would answer the following questions.

    1. What are your biggest challenges when it comes to meeting other women (approaching & dating)?
    2. What are your biggest fears when it comes to approach a women you don't know? And what are your biggest fears when it comes to taking out a women you just met?
    3. If there would be a really good course about 'getting good with women' which problems would you really like to be solved by that course?
    4. Do you see your shyness with women as a huge barrier for your success and why?
    5. Do you think being an introvert is ruining your dating life?
    6. What do you think women like most in men?
    7. What do you think you need to change in yourself and your personality to get all the women you desire most?


    Thanks a lot & stay free.

    Best,

    VM
     
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  2. red gyarados

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    Getting my bf% low enough and taking good pics for my OLD profile.

    edit: also finances
     
  3. 1. The women who I'm interested wouldn't really go to typical places where you meet women (clubs and parties), so I just assume that almost all women at those places aren't my type.
    2. If a girl excessively drinks and loves getting drunk. Really quickly lose interest in people who drink super heavily. Additionally, if she's drunk she's more prone to do something really awful and will regret.
    3. How to tell if a woman is interested in you, easily the biggest setback in my opinion.
    4. I can text like the most confident man on earth but really rarely talk and start up a conversation with them in person, they usually have to do it first.
    5. It certainly hinders it but the women I'm really interested in will find a way to get past it.
    6. Their charisma / presence in a room.
    7. My confidence when it comes to approaching women in person, and how easily jealous I get. I could text a girl all night and we talk a little bit in the morning, but get really frustrated when she talks to a friend of mine really briefly and it shows when we text.
     
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  4. KOD19

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    1. The biggest challenge is personal anxiety and fear of rejection. I know the interaction won't be as bad as I think but I would really say ego gets in the way.
    2. I have to get out of my own way. I start thinking too much about the kind of person they are and finding excuses not to talk to them. Biggest fear is that it is super awkward.
    3. Approach anxiety and attracting women to come up to you first.
    4. No. I can attract women I'm not attracted to. If I wanted to, I could be successful with them.
    5. Hell yes
    6. Confidence
    7. I need to be less judgemental, get over myself/my ego, not take myself so seriously, and accept that there are plenty of women out there that I am attracted to and that women are attracted to me if I let them.
     
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  5. Pedro Neto

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    [Man how do you approach a girl if you have white hairs in good quantity and how to start conversation and make her like you. I want to approach girl to make gf and how to get rid of nervousness while talking to girl.I get really nervous and run out of words to say even before your hot sister.how to be more confident and less nervous and by what mindset you could hold eye contact.
     
  6. vibemaker

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    1. White hairs don't matter. I heard a lot of women say they actually find men who already have white or grey hair very attractive.
    2. You start a conversation by saying "hello". It is really that simple.
    3. You can get rid of your nervousness, by starting to work on yourself. Practice meditation regulary. Leave your comfort zone as often as possible. Work on a goal that is not women related.
    4. It's easy to hold eye contact if you get rid of your porn habit. It really just comes naturally then.
     
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  7. Der Drachenkönig

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    1. Personally: Putting walls between me and people, which causes me to come across sometimes as scary to some. It changes one you've talked to me for a while. That and the fact i tend to emote little (i do just not very much) could be a challenge in this case.
    2. I try the best i can to not view this person as girlfriend material the moment i meet her. I used to make that mistake a lot when i was younger. Once i got that out of the way i find any excuse as to initiate a conversation. Could be asking for the time or a detail i noticed. The first conversation doesn't necessarily need to have a date as a goal.
    3. I do not believe in those courses, for the most part i find them a waste of time and many of the ones i see seem to view women as robots or machines with an instruction manual. Which i find absurd. But in order to answer this question i would say build confidence and the best version of yourself. The rest should come naturally
    4. I used to believe this, and used to be a lot more shy in the past. But i understood being single has nothing to do with being succesful. In fact the term "success" is very subjective and depends heavily on the values each person has.
    5. I am an introvert yet i am not sure on how to answer this question. I don't find a problem with being an introvert really.
    6. For the most part confidence and living a life of your own which you can feel good about living, partner or not.
    7. I personally don't care about "getting all the women i want" and honestly that is not what i desire. What i'd answer this question is would be becoming more open, being more expressive, being more welcoming and not put armed walls between me and other people. I'm working on becoming a better human being, i believe along the way someone i can be happy with and share my life with may appear. Something wholesome and fulfilling.
     
  8. quit@porn

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    1.The biggest problem for me is to start conversation... ( male ego) and fear of not getting nit good response leave about rejection..
    2. Frankly now I can understand, after nofap that women could have easily read guys.
    Really now I know I used to see girls only from one angle ( physical)
    3.sometimes I feel that my xonvy is out of sink with the girls. I sometimes go on to much of talk on bigger things than they enjoying lighter things ( like hanging out, markets and all) which I find difficult .
    4 introvert yes it does hamper.
    Changes: need to be seen as responsible, need to start first, initiative from my side.
    Try to be less philosophical. Haha
     
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    1. What are your biggest challenges when it comes to meeting other women (approaching & dating)?
    - less convidience
    - introvert personality

    2. What are your biggest fears when it comes to approach a women you don't know? And what are your biggest fears when it comes to taking out a women you just met?

    Approachfear:
    - Rejection because you are not good enough or ugly
    - Her friend is around you didn't recognized and he gets angry

    Meeting women:
    - She finds out, that you are a loser
    - She is bored und you have during the complete date the feelting that she wants to quit asap

    3. If there would be a really good course about 'getting good with women' which problems would you really like to be solved by that course?
    - Dealing with rejection
    - Built up selfestime

    4. Do you see your shyness with women as a huge barrier for your success and why?
    5. Do you think being an introvert is ruining your dating life?
    yes

    6. What do you think women like most in men?
    - convidience
    - social men with many friends and very communication
    - alpha male behaviour

    7. What do you think you need to change in yourself and your personality to get all the women you desire most?
    - complete look has to be changed
    - buit up convidience
     
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    1. What are your biggest challenges when it comes to meeting other women (approaching & dating)?

    - Initial nerves cold approaching
    - Showing interest/asking for a number once conversation has started

    2. What are your biggest fears when it comes to approach a women you don't know? And what are your biggest fears when it comes to taking out a women you just met?

    - Fear of rejection with approaching
    - I find less fear with dating itself: fear of running out of talking points would be No.1 but nothing compared to initial approach stuff above

    3. If there would be a really good course about 'getting good with women' which problems would you really like to be solved by that course?

    - Logical explanation of biological reasons why fear of rejection manifests, and how it can be acknowledged but does not need to be accepted as truth or inevitable

    4. Do you see your shyness with women as a huge barrier for your success and why?

    Yes, when I am shy I don't take as many risks socially, which gives me far less opportunities to meet women. The reverse is true if I stay away from 'fake' online women (porn/social media), the desire outweighs the nerves more often.

    5. Do you think being an introvert is ruining your dating life?

    Not long ago I would have considered myself an introvert, and in retrospect I was not that great of a dating prospect for women.

    I believe trying to be more social is important for dating passively and actively. Passively by casually learning communication skills, norms, and habits, and actively by simply creating more opportunities to meet women in the process.

    6. What do you think women like most in men?

    - A drive/passion: not just a job, but a few things they are passionate about i.e. values and interests
    - A desire for their partner
    - Masculine traits

    7. What do you think you need to change in yourself and your personality to get all the women you desire most?

    - Continue developing myself (social, health, career, etc.)

    - Show my desire towards real women only (strenthen the neural wiring pathways for meeting real women, while ignoring and weakening the old neural pathways for looking at fake images online)
     
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