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What are your one-word motivations to fap?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Flash, May 27, 2014.

  1. Flash

    Flash Fapstronaut

    I've been thinking about what motivates me to masturbate and I've boiled them down to one-word descriptions. It's kind of work in progress, but I reckon if I understand my motivations/triggers at this simplest level it will help me be more mindful of my urges and desires in the future.

    Here they are:

    • procrastination
    • boredom
    • stress
    • lust
    So, do these ring true to you? What are your one-word fap motivations?
     
  2. NotAfraid

    NotAfraid Fapstronaut

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    Wouldn't it be better to talk about one-word motivations to not masturbate?
     
  3. Flash

    Flash Fapstronaut

    Hi NotAfraid.

    I think it's important to understand the root causes of a behaviour in order to stop it, and that boiling a whole load of thoughts and ideas down to simple expressions of those causes might be a useful exercise.

    I take your point though, maybe motivations is the wrong word here.
     
  4. NotAfraid

    NotAfraid Fapstronaut

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    What if we do both? Wouldn't that give us a nice contrast about what want and what we don't want.

    One-word motivation to fap:
    -Anxiety
    -Depression (it's also a consequence, so it's a vicious cycle)
    -Losing
    -Solitude
    -Awkwardness
    -Pain
    -Darkness

    One-word motivation to nofap:
    -Pureness
    -Control
    -Assertiveness
    -Manhood
    -Power
    -Energy
    -Direction
    -Will
    -Development
    -Winning
    -Growing
     
  5. For me, I think the biggest one-word motivation I have to fap is "sadness". That's usually when it hits. I do it to avoid feeling sad. And like NotAfraid said, then it's a cycle that keeps going down, down, down.

    My current one-word motivation for NoFap is "choice." It's my choice to go down that road. Or I can go down the road of actually embracing the sadness. The sadness will pass on it's own, naturally. But it's not immediate, so it's harder to make that choice. But so much good comes with making the right choice, it's just hard to see when I'm blinded by sadness.
     
  6. Markguy

    Markguy Fapstronaut

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    The motivations listed above all have affected me. Sometimes regret or inferiority (when I allow it) can also trigger.

    One-word motivation to nofap:
    - Pride
    - Dignity
    - Purpose
     
  7. Flash

    Flash Fapstronaut

    Guys, thanks for sharing, you've got some really humbling, self-aware words there. I've been thinking of my nofap motivations. I'm going with these three:

    • Focus (away from porn)
    • Commitment (to the relationship with my wife)
    • Sensitise (my body after the harmful effects of porn)
     

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