Hey, I'm new around here even though I'm 61 days into Hard Mode.
I've been having urges as of late and haven't hit the flatline I thought I would have 61 days in.
My girlfriend is really supportive and she's been helping me for almost 2 years now with some success, until I discovered NoFap earlier this year and decided to try out Hard Mode. I relapsed once like 19 days in or something and then never relapsed again (probably because of my efforts to avoid pornography in the past, which made my mind more resilient).
Now, I really want to hit the flatline and I know it's different for everyone which means I may not have hit it when I finish this 90 day challenge.
My question is: after 90 days, if I don't feel any better than I do now, is it safe to switch to Standard Mode? Being in a relationship and doing Hard Mode is kind of hard. My girlfriend doesn't really mind, we are not in a huge hurry, but it would be nice if we could start having sex when I finish this challenge. It sort of seems like an objective for me. Since I'm not experiencing any meaningful side effects from rebooting thus far, I think knowing that I can at least have sex when this is over helps me finish it easier, instead of thinking that I will have to wait for the flatline to begin and end and I won't know when that's going to happen, which makes it harder for me to focus. It's kinda like this pandemic we're all going through. If we knew it would end by December, we would be prepared for it in our minds and it would make it easier, but the uncertainty it brings is what really makes it terrible. Who knows when it's going back to normal? The same is true for my battle. I don't know when I've won, and I don't feel like I'm winning right now, even though some urges are easier to control. If anyone has any input on this I would very much appreciate it. I know that the mentality of rewarding my accomplishment with sex is wrong, but that's not what I want to be thinking, I don't think of it as a prize, more so as a way of living in a healthier relationship after I've completed a challenge.
Thanks in advance for the responses and sorry if this is the wrong forum to post this thread in.
I've been having urges as of late and haven't hit the flatline I thought I would have 61 days in.
My girlfriend is really supportive and she's been helping me for almost 2 years now with some success, until I discovered NoFap earlier this year and decided to try out Hard Mode. I relapsed once like 19 days in or something and then never relapsed again (probably because of my efforts to avoid pornography in the past, which made my mind more resilient).
Now, I really want to hit the flatline and I know it's different for everyone which means I may not have hit it when I finish this 90 day challenge.
My question is: after 90 days, if I don't feel any better than I do now, is it safe to switch to Standard Mode? Being in a relationship and doing Hard Mode is kind of hard. My girlfriend doesn't really mind, we are not in a huge hurry, but it would be nice if we could start having sex when I finish this challenge. It sort of seems like an objective for me. Since I'm not experiencing any meaningful side effects from rebooting thus far, I think knowing that I can at least have sex when this is over helps me finish it easier, instead of thinking that I will have to wait for the flatline to begin and end and I won't know when that's going to happen, which makes it harder for me to focus. It's kinda like this pandemic we're all going through. If we knew it would end by December, we would be prepared for it in our minds and it would make it easier, but the uncertainty it brings is what really makes it terrible. Who knows when it's going back to normal? The same is true for my battle. I don't know when I've won, and I don't feel like I'm winning right now, even though some urges are easier to control. If anyone has any input on this I would very much appreciate it. I know that the mentality of rewarding my accomplishment with sex is wrong, but that's not what I want to be thinking, I don't think of it as a prize, more so as a way of living in a healthier relationship after I've completed a challenge.
Thanks in advance for the responses and sorry if this is the wrong forum to post this thread in.