I've been fighting porn addiction for a long time. It has ruined my relationship with sex and masturbation. I want to quit permanently for the foreseeable future and create a life that isn't dependent on orgasm. I have the DESIRE to quit. Yet I feel like I am not in control of my actions because I give into urges. What can I do when I get an urge to ensure I NEVER give in? How can I confront urges without fear but look them in the face and say "no thank you." It hurts me that I want to retain my semen but I can't do it. Do I not want it badly enough? How do I not give into urges? How can I transmute the energy into better things? I've read many posts about it but nothing seems to work. Anybody have a similar issues and overcome them? bonus question - what are some affirmations i can use when i feel tempted?