What do I do with all energy?

Hi Guys,

Sometimes I got too much energy and emotions that I feel I can scream or just get aggressive or just want to work-out or just feel happiness and that life is a adventure and becoming impulsive and funny. Later I can feel very tired or just exhausted. As you see it is very much as a rollercoaster. I feel that the semen retention is a powerful tool that need to me managed correctly.

I would need your advices and help in how to process all the energy and feelings?

Today, I am meditating, working out at home with pushups and situps, talking to girls and going on dates (without the help of apps like tinder or social media), reading books and just trying to think slower in order to not relapse.

all help or suggestions is much appreciated! Have a wonderful day without porn and I wish everybody peace in mind.

 

Thanks a lot I think you are 100 % right. it is simple but hard to do in real life. I need to start , little by little. Great advise. I really appreciate it.

 

Thanks for the advice. But no Gym. Before I trained very seriouse for around 5 years with 5 days a week. I really don´t like the gym anymore , that is why I train at home for the moment. However, I will try to play tennis with my friend , when I play tennis I forget about the world and only focus o the game.

True! I need to be more mindful, but it is hard. Feelings and thoughts sometimes take over my life. I am a social person but if a bad feeling or thought comes, it can somtimes take over but in reality it is just a emotion in your head. It got nothing to do with my current status in life. :/ What are your tips in how to be more mindful? What have helped you?

Thanks again for your support!

 

Hey man!
Thanks a lot for your long and dedicated text.
I did a lot of strenth training with dumbells etcetera. I was like a spartan bodywise but no there is no motivation nor do I have that mindset anymore.

Yeah I do meditation 10 min in the morning and night since 5 years ago . It is crucial for me just to get a nice morning and good night routine. I always just focus on the breathing or my thoughts, I think that is so good to take you tie and feel how you are feeling like happy, sad, stressed, sad , anxiety or whatever. However, I will try to do diffrent types of meditations as you say. It is always good to change from time to time.

The last part of your text have really changed my day, especially today and I am very greatefull for this. I was at work and had a discussion with my collegue and it resulted bad. So instead of becoming more angry because we had a fight and what he and I did wrong etcetera as I usually do. I just thought no, stop, what am I feeling? Just follow my emotions and se what happens. So during the 10 first minutes I was angry , I just wanted to start a fight again with him. after 20 min , I was sad , very low mood and not able to smile to anybody. And after 30 min I was hopefull and acutally did not even care no more about our fight or who was right or wrong. finally 30 min later he started to talk with me again and after 2 hours we where friends again.

This really blew my mind that in 30 min you can feel profound feelings of anger, sadness and hopefullness. This is first time in my life when I really watched how my thought and emotions patterns are.

 

I understand what you say but it is not so easy to think normally when you are not normal , what I mean you cannot live your life normally when you are an addict.

My normal thinking has kept me as an addict to porn, dating webistes and fast sex. What I need to do is to think in a new way so I will continue porn and online dating free. Today I am 6 day free of porn if I make it over 7 days it will be record for med because the latest 6 months have been bad.

 

Hi all,

I am 14 days PMO free even if my plan was only to be porn free. I feel so good but as well very sensitive with all my feelings.

However, I just want to share that I have realised that the most important thing is to be honest with your feelings in public, with people and friends. To have the guts to tell someone direct if they hurt your feelings. It is really hard for me to do but I have realised if you do not tell people off you will not be respected. To be quite and strong is not the answer. The answer is to show emotions, be vulnerable and tell people that it is not ok. Even to be mad is ok if that is what you feel. As well, never be afraid to be excluded if you feel hurt and want to react. If a person or persons are treating you bad you should always stand up for yourself.

And the funny thing is that people respect it, my colleagues at work have improved and they say that they are sorry. I accept that I am sensitive and I let people know that I am sensitive as well so they know how to treat me in the future.

This is so hard to do and I have a long way to go, but I know it is the right way. To many years of porn have made me passive. Belive it or not but before I was a "bad boy" when I was a teenager. I showed anger and aggression which is not a mature way but still better than to be quiet. But I lost that power once porn/ escort/ internet dating took over my life. It is really sad but 100% true. I understand that now, I need to be honest with my feelings. Otherwise porn will be my comfort of all feelings/energy inside of me.

 

Thank you for the video, however I did not found it helpfull in my case.

 

Thank you! you are correct. I guess I am changing and becoming a diffrent person

 

Yes, you are right! It is important to be strong when you are feeling low/ urges/ boredom.

 

Thank you for your post. However, I think I really need to live my life diffrently, that is actually why I am 18 days without Porn. If I would just go on with life as usual I would relapse long time ago.