What do people do all day?

I'm sorry

 

Alyosha, it's kind of amazing to me to read your post on what do people do all day. I'm quite a bit older than you but have been working through this myself recently. In fact, I think it's possible that I have had panic attacks on days off trying to figure out what to do with myself. Nothing seems good enough. Nothing seems to overcome my negative inertia enough to make me want to do it.

I have wondered if part of my problem is that P and M have taken away my ability to enjoy simple pleasures in life. When I am bored and frustrated I tend toward P and M. The "high" from those exceeds anything else I might do with my time. Next time I am bored and frustrated, instead of thinking about say, a walk, I compare that to P and M, perhaps subconsciously, and a walk comes up seriously lacking.

Anyway, it's nice to read someone else struggle with this, though I am sorry you do. But I guess it's true that misery loves company.

 

Hi Aloysha, it's Siloam Levi - remember me? I complained about this very problem several months ago under my new username: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/nothing-to-do-all-day.53911/

See what you think of that thread. I reckon @nfprogress' advice is the most valuable.

 

I guess you've found the answer then and additionally you've integrated an improved perspective into your life by temporarily eliminating your worries and thoughts before you go to sleep.

Life happens in cycles. High performance is followed by periods of recovery, that's natural and a reason not to beat yourself up for having done "nothing". Doing nothing is sometimes refreshing and a way of recovery. It helps you to take a step back and create a reflective space for the past.

Only we can get confused sometimes because of how we are engaged with the influences of the world, not the world itself. So don't hesitate to take a step back sometimes and get a refreshed vision of your life and goals. Or just a break.