What do you Consider a Relapse?

I find that the benchmark for having relapsed is very variable amongst us Fapstronauts, and was wondering what different people considered to be the point during PMO at which they have relapsed.

Obviously there is a list of different scenarios that could be a relapse, from viewing one picture of porn to a full blown PMO.

My issue is that I have been a hardcore porn addict for almost six years and I find completely cutting out porn almost impossible. Am I being too hard on myself resetting my counter if I look at porn for 5 minutes without fapping?

I feel like when I've used this strict method it has actually led to 'worse' relapses because once I have viewed the pictures, my horny brain thinks "hey, you've relapsed, why not just fully PMO now?"

For me personally, sex doesn't come into it, as my extreme PIED and AIED make it almost impossible to have sex at the moment.

It's hard to strike a balance between being too hard on myself when I'm making progress and being too easy on myself and not considering edging a relapse.

I'd love to know anyone's thoughts on this, because it really is difficult for me to set the mark and to know when I've crossed the line. More than anything I want a clean streak with no questionable moments where I maybe should have reset the counter.

Would love to hear your thoughts,
Noah