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What do you do when you feel a strong urge coming?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by UnironicallySigma, Aug 3, 2021.

  1. UnironicallySigma

    UnironicallySigma Fapstronaut

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    I used to do pullups or bench press when I was really trying to quit. Curious what you all do to help curve urges.
     
  2. rekluse

    rekluse Fapstronaut

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    Haven't really had super strong urges very often, usually I just let em go and let em pass with time and focus, but when I get those really strong urges I like to listen to a powerful, hype asf motivating song (like forces lol) and go for a run or some pushups. Makes you feel like a king
     
  3. Asdor22

    Asdor22 Fapstronaut

    Meditation, workout and cold showers/
     
  4. Ekhangel

    Ekhangel Fapstronaut

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    This (from a movie about sex addiction that I recommend [though it contains numerous triggers]):



    Nah, in reality I just get up and look outside the window.
     
  5. Quezatolah

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    I use a technique I invented called the triple happiness technique, I pick one thing in the future I'm looking forward to, one thing in the past I'm happy about and one thing in my surroundings that make me happy in the present, takes 30-60 seconds to finish the above.

    I find the urge is gone when I do that and the effect lasts a few hours.

    There is an empty void that you're trying to use porn to fill, once you're genuinely happy that void is filled and the urge leaves.

    I'm currently on day 7 so it's working so far, but the trick is not to overuse it and the best way to prevent urges is to have emotional balance throughout the day.
     
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  6. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    I mostly use reason and remember how bad it feels to break a streak.
    It's been a long time without urges. The more urges you beat the stronger you get and less urges you have, until you have none.
     
  7. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    Also the point is to avoid an urge to appear, urges don't come up ll of the sudden they are a the product of a long sexual tension build up.

    I made this thoughts about how never to have an urge

    What is an urge and what causes it?
    The urge is a mental and physical tension build up in a streak caused by an excess of sexual energy that is not balanced meaning in men an excess of male energy with a lack of female energy to balance it up so this creates a physical need to get rid of the excessive energy meaning excess semen, even too much of a good thing if it is not balanced can be troublesome. Women usually don’t have many urges because feminine energy is calmer and passive it’s not as violent as the male energy. Also male energy semen has a tendency to go out trough ejaculation for procreation and female energy has the tendency to remain in women’s body so they create children.

    The urge can be called in western terms
    Prostate congestion
    too much buildup semen in the prostate so the body feels a need to ejaculate to release tension this will create different symptoms like body tension, nervousness, anxiety, fatigue, mental fog, lack of focus, constant thoughts about sex, being easily triggered and other autonomic symptoms like vomiting and even feeling like you want to fade. This is your body and mind telling you they need this sexual energy to be balanced or simply lose it through ejaculation. You are being attacked by your own body and mind.

    The cure : As you can see urges are not an immediate and imminent symptom that comes from nowhere it’s the result of accumulated sexual tension is a chronic problem. So you can see the cure is not an immediate treatment you need to treat the main cause, you need to avoid coming to the point of being in such a sexual imbalance so the urge does not come out.

    PERMANENT WAYS TO HAVE NO URGES
    Awareness:
    Recognize the urge is starting to build up, you have to be aware of yourself everyday if you are starting to feel tense like little tiny urges then you know you are creating sexual tension.

    Relax: Once you realized urges are starting to build up you need to be relaxed. Ejaculation comes with tension, a relaxed man both in body and mind doesn’t ejaculate so this translates in no urges. Urges are build up tension, so start by building up relaxation. Simply focus on your breath, relax your face and have good posture, let your thoughts come and go. Be relaxed all the time it doesn't matter how hard life gets.

    How to be relaxed:The point is to be relaxed in anything you do simply focusing on your breath and relaxing your face is enough. You can try meditation focusing on your breath, yoga, exercise. But the point is to simply be relaxed without doing anything special, it becomes part of who you are.

    CONCLUSION
    -Understand what causes urges and what they are:
    build up sexual tension that the body and mind is trying to get rid of by making you feel sick so you ejaculate.
    -Awareness: realize sexual tension is starting to appear don’t wait until the urge is too strong to recognize it.
    -Relax: the cause is sexual tension you fight with relaxation be a relaxed person and you’ll never have urges no more.
     

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