What do you do when you get extremely horny?

Hey buddy
I am often very horny as you but today i researched about how ro overcome this time
But first if all never arouse yourself by all means or do anything that can trigger you
Secondly when you are extremly horny you a have to sit with others never be alone in that time also when i became horny i pray and confess with ever weakness in me to god and you can try meditation and taking deep breaths it helps alot and you can distract yourself by anythung and if you can go outside it will be much better

 

I eat something gross.

This can be something healthy, like taking the stuff out of the capsule from a nutritional supplement, ideally something that is very bitter or just weird. I hold it in my mouth for 5 minutes.

The reason for this is to trick the brain into being distracted by a different sense channel. Porn is auditory and visual, a third senseory channel is touch if you count the masturbation. Taste is just not normally involved in this entire process at all so you're really making your brain doing something different.

I should say this is a short term solution in the moment, I've only had to do it once and I had enough sense to know that one time is serious enough to warrant something - it may not work as well if you do it all the time. So it works best if you know yourself well enough like that instead of already looking at porn or something, I mean you probably won't even get up out of the chair then, or even reach in your pocket for the stuff even if it is on you so you need a little lead time to work with.

Long term, this is why you need to learn more about yourself like the various self improvement stuff. But even that can be misleading, like some people might meditate for however long a day but that state of mind never shows up in other hours of the day. The point is you want to be more mindful with everything, even when you sleep.

 

I think the first step is to realize that you're horny. When you realize it, take a time to reflect on it and realize that the feeling will go away like it always does. Then find something more useful to do with your time.

At least, that is the way I handle it.

 

Just get up and move. Do pushups. Do ANYTHING (safely) that makes you exhausted. So exhausted that you can go hit the sack. This is what saved me so many many times.

I know EXACTLY how you feel. It's like when you start feeling the 'horny" feeling (the sudden urge to masturbate)... you see in the past, when I first feel that feeling, I knew i'm totally gone. I'm going to masturbate, period but as I get more older, I start to do deep breaths and acknowledge to my body that I recognize that i'm horny but it's not the time to masturbate. That helps too

 

It's like that in the first week for me but went less now. Your brains craving for dopamine and that feeling. To reassure you, overtime it will go. Things to do when you feel like that. These helped me a lot:

• Push ups and or sit ups. They are very simple and move the blood away from your delicate part.
• Cold shower - apparently it's good but never tried it
• Watch and learn as much about the negative effects of porn and masturbation on the Internet. Be careful with the videos and sites, some are explicit. The more you tell your brain it's bad the easier it will be. Telling your brain is by learning. Watch science vids if you can.
• Breathing - deep breaths and exhale. Do it as many times until you feel some calmness
• Pray/meditate - depends if you're religious. pray to God and focus on spiritual energy. Turn all that sexual energy into a spiritual energy. The feeling is great and at peace.
• Talk to an accountability partner if you have one. It's important at the early stage that you have someone to offload anything bothering you inc fetishes, fantasies.
• Look for other dopamine releasing activities such as games, food, running in moderate amounts.
• Journaling - write down your thoughts and feelings when you have time. Maybe once a week. See what's triggering and if there's a pattern. Once identified take steps to reduce eliminate it.

I hope this helps!

 

I try to think about something that will overpower the sexual thoughts. I think about the holocaust, for example.

 

Distract Distract..
Put the screen away.

 

It’s about befriending the monster(gradually ofc)..You want to have a control over your urges, not get rid of them forever..that would be eqv to saying a person never wants to have sex!
But in the beginning, the urges need to be put away, else they will overpower you.
So first Build up and then Later Conquer.

 

For me, I'm finally starting to get over porn. I have made peace with porn. But with the strong desires to ejaculate - that's something that every man has this in us. It's biological and we have to deal with it so the best thing is for us to make peace with this biological urge and not let it rule our lives. @thinking_differently is correct. He said we have to befriend the monster. He's right.

As men, we are BIOLOGICALLY hardwired to ejaculate for one reason: reproduction and sex. There's no way to get away from this urge. None. Zero. So the best thing is to find your girlfriend or partner and have sex. That's way we are designed for. To have sex.

Porn, on the other hand, is artificial. Therefore it's not natural way to get arousal. Sex is the natural way for natural arousal. As soon as the quarantine is over (I'm going to start dating again and get a girlfriend and have an enjoyable sex life so that way I can control my urges through healthy way.

So to answer the OP's original question: what to do when you are extremely horny? The easy answer: have sex with your girlfriend/partner

 

Yes @seaguy44
I agree, But what I mean is not only having a Girlfriend, but also learning when to let the urges arise and also be able to ignore them..i.e. To be able to be in a happy, balance life even without a girlfriend.

 

For me, when I get extreme horny, I always think to myself I'm not going back to old habits of porn and masturbation because I know what I've been through. I will be reading bible scriptures about porn and masturbation because they will help me a lot.

 

congrats on your high result. do you never ejaculate? not afraid about prostate gland having problems etc?
is there a significant difference between 120 days and 220 days? (my max was 120 and I was literally having sexual dreams every night)

 

Sorry ii dont see eye to eye with
you
How could you say we are designed for sex that is not even scientific
We are much more and better than libido and sex we are humans not animals
We can live without having sex ever like millions in the world
I know that it is an extinct but we can come over it until engaging by finding ourselves and finding areal goal and purpose of our life
We can do it we are great creatures not just flesh

 

What I can agree with is that you can't avoid this urge. However, it's not like any urge dictates your life. Let's change the perspective. An alcoholic has an urge for alcohol. An obese guy has an urge for fatty food. A workaholic has an urge to work. Finally, a porn addict has an urge to watch porn and have an orgasm. What links all of those guys? Let's add more examples.
Then, we have a lucky, avarage guy who has no urges for the stuff mentioned above. Why? And another example...
What if he is an average Catholic priest? Does he have no urges when he sees naked women? Yes, he has those, but they're so irrelevant to him that when he encounters them he pays them no mind.
What links all of those examples is what you can find on NoFap. It's all in our brains and hormones. Overexposure to any stimulae makes you an addict. That's why some people are addicted to such weird stuff like having a house filled with cats.
So, our urge is simply an abnormality caused to our brains by an overexposure to a certain stimulus. The only way to make the urges go away is to avoid the stimulus. Then, the urges become... bearable. At least to a point where you don't pay much attention to them. There are numerous people out there who share my point of view. I, for one, am an example of a person whose urges are nowadays a nuisance to me, but I won't let them make me watch porn or masturbate. It's all thanks to avoidance. When I encounter the stimulus (it's unavoidable), obviously, I feel bad, but it doesn't make me go to the computer and watch porn or masturbate. It's unnatural to me now.
To sum up, you don't have to have sex to let the urges go. As an addict, sex will only make your urges stronger. It's like giving an alcohol to an alcoholic. Until you feel free, you should avoid it if you want your reboot to be successul. Afterwards, you can have all the sex you want. When that moment comes? You'll surely discover that when you get there, believe me.

 

Mirror mirror
on the wall
splash cold water
on my balls

 

I would either workout. Since I dont have a SO, might as well start getting in shape for the future SO.

 

Hey I have realised its more about not getting Horny in the first place. Just be really indulged in your work/studies throughout the day! Don’t think about lust, and have your arsenal of distractions prepared for a worst case horny scenario

 

I need help with this too! I just found myself heavily turned on for no reason. I found myself just standing with my erection in front the mirror waiting for it to go down, but I felt like even that was a dangerous/ slippery slope.