Idk what the economic situation is like where you are but I've split the bill on like 80% of the first dates I've been on. Don't wanna spend money? Don't!
I never spit the bill. If I ask someone out I pay especially on the first date. In the next ones, it is often her who pays. This is not a professional appointment ahah
That makes no sense. If a woman that I'm not good friends with invites me to any activity where we don't know anyone else, I'm 100% assuming she has romantic/sexual intentions. I would never invite a woman to a similar activity if I did not want to form a romantic relationship.
I don't know what the problem is to express to someone that you like them. Just last Saturday I was playing a game with some friends, one of whom was a woman I didn't know, and I was asked the question "who would you like to sleep with in this room? I answered this girl by pointing at her and laughing. She liked it and told me it was mutual in the evening so yeah.
I have often told women that I like them and it has never handicapped me in my relationships, on the contrary women find it cute and brave when it is done with tact.
What I mean by that is that you don't have to tell a woman you like her, but you have to know how to do it otherwise you will miss opportunities. It's having the choice between doing it and not doing it that makes you free in your relationships.
Not getting stuck on one way of doing things.
I really don't want to start a fight but let's think about your strategy and results.
Hey man it's cool I'm not mad and I don't like ego fights. My posts may just sound crude because I write like this but it's all good!
After how many did you continue dating?
This is somewhat private but I've only been in a relationship once in my life. I love to meet women and date. Building something serious especially at 25 years old is not important to me. I have all the time in the world to do that in the next 10 years.
I am fulfilled by dating women I like yes, and by understanding relationships and becoming a better person over the years. That's what keeps me going.
I'd never ask a woman I'm not very good friends with to get drinks alone without sexual intentions. I have a gf, and if I told her I got drinks alone a woman I'm not good friends with, she would be livid, and likewise if she did that with a man she's not good friends with.
Again it depends on how it's done and if it's calibrated. But denying yourself the opportunity to express your interest
clearly in a woman is not, in my opinion, a healthy way to grow as a man.
I understand what you're saying, it can be weird and you can be cringe. What you don't seem to understand is that expressing your interest in the best way possible is something that can be learned, and that makes you grow a lot. It’s not just « hey I like you ». Yes it implies failing and at some point making mistakes but that's how you learn. You can't live with that fear of expressing yourself fully forever.
I've been doing this for 5 years and I can't tell you how free I feel to tell a woman I like her without coming across as weird or needy.
And since I know how to do it I don't do it all the time. It depends on the girl in front of you. Some women like men who are assertive. Others have fears and you have to be more subtle. But if you're stuck on one way of doing things you'll miss out on some very nice relationships.
