What do you guys get an urge?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by skaterdrew, Jun 10, 2019.

  1. skaterdrew

    skaterdrew Fapstronaut

    What do you guys do when you get a big urge to PMO? But more importantly how do you guys remind your self how bad porn is?
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  2. Joe1023

    Joe1023 Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    Well when I get the urge to PMO, I do a couple things.... First off, I think about my sobriety. I think about how far I've come and what all would happen if I reset the counter. I have 206 days as of today, which would all be completely gone. I remember how angry I was at my last reset, which was 7 months, which is just slightly more than what I have now. Second, I'd have to tell my CSAT (therapist) that I reset. I'd have to talk all about how it came about, and what measures I'm going to implement to prevent another reset from happening the same way. Next, I'd have to do that all over again with my SA sponsor. And most importantly, I'd have to tell my wife that I had another reset. And I'd once again have to hash out everything that led up to the reset and I'd have to see the look of pain, anger, sadness, disappointment, and the feeling like she's not good enough for me on her face.

    And to remind myself of how bad porn is, I think about how much better my concentration and my memory are now that I'm sexually sober. I "perform" much better now, and I'm not afraid I won't be able to. I'm no longer afraid that my wife is going to find me out anymore. I can walk in confidence knowing that the addiction that I let hold me back for SOOOOO long, no longer had any power over me as long as I choose to use the tools & resources available to me to fight it.

    Best of luck, my friend!

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