What happens to the nofap benefits after visiting a prostitute?

I have seen probably over 200 prostitutes. Maybe 300. Everywhere from Japan to Spain to the US coast to coast. It’s nothing, nothing like sex with a woman that has a psychological connection with you. It is pretty much like masturbating to porn. It feels good to put your dick into something. It’s visually stimulating. It’s addictive. You feel like shit afterword. It’s a confidence downer. And then you’re out $200 when you’re done.

Good luck.

 

Thanks for your reply.

Could you elaborate more about prostitutes being a confidence downer? How do you mean?

Because actually this is my main motivation in the first place to visit brothels after 90 days: to check whether my PIED is (hopefully) gone and thus, gaining more self-confidence for sex with future real women.

 

PEID doesn’t vanish just because you’re having sex with a stranger that you’re paying for. All the possible reasons for not being able to perform are compounded. How will you feel when you can’t get it up with a prostitute?

You need to fix yourself first, love yourself, your faults, and then find girlfriend you trust.

 

i wish I could triple like this

 

Great point nothing like scoring with a normal girl hookers will mess up your game and you will feel worse then before

 

No real problem going to a prostitute, but having sex with a prostitute and having sex with a girl you like are night and day difference. The anxiety in both cases are so different. Not sure what your anxiety problem exacly is, being naked with a woman, the sex itself? Being naked with a woman yeah maybe it might help, but you might as well go to a nude beach, sex itself weirdly enough not so much anxiety difference is to different with someone you like.

 

Already been last night, have to admit it was the best thing ever

 

I'd say it may be a good idea, though only if it's legal where you live.

 

Depends on what you want out of a relationship. The guys I know who sleep with prostitutes behind their wives backs don’t really have good relationships. Will you tell your future girl about your times with prostitutes? Would you be proud of it to tell other guys? That you couldn’t find a woman that likes you so you had to pay for it. Porn makes an alpha Male feel beta because he can’t get a real woman. How does fucking someone you have to pay really make you feel? Fucking a real woman is for the whole night, the weekend etc. And it is mutual love. Fucking a prostitute is fucking someone who just wants to make you cum quickly and not enjoy the moment. If you prefer quick sex with someone who doesn’t like you and wouldn’t fuck you if you didn’t pay her, then this is a great idea.

 

The fact that people did something in the past doesn’t make it healthy my friend.. Decades or millennia from now people will say that people of the past used to watch porn.. I don’t see that being a sensible argument for the viability of PMO then..

 

The problem with the escort, specifically the GFE is that it can be a real high with a terrible drop.

Yes, as soon as you drop the donation on the table, she is in to you. Yes, she may be gorgeous. Yes, her body may be hot. Yes, her technique may be awesome (DFK, BBBJ, DATY, FS) and she allows MSOG. Her conversation, cuddling and massages may be invigorating.

But when times-up and the hotel door closes behind you, bang! The same horny loser that entered the hotel room leaves the hotel room. You're nothing again and it hits you hard knowing that you need to spend hundreds of dollars to reach that temporary high once again.

As you recall the experience and get horny again, you end up fantasizing and turning back to porn.

The "sex with a real woman" sends you right back to the masturbating - exactly where you started off before NoFap, but feeling even worse.

NoFap is supposed to train the mind to connect with women mentally as well as physically. A prostitute is as bad as porn. There is no mental connection.

Even worse, escorts can have a terrible impact upon your financial health as well. Add the stress of not be able to pay the bills only increases our current stress-load which ends up feeding our addiction.

 

STDs, AIDS, unknown contact with who knows how many men she's been with in over a month? I am starting off with that because we care for you on this forum brother. I've heard gross stories about people hooking up with strangers and they caught a STD, I heard of one guy that actually died in the course of three days from contact. Of course the fun and pleasure will be there in between that hour or more, they will say they had a good time or they appreciated your company, because its for ""business""" AND THE POPULARITY AND STATUS.

If you need to do it, I highly suggest just trying cams if your going to that level of extent. Cams are less expensive, Woman will chat with you instead of opening up the door giving her hour and then leaving with out any care. I've met a fair amount of Woman and they are lovely aside from a Woman just giving Happy Hour Tug Time to you and leave like you were her last resort. I met a model before I stopped spending money about a year ago and we have a wonderful friendship/relationship now, we talk for over hours every other day. I don't ever regret going to her because she was an angel.

My friend if your life get's better and you hit 90 days. I hope you have a realization and think twice before going down that road. You may have the confidence by that time to go and talk to a woman at a hair salon, Out in the mall, or going to a bar chatting it up. If I went 90 days I'm sure I'd be expressing myself in that way.

 

You are so right once you leave the session you feel like crap knowing that you just paid a girl that doesn't like you everytime you want that experience. Especially if your having a hard time finding a real girl that likes you nothing like it.

 

masturbation = you lost your seed/energy.
prostitution = you lost your seed/energy and your money.
that worse

 

Surely you’ve got to find what works for you. I’ve been seeing the odd escort whilst I’ve been working with a psychotherapist. The work we’re doing is dealing with traumas and attachment. The more we’ve done around this the less I’ve felt the need to act out in an addictive nature and I’ve turned to more healthy self soothes. But what I’ve found personally is that scolding myself for masterbating or having paid sex is opening the flood gates to shame and guilt. So if I’ve messed up my streak I might as well view porn and dive into destructive sexual habits that I’d escalated to.
Sex can get very addictive but also we’re programmed to need it. It’s just how nature/god made us. I’ve had options and offers in the real world and online dating. But I don’t feel ready for a relationship and would feel guilty leading a woman on just to get my leg over. It’s a service where you both know your rolls and nobody gets hurt. As long as you respect them I don’t think it’s that bad. They’re people too and some love sex if you get them into it. It is addictive and expensive. But I have found it’s helped get rid of distracting excess sexual energy and bad mental health and allowed me to keep perusing my goals, leaving most of the time feeling great to be honest. Porn on the other hand always leaves me feeling crappy and it can often escalate into hardcore taboo stuff because I’ve become numb to the more vanilla. Anyway here’s a link on how our brains react to both porn and sex