What is actually more enjoyable than jacking off to porn?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by skaterdrew, Oct 23, 2019.

  1. skaterdrew

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    Now I know many things in life are more enjoyable than PMO, or should be more enjoyable than PMO. Being in a relationship, sex, human connection, achieving things, hobbies ext.

    But what I am talking about is what can you do when you're in the house that is more enjoyable than PMOing?

    So what is more enjoyable out of these?

    Watching tv vs PMOing? To me I easily find PMOing much more enjoyable.
    Watching a movie vs PMOing? To me I easily find PMOing much more enjoyable.
    Listening to music vs PMOing? To me I easily find PMOing much more enjoyable.
    Playing a video game vs PMOing? To me I easily find PMOing much more enjoyable.
    Doing other stuff online vs PMOing? To me I easily find PMOing much more enjoyable.
    Learning something vs PMOing? To me I easily find PMOing much more enjoyable.
    Reading vs PMOing? To me I easily find PMOing much more enjoyable.
    Cooking vs PMOing? To me I easily find PMOing much more enjoyable.
    Doing house work vs PMOing? To me I easily find PMOing much more enjoyable.

    So you get the point. Out of basically everything I can do inside PMOing seem to be far more enjoyable to me than anything else. I just find it to be such a huge escapism, and I also just find it really enjoyable. You could even say I find it really fun.

    I don't think this has anything to do with addiction. I honestly feel like I am past the addiction for the most part. As I generally only ever relapse when I am hungover from alcohol, and for the most part I can usually always easily go without PMO. But that doesn't mean I wouldn't still find it enjoyable.

    I genuinely think PMOing is an extremely enjoyable thing to do.

    But I know how damaging PMO can be, especially if you're a PMO addict.
     
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  2. Overforme

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    It's called "instant gratification" and makes your brain light up like a Christmas tree, so of course its going to feel real good when you do it, but how is it going to feel after you do it? You're going to feel symptoms physically and mentally that you dont want to feel.
    ...So I'm going to debate you and say anything that is actually rewarding long-term and makes you feel whole or complete is a lot more enjoyable than PMO.
    I much rather build dopamine in a healthy sense and feel good about myself, rather than shoot the levels through the roof and than feel like crap afterwards.
    Are you trying to justify that it's ok to PMO once in awhile because its "just really fun" .. so is getting drunk, snorting cocaine and screwing hookers, but is this a healthy lifestyle with healthy ramifications? Of course not. I'd like to kill this addiction for life just like I killed all my others. Still in flat line and this time around I've learned my lesson. When i see posts like this, I feel it's your addict coming through. Let me try to save you - anything you mentioned is better than PMO. Anything. Try finding challenging things within what you named as alternatives and you will reap the rewards. Music is always interesting, theres always fun games to play, you can never be dulled with watching a highly rated film if you lose yourself in it, try out cooking new dishes, push yourself further in the gym, meditate daily, take cold showers and run. Life is what you will make of it man.
     
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  3. dzigi

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    This is on of the best comments I've read here! Skaterdrew take advice from this guy, I would write the same exact thing. Wish you luck!!
     
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  4. k3muthomi

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    With me after I have just done PMO none of the things you mentioned are enjoyable. I dont enjoy music, movies and going to the gym seems like a laborious task. However when im on a good streak I enjoy them so much more
     
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  5. Nothing I can think of is more enjoyable in the moment to jerking off. But almost everything I can think of is more fufilling. Do you want pleasure or lasting happiness? If you want the former, porn is for you. If you want the latter, porn will actively work against you.
     
  6. bken

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    Meth addict: nothing compares to meth
    Cocaine addict: nothing compares to cocaine

    Porn addict: nothing compares to pmo

    Happiness addict: I don't need anything
     
  7. IAmLegion

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    You know that feeling you get when you're studying and manage to figure out something even the author didn't mention?

    No you don't. If you did, you'd never make this post.

    That is such a wholesome and empowering experience and can leave me pumped up throughout the entire day, even.

    Knowledge is the ultimate solution to the demons that plague a man when he's alone. Keep your brain active; let it grow so much that you enter the realm of metathinking.

    That moment is much superior to any jack off session i've ever had.
     
  8. fredisthebes

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    Nailed it. PMo, while 'enjoyable' enough of itself, sucks the joy out of the rest of my life.
     
  9. Lilla_My

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    Damn what a good response.
     
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  10. Solid post!
     
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  11. Doing things you said you were going to do too many times, but never got done.
    Emotional reward you get from that will outshine everything and increase your self esteem making you more resilient.
    You should have a long list, no dobt
     
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  12. I'll tell you what's more enjoyable. Knowing that you haven't jerked off for over a month.
     
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  13. LavaMe

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    If PMO is that much more fun to you than everything else it could be that the problem lies within. It might be that your mind has been warped to find PMO more enjoyable than those things rather than PMO actually being more enjoyable. If you thought PMO was only what degenerate perverts do then it might lose some of its attraction the same way being a meth addict isn’t attractive to most people since they think smoking meth all day is what losers do. But those meth addicts sure love it more than everything else in life too. To be sure there is some pleasure to be found in both, but it is a dark pleasure.
     
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  14. 1ANDDONE

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    It is a good question, OP, but it is a skewed question. I am not judging the question, I am not judging you, just saying, if you move the question around a bit, the question becomes: What is the most efficient way to give ourselves a dopamine rush? That question becomes very answerable: PMO. Sex does not compete with it, and drugs have all kinds of worse consequences. There are many things our brains interpret as pleasure, as liking, as wanting. Bottom line: We use PMO, like a tool, like a button, to get a neurological response and that response is a dopamine high, along with an endogenous opioid release. If your goal is to achieve that dopamine rush non stop, then porn is your vehicle. If porn is a vehicle you want to get out of, but cannot seem to slow down, take time to understand that is not porn you desire, but the neurological response to it, that is pushing that vehicle. If you want to be free of it, you are going to have to crash that vehicle.

    Hope this helps.

    Much love.

    W.
     
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  15. Ghost79

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    A good tasty pizza, good music, awesome pc games, a great travel in nature are more enjoyable to me then fapping.
     
  16. 1ANDDONE

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    At Ghose79, then Sir, we share similar tastes, and you are not addicted. Well, I have no interest in PC games, but nature and music and hiking, I am down for. Supremes I like. If those things are better for you than PMO, you are golden. Oh, I just got my first Trophy Award for first post. How wonderful!
     
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  17. Overforme

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    Right on man!
     
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    word
     
  19. Alex1111

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    Actually everything can be more enjoyable than pmoing. You're an addict, it's not you who's speaking but your addiction. If you get rid of it, in time, you'll see positive results. Hang on man.
     
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