What is normal sex?

I grew up being a bit of a prude around sex, then I started watching film porn at about age 14. I used to think anal was wrong but that changed in my mid twenties. I was married for 16 years to a very unadventurous woman. When we split up I found another girl right away who I think was a sex addict but used to say she thought porn was bad. She did all things in the porno rim, facial etc. I suffered ED with her (never happened with wife) I felt her expectations around sex were too much.

I think I have control issues as well as PMO going on. Have had a 140 day (it was fantastic) streak which ended about two weeks ago I was fantasying about having a woman again at the end.

I would be happy if i had a gf who liked only to do oral and other stuff but not overly keen on penetration sex. I would not be selfish. I suppose this isn’t normal?

What is normal sex?