what is the relation btween nofap and attraction?

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Nofap anymore, Dec 18, 2014.

  1. Nofap anymore

    Nofap anymore Fapstronaut

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    Hello guys
    I can not figure out what is the relation between nofap and that girls will stare at me and I will be more attractive ? Why would something like that happen when I quit pmo ?
     
  2. MattNoFap

    MattNoFap Fapstronaut

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    Possibly because the girl subconsciously or consciously notices that you aren't checking her out like most other guys in a sexual way. And if you are doing that during NoFap, it's just counterproductive and torturous. So in a way she may think you are a "catch" or "challenge" because you aren't as easily manipulated as other guys? Who knows, every girl is different, but you'll realize that NoFap isn't just about getting the girls. It is an inner journey into becoming your true self.

    Matt.
     
  3. Nofap anymore

    Nofap anymore Fapstronaut

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    Thanks matt
    and yeh I agree with you and my goal basically not to be attractive but I was just asking
    thanks again
     
  4. Whatever

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    You emit pheromones.
     
    Last edited: Dec 19, 2014
  5. thatfatdood

    thatfatdood New Fapstronaut

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    I Do Find a Strong Link Between the Two

    The main reason I do NoFap is to increase my success with women.

    When you don't fap, you have more testosterone, but most importantly, you're a lot more horny, which makes you much more likely to go out and meet women.

    The less I fap, the more success I personally have with women. I have more confidence when I do approaches and I just have much more motivation to go to clubs, bookstores, etc. to meet more girls.

    NoFap itself won't make you more attractive. What makes you more attractive is improving yourself as a man (dressing better, building muscle, losing fat, better posture), but NoFap gives you mostly psychological improvements, like increased confidence.

    Also, I want to train my brain that digital women (from porn) are not real, and I don't want to have sex with them anymore. You are having sex with completely wrong portrayals of women, and that really screws you up psychologically in the long run. Have sex with REAL women. Once your brain gets used to this idea, you will understand that you need to make women feel connected to you to have sex with them. In real life, you don't just "click" on the one you want and you're done in five minutes. You must understand them, handle their emotions, lead them, and make them chase you.

    I don't fap because I want a woman to make me orgasm, instead of doing it myself. This mentality really helps me get long streaks on NoFap. If I feel tempted to fap, I think "if I fap, and I approach a woman tonight, I'm not going to enjoy the sex nearly as much and will have much less motivation and confidence. A strong man will not masturbate. He will seek out a mate and seduce her."

    Hope that helps!
     
    Last edited: Dec 19, 2014
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  6. MattNoFap

    MattNoFap Fapstronaut

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    Your welcome, I also wasn't assuming either when I mentioned that. Just wanted to share.
    Either way it's fine if you are doing this to become more attractive. Whatever motivating force to get you to stop this habit will help you in more than one way.

    I also agree with both of the posts, I notices my endurance and focus at the gym increased. Also, not that I am so interested in looking for a girlfriend at this moment, but I notice a lot of super physically attractive females, and maybe not so attractive females, always glancing at me. I'm not a bad looking guy, but by far the fittest and best looking in the Gym. But maybe as in the TED talk, a testimonial said something like, "All the girl notice me now, or maybe I just started noticing them noticing me?" It could be that as well. Its a tough question lol.

    But, I think the testosterone and pheromones might have something to do with it as well. It is really distracting doing NoFap at this co-op gym, because there are attractive women everywhere.

    But if there is a will, there is a way.

    You can do it man, also I have an accountability partner, but there is always room for more.

    I'm on "Line" chat app. You can pm me if you need a partner. Even though I am on day 60 I plan on doing this for life. Hopefully until I have a good girlfriend that I want to to marry. One step at a time though right?

    Best of luck man.
    Matt.
     
  7. TotalLifeChange

    TotalLifeChange Fapstronaut

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    ^^Those 2 reasons. Nailed it. :cool:
     
  8. MattNoFap

    MattNoFap Fapstronaut

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    I think a common problem that may lead to relapse, is the idea that you have to have sex with "real woman".

    Not "a real woman", I suppose it implies more than one. Addictions can change in the flick of a switch, be careful for what you wish for. The ego has a constant hunger for more that can never be satisfied, and you could just be feeding that hunger in another form.

    Matt.
     
    Last edited: Dec 20, 2014

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