What is this best dating app to meet women ?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Kman20, Nov 12, 2019.

  1. Kman20

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    I’m well over my reboot and still have very little dating experience. I have approached and even done speed dating (so expensive in my area) but I want to date and meet a lot of women. Maybe something will stick maybe something wont, but the point is to get better at talking to women since I’m pretty socially anxious still (MUCH better than I was when I was pmoing of course) but I still don’t have the competency of meeting and talking to attractive women face to face.

    So if anyone has dating app experience here, which one would you recommend is the best for this ? Where people are more about meeting up rather than texting all the time. Would appreciate the help.
     
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  2. dankestmemes

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    Why must it be an app? Do it the old fashioned way and go to a club, bar, bookstore, cafe, library. Even a PC bang.
     
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  3. Jup1t3r

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    I don’t know what a PC bang is, but I just downloaded a dating app and really feel like deleting it.

    I feel as though I’m starting to use it the same way as porn; just hunting through images. I could see this becoming problematic.

    Tips anyone? Should I continue to use it but develop restraint, or should I make it easier on myself and get through the hurdles?
     
  4. dankestmemes

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    I'm around a lot of Koreans. PC bang (PC방) just means PC room. It's an internet cafe.
     
  5. It depends what you’re looking for! In my experience, I’ve found that women on Tinder tend to be more likely to be down for hook-ups while on Bumble or OkCupid they are more looking for dates and relationships. I recommend trying all of the big ones & seeing which ones are best for your area.
     
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  6. Demodectic

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    I too have heard Tinder is the one to use for a fast fuck. But Im doing 90 days of Hard Mode so that is not up my alley for the time being.
     
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  7. Kman20

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    Is it something you plan to maybe do after you finish your reboot ?
     
  8. Kman20

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    I would be down for either actually. I’ve tried all but tinder for a week and no matches.
     
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  9. Demodectic

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    Yes but first I need to earn back my own self confidence and self respect. I have alot of inner work to do before Im ready to date again. At the moment the females can smell the stench of insecurity on me from a black away. Dont even think I could even bring a 400 lb Heffer home with me at the moment.

    But glad to see your progress and wish you the best of fortune on your dates.
     
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  10. primaljade

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    I've done online dating for years, and no app is that good if you're picky. I've never had a "fast fuck" from Tinder aside from when I was traveling in a foreign country. But... maybe younger guys just have it easier on there, 5 years ago it was ok for me, but for this past year it's been a huge waste of time (unless I'm traveling, then it's decent).

    Cold approaching is "better" for life and social experiences, but takes dedicated time for it, and you have to live in a city for it to be consistently effective. It depends on a ton of luck: most of the time, most random hot girls have boyfriends/husbands, you might not be their type, they may get nervous/cold feet before a date, they might be weird, you might accidentally say something slightly off, or they're with cock blockers, etc etc...

    I recommend going to meetups/events/etc and socialize in warm settings. After that I recommend cold approaching, which is a safe way to work and learn to deal with a ton anxiety. The pro PUA's out there are doing daygame full time, usually in foreign countries (where it's cheaper to live, and easier to get laid).
     
  11. superninjared

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    TL;DR Hinge is my #1 dating app at the moment.

    I consider myself a dating app expert i might suck at approaches but when it comes to the apps. I actually get results in terms of phone numbers and dates anyway. In my opinion everyone is going to have a different experience you can't just choose one app you have to download a few and see which works best for you. This is how i rank the current dating apps i'm using. Even though i have picked up a LOT of phone numbers not all lead to dates because these girls are also talking to other guys and it's not always easy to convert a conversation to a date. You end up with a LOT of pen pals if you are not careful...

    Hinge: 9/10
    Numbers: 34
    Summary: I get the most matches by far on this app and i have had a few dates too. People really want to talk and meet!

    Badoo: 5/10
    Numbers: 4
    Summary: I only just started to get more active i recently picked up a new number and even though you cant message everyone unless you are premium you can talk to other people.

    Match.com: 6/10
    Numbers: 17
    Summary: A decent selection of women the girls on here are more serious and looking for relationships. I noticed a lot of single mothers on here though who cant even find the time to go on dates... And some girls are defeatist and don't believe in online dating here so they give up. Plus its paid platform.

    OkCupid: 6/10
    Numbers: 11
    Summary: It's okay i got a lot of matches on here but nowhere near as many phone numbers as i would have liked.

    Coffee Meets Bagel: 5/10
    Numbers: 7
    Summary: Not that many matches but i do have a second date with a girl on this app this weekend.

    happn: 4/10
    Numbers: 7
    Summary: Hardly any matches and the girls don't always respond when you send them a message.

    Bumble: 3/10
    Numbers: 7
    Summary: You can get matches but good luck getting them to talk! Conversations tend to die almost straight away on here the girls are just not talkative at all. I am still talking to a girl from there but we are like pen pals we have not even met because she has life issues at the moment and does not want to date anyone...

    Tinder: 1/10
    Numbers: 2
    Summary: Tinder is complete trash i don't know what happened to it! It was one of the first apps to get me sex but now nothing happens. The first girl i picked up a phone number from kept making excuses for why we could not meet. The second girl just came out of a relationship and was not ready to date. I rarely get matches on here but when i do they either don't talk or the conversation dies before it starts. At least on bumble you get a bit more conversation... I don't know how anyone can get hookups from an app where the girls don't talk or un-match after you match.... Pointless...
     
  12. Kman20

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    Dang Gogeta you came through. I’ve used most of these (except tinder) for just a week but didn’t get a match. Probably because I didn’t want to spend all day swiping through pictures of girls all day but I’m thinking of trying bumble or Pof and Tinder for hookups. I might try Hinge again thanks to you though. What do you credit your success to ?
     
  13. superninjared

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    A lot of different factors even though i'm doing okay i can always do better.

    1. Good profile pictures
    2. Having profiles on multiple dating apps
    3. Using good openers when you send the first message
    4. Having an interesting profile bio that is unique and entertaining
    5. Liking lots of profiles and sending out dozens of different unique messages. Rarely do i copy and paste unless i'm trying a new funny opener
    6. Keep on believing i'm not going to lie but you will have crap weeks and even months when it feels like nothing is happening. Then out of the blue you will just start getting matches and numbers again. Its like a rollercoaster it goes up and down.

    Theres probably more than that but at the moment thats all i can think of lol. I might consider trying POF again too i don't really have anything to lose. Just be cautious with that app though its notorious for having fake profiles... And yeah definitely go all in on Hinge! Im not kidding but i have like 85 matches on Hinge! 85! And i could pick up another number today i already got one last night! Hinge makes Tinder look super super TRASH!

    Hinge Matches: 85
    Tinder Matches: 9 (Of which none talk)
     
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  14. NothingMoreNothingLess

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    I got about 6 matches the first day I used Tinder this summer when my parents were gone for a few weeks and had the house for mysef. However, I quickly changed my mind about it since I wanted to finish up my project car and was kind of scared to get catfished, so I deleted it. I also felt like it would be pathetic to find a girl over an app since it basically felt like a menu. I also barely go on my phone anymore now. I’m currently on day 984 and feel like I should go find someone special for myself, but at the same time I feel they would distract me from my school work and goals. I aways read people should wait for someone special to pop up, but I feel the longer I wait the harder it will be to get back into the dating game. How does this hinge thing work?

    I also wanted to add that I noticed I feel a tingly sensation in my penis while I looked through photos of women on tinder. I don’t get an erection because I tell myself it’s just a picture and I don’t act on it. I feel this is the downside of apps, unless others are more clean?
     
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  15. superninjared

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    Hinge is cool unlike Tinder where you aimlessly swipe like you just don't care. On Hinge it shows a profile which has photos and answers to chosen questions you can customise it how you like. So now instead of swiping you like someones profile. So you can choose to like an answer they wrote which gives you the option to just like it and wait to see if they match. Or you can make a comment and send that with your like so now they have something to read. Of course you can like photos too and do the same. I think you can only like 15 or so profiles in a day on the free membership and infinite if you pay for it. Sure it does not sound like much but i have got more matches and more numbers on hinge by a long margin it blows away all the other dating apps. And thats probably because the way its designed you are forced to view the profile before liking so i guess your more likely to actually choose someone you like. Unlike Tinder when your just trying to use up all your swipes for the day and hope you get a match.

    Another app which works similar to hinge is OkCupid and at the moment it's my #3 in terms of phone numbers. No dating app is clean as long as you can view pictures of other people you are going to get stimulated. Im like that too i dont just get an erection from a photo unless i create a fantasy in my head using it for stimuli.... Of course im not going to act on it either because im trying to stay clean from PMO.
     
  16. primaljade

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    Thanks for sharing the numbers. I've had Tinder work only twice for me this year, while traveling, and that's it. Not even dates from it in my hometown, 2 flakes at least... I'm trying out Hinge.
     
  17. NothingMoreNothingLess

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    Thank you man. I'm glad I am not alone with that feeling of the penis when looking at those pictures. I don't fantasize at all, I just look if she's the one. I'll check hinge out when I have the time, or when I'm done with my semester.
     
  18. Eternally Music

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    Dope list, man. I've only used Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge myself. Tinder, I got a lot of likes, but only about 2 matches, neither of them going anywhere. Bumble I had for a few days and the app seemed like it had a lot of abandoned accounts, nearly completely dead. Hinge didn't work at all, absolutely nothing happened with that one. I will say that dating apps seem to be very location based. I remember reading about one guy in England who had Hinge work for him, but it didn't do much at all for his friends in Scotland.

    I ultimately stopped, though since I found it to be grossly addicting and stressful.
     
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  19. Homelander

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    I used Tinder for exactly one week but had to remove it because it was giving me a lot stress and was very addictive.
    However, I did have 2 two dates and am currently still in contact with a woman for weekly sex&love session together.

    But after this, I will not use any online sites because its such an hassle to find out what kind of woman you are dealing with.
     
  20. superninjared

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    Tinder is good when it actually works... The last girl i had sex with through Tinder took two dates as well. We kissed on the first date so that set up the scene. Then we had sex about once a week until she had to go back to her country... Now i would be lucky if i could even get one match on there. Im debating deleting my account and creating a new one with new pictures so i show up as a new user. That might work... Because whatever algorithm they have going on there seems to punish people who don't get matches and conversations. But when you start fresh its like you have been reset.

    I just have far too many pen pals at the moment and they are all playing the long game it seems. Not willing have sex until we have had like 4 - 6 dates because they want serious relationships and not hook ups...
     

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