What is your Contingency Plan in Case of a Slip?

You can still relapse as long as your have access to your wanker. I think just bearing it and having the courage to keep going and change things if you relapse is the way to go. Good luck.

 

Spend more time figuring out why you want to "slip" in the first place rather than figuring out how to escape from yourself.

 

Don't slip. Whatever it takes. Even if it means no internet.

 

You're 100% right, that continuous relapses are far worse than relapsing a few times. Not just in terms of conditioning, but also because you keep reactivating your reward system when you start a new streak and then you disappoint yourself. After a while you lose so much trust that it gets really hard to come out of that ditch.

But you're asking for reasons on why NOT to have a contingency plan. Simple: You're giving yourself a subconscious message when you do that. Your actions, like preparing a backpack, have meaning to you. In this case the meaning is: "When I relapse someday I'll need this." Simply by preparing the backpack you already tell yourself that in your life it is possible that you will relapse. That means you admit to yourself that you're not through with PMO. You admit that there's a part of you that still wants it and because you know that part is powerful (another thing you unconsciously admit since you have to flee) you have to be prepared.

I can't speak on abstaining from masturbation and orgasms. But as I see it they are separate issues from pornography. I do know however how to get rid of porn. The key is to stop wanting it. Not to just abstain from it for a long period of time, that just changes your neurobiology to some degree, but it doesn't change what you secretly want. We don't forget what porn is and how much fun it used to be, even if we abstain for 5 years. If you still on some level believe that it has value, you'll always be in danger of relapse. You need to change what it means to you. You need to make that last bit of ignorance within you understand, that porn will never be worth it again. That it may have offered you something once, when you were younger and naiver, but not anymore. You need to be able to look at it and understand why you don't want it. It's not about the arousal, it's about the fulfillment of your sexuality, your relationship to the feminine (assuming you're straight) and how porn is in every way inadequate for that. Once you stop wanting it, you won't have to fear to relapse, relapse is not an option anymore, because you know yourself better. No need to run. At least not from porn. As I said I don't know anything about conquering masturbation and orgasms, that's a different topic. I heard cold showers help and are generally cheaper than plane tickets.

 

That's a great milestone.

I have a masturbation problem too, I know because it sometimes feels compulsive. I don't deal with it yet, I'm dealing with porn first, also I'm lucky to be in a good relationship right now so I only masturbate maybe four times a month to my fantasy. But I know that same as with porn, masturbation and edging in particular seems to give me access to something transcendental. An energy of some sorts. Like a secret headspace, my own little world only I have access to. I know I hold it sacred to some degree, because it's been with me since childhood and I see it as part of what I understand to be my sexuality. So I'm afraid to lose it. I'm afraid of being left in a void, with nothing left but normal everyday life.
It's also attached to my pride because it gives me independence. If masturbation is gone, I'm dependent on an other person for sexual satisfaction. That bothers me a lot, I'd like to be free.

I don't have answers to these knots yet. But I guess they will be about sacrifice, to make a different life possible with deeper relationships.

 

Well said.

 

I use the 5 step method:
1. Take a shower
2. 20 push ups
3. Eat some and drink water
4. Go to sleep

Got this idea from u/JangoFett212 from Reddit.