Well, congrats on finally winning over the PMO addiction. Your post gives us the clear idea to what the urges are and what shoud we do with them. Good luck Brother ! Keep going towards the Happy and Healthy life
I found that a daily meditation practice increases willpower so when the urges come along , you don't act on them by resorting to M .
I really am glad I read this. It’s nice how you put it that we should embrace our ability to be aroused because it is not bad in itself, more of what we do as a result of it. I really like your connection with channeling that energy toward increasing your self confidence and esteem with useful things like exercising and such. I hope to be as strong as you are.
Day 41 here but he is my two cents anyway . I have been pmo free about a month , couple this with hour long mediation the past three months and ayahuasca retreat to delve into my subconscious, I have found why I pmo and it's not to do with hornyness but rejection from a girl in a bar when I was really drunk . It was embarrassing and cringeworthy. The pixels of pornhub wont reject you . Also I had approval issues from my dad but these have been put to bed Thank God . So when you what is causing your pmo , it loses its power . This happened around the 30 day mark . I will update as more stuff unfolds .
This, in my experience is correct. Since almost a year ago, I have communicated one on one with so many guys on this site and to a person, there is some thing about their habits or their past that makes them feel like they're not a man, which is the deep rooted cause of the angst that leads them to fap instead of deal with life. I realize that in the age of feminism this statement might be frowned upon by women fapstronauts but whatever the root cause is for women pmo addicts, the root cause for all the guys from 14-60 that I've talked to on this site and it is a LOT of guys, it is always that they feel something is holding them back. Boys fap their problems and stress away (this is understandable when one is young and has little control over his life). Men face the world and all its problems and pains and deal with it. But since that's stressful and potentially scary, it's easier to go online and meet one's "needs" there. I am not judging. Obviously, I was one of those and still consider myself as recovering from that unhappy reality. When I confronted all of those personal issues, they lost their power. That's how I have made it this far and more than 200 days after I posted the 90 day post that started this thread, I stand by everything I wrote in it.
That is super interesting! It actually makes more sense too knowing that there’s a deeper underlying issue that needs to be addressed.
To right brother , get to the source and your cured for life , that's real freedom . I've been meditating one hour a day the last 3 months too . That helps a lot
Yeah the urges are our 'enemy' once we quit PMO. And when I realized this I told myself right from the beginning that I must learn to love and enjoy my urges. In the end having a nice erection feels good and can be savored without trying to milk semen from oneself. And I told myself that in case I should orgasm without touching myself one day I am not going to reset the counter.
Great post DerNeuMann. I agree 100 % everything you wrote, because I feel the same way too when it comes to the urges. The urges never go away, this I know now that I am nearing 60 days. As I always stated in my past posts, it is natural to find women desirable. One should acknowledge the desire , but at the same time acknowledge it is also impermanent, so no reason to give in P.M.O. Also, I believe that our perception of women changes when we don't give into the urges. It is easier to talk to attractive women especially when your mindset and expectations is not to score with her in the future, but just enjoy the present moment. I believe one also finds an inner peace and joy, once you understand the urges are natural and as you say, use that energy and mojo to better themselves. Thank you posting this. It was a great read.
I really need to hear this. Im on day 79 and the urges are real. I was sort of hoping that they would go away once I hit 90 days. Now I will embrace them and turn them into energy for self improvement. Thanks for the tip!
Wow. Enjoyed reading every word of this. When I started fapping uncontrollably using PMO, I thought it would help me last longer in bed as I was trying to impress a girl. What culminated from there was constant anxiety, total lack of self confidence coupled with low self esteem. I had streaks of more than 90 days where I would recover and simply slide back to PMO. I am glad to have found individuals here where we share the same experiences. Last night I was out on a date with a rather hot woman, we kissed at the end of it, I was at 120% percent erect. Needless to say I was very aroused, by the time I got home, I had blue balls. I slept it off and enjoyed the testosterone surge rather than go for a quick release. Once you get over the very tough hill, it really becomes downhill, but from my running experiences sometimes never take a downhill run lightly because you can slip. At every step of the way, vigilance is key
Thank you very much. I learnt so much. Urges are natural. The only difference between us and Non addicts is our response to those urges.
