I mean, you take this for granted like i used to because every "sex specialist" out there tells you it's "normal" but why would it be normal? Why would it be normal to imagine that something that is obviously not happening is happening? Why would hallucinating be normal or healthy? Creating a woman that doesn't exist? Making your hand a woman? Fucking your own hand? How can any of this be normal, let alone healthy? For example i love summer and the beach. I love travelling to Greece and swimming and sitting in the sun as much as i can. I usually get to do it only once per year, if that, for one or two weeks. It seriously is the best possible vacation i can think of when it comes to relaxation. All other options pale in comparison. Do you know what i don't do, even if this is 100% my favorite thing ever? I don't fantasize about it. I never imagine myself on the hot beach, getting tanned. I never imagine swimming in the sea. I never imagine feeling the sand. Yes, it's my favorite thing in the world and I never fantasize about it. I just enjoy it when it happens and that's it. The rest of 350 days of the year I don't fantasize about it even once. As it is for the rest of things. I love a specific car (Skoda Octavia) and I wish i could buy it one day. I however never fantasize about being in the car, feeling the car, driving the car, washing the car. I just see it rolling on the street and tell myself i would really enjoy having it someday and go about my business. And the list can go on and on. So the question is, why is nobody seeing this disconnect and why does everybody keep saying that "sex fantasizing is normal and healthy", when all the other things you'd fantasize about are definitely not healthy? Don't mistake "fantasizing" for "having a wish" or "having a goal". I'm not saying that wanting to do a specific sexual act is wrong (like having sex with your wife on a beach for example)... but there is a huge difference between having a goal and actually living the action in your fantasy - imagining it's actually happening and deriving pleasure from it. What i also can't understand is how most nofappers agree that porn/instagram stalking etc are not good or healthy but sexual fantasizing is good and healthy. Those are literally the same thing. How is having a sexual fantasy with your teacher or hot colleague at work different than getting sexually aroused by a porn movie or an instagram half naked woman in sexual poses? How is a sex fantasy about your hot colleague "better" than looking at her FB/instagram and getting aroused that way? When i was at the peak of my PMO addiction i could create sexual fantasies that were more detailed than actual porn and i'm sure most addicts have very vivid sex fantasies. How come there is this disconnect between porn and sex fantasies?