What percentage of your time to spend in solitude?

For me I can spend extended periods of time alone. However, when I go out I can easily make friends, as I have allot of charisma.

I have this one friend who's pretty cool but he ask me to chill like every other day. I too am comfortable being alone most of the time. I am my own best friend, and I love hearing myself talk!

 

Your post more or less describes my life. I'm a PhD student and somehow I ended up having my own office. Most days I eat lunch in there, since I'm very shy and am uncomfortable speaking in a group, so if I eat with others I usually sit silently and laugh at other people's jokes. So I tend to avoid that.
In the weekends I can spend two days in a row by myself, not seeing nor speaking with anyone. Then I go buy myself some ice cream and eat it alone in a park.

I pretty much hate my life but am not able to find the will power to change things. No PMO is my first step toward any kind of change in my life.

 

I'm not at this stage yet but I am concerned that it will happen to me when I finish my degree and am no longer surrounded by people on my course whom with I share interests, I know that when the convenience of living close to each other ends I'll end up never seeing a lot of my friends irl and will have to tolerate just talking to them while gaming.

To be honest though physical loneliness isnt something that has bothered me all that much, what really gets to me is psychological loneliness, I have that in spades. I dont have anyone I can have an intimate conversation with, I dont feel comfortable talking to anyone about my serious problems with PMO or all the things that have spawned from that, in fact I've spent so much of my life not being truly listened to that I'm confident its given me a complex. Theres nothing worse than being trapped in your own mind and honestly I feel like I am even when I'm not physically alone.

 

There is a big difference between being alone and being lonely

 

Yeah in my final year I'm definitely going to try and make the most of it, in the past year I've gone from spending my final day eating KFC and watching Netflix alone in my room to drinking at a friends house, so I'm making progress.

 

I hope nofap helps both of us too.
I'm like a boat in a stormy ocean. Many times I allow things to happen to me passively and I find myself doing things that I don't enjoy doing, instead of being active and placing myself where I rather be. I think many people feel that way. Sure there are good things in my life, but in general, I don't feel satisfied from my life.

I'm both. Not all the time, but still too much.

 

For me it's pretty much whenever i am not at work. Even when I'm here at the university, I'm sitting by myself in a dark corner somewhere in the library or student center building. I guess in my case I'm just used to it.

 

I would estimate maybe 90% of my time is spent alone, I have that deluded thought process of anger which makes me feel like it's better to be by myself, yet another half says, "Don't you wonder what love feels like? What it would be like to have a woman be starstruck by you..." I do feel wiped out when getting groceries or going to any type of store at all, like the mere glance of someone just drains me. I understand you when you say you've become comfortable, recently I've started to pace in my room and think I've become complacent with life. I love isolation when it feels like it's recharging me but after that, time seems to stretch on forever.