What porn has done to my perception of women

Janus · Mar 11, 2015

Through excessive porn usage, I have developed a terrible, terrible time looking at, talking to or otherwise interacting with even remotely attractive women without having flashes in my head of what they must look like naked or otherwise thinking about them performing some kind of sexual act upon me or with me.

This is SO incredibly wrong and I hate this!

It's one thing to have a healthy libido. Sexual attraction is a natural human behavior and for the most part, a healthy one, without it, we wouldn't be motivated to procreate. But years and years of using porn and masturbating to it has programmed my brain into perceiving women not as people but as something simply to put my **** into. That's not right! I have no right at all to ogle a random woman on the street and sexualize her in my mind without her knowledge or consent to use her as fap fodder later. In many ways, that's comparable to rape.

This is one of the more disturbing behaviors that PMO has manifested in me and one that I genuinely hope to put a stop to.

Happy Gnome · Mar 11, 2015

It is rape! It's mental rape. But what is so horrible about it is that it's pretty much accepted nowadays. "Boy will be boys," people say. How far has our society fallen in terms of morality if we can think that something like that is normal!

I also want to quite doing this. What I've found that helps is always keeping your eyes above the neck when talking with women. If their butt, crotch, or breasts come into view, look away. If you don't ogle them in the first place, I find, you usually don't start fantasizing what they would look like without clothes.

woodcutter · Mar 11, 2015

common guys , thinking about sex with someone might be bad but its not rape, having said that I know that a lot of girls are aware that guys do look at them like this and it makes them feel uncomfortable. so we should defo try to cut this out.

Janus · Mar 11, 2015

It is totally normal for a person to look at another person of the opposite sex that they might be attracted to and wonder what it's like to have sex with them or what they look like without clothes. But when you do it ALL THE TIME with virtually EVERY good looking person you see every day, when you're actively looking for good looking people to ogle and add to your mental porn stash, that's a problem. When you don't see a person anymore, you just see an assortment of attractive body parts.

Sex is not the end all and be all of human experience. There's so much more to life than fapping and f-ing. It's not the ultimate thing to strive for, but for a lot of us, porn has convinced us that it is.

Musta · Mar 11, 2015

This is one of the worst results of porn addiction ... I hope we all get free of those thoughts

mike.h · Mar 13, 2015

This is one of the reasons I've got to quit the P. I've never been into the hardcore stuff but it all really messes up how I think about and interact with women. Our society (myself included) is so hypocritical about this. The commoditization of sexuality is more mainstream now than ever, whether it's porn or nudity or sex in movies and TV or sexy photos in magazines or whatever. Some even call it empowering for women. But then the same people complain about the objectification of women. That's a hard line to walk. Human sexuality should be a good thing but it can get twisted into a bad thing.

kitty fukr · Mar 13, 2015

I never stare dawg that's creepy. Sometimes I catch girls looking at me then they turn away quick, but I think that's just a form of flirting, and innocent.

I also find it creepy that you use the word rape bro. Its harassment, but rape is a terrible thing to do.

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