What should i do now? (Need Help)

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Exadict, Nov 13, 2019.

  1. Exadict

    Exadict Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone,

    Read these two threads for a bit of context:

    https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/new-guy-who-want-to-have-a-better-life.177137/

    https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/im-afraid-of-what-i-could-become-without-pmo.209647/

    It's been 1.5 / 2 years that i try to quit porn, i know i signed up in 2018 but i had another account before.
    Anyway, i start to think i sould just give up... i tried everything: log in on Nofap everyday and write my experience or complete the differents challenge everyday, staying away from nofap a while and just come here on bad times only. I exercise everyday, i take cold showers and read everyday. i tried to learn an instrument, i try to go out or exercise more when i have an urge. i tried to deny urges, i tried to control them, i tried to just live with them but NOTHING works. i try to stay busy as much as i can, but when youhave no job, no family, no friend, nothing, you can't stay busy all day long and it's generally here my porn addiction hit me the hardest. The hardest, yes, because i constantly think about it, whatever i do: in my dreams: porn, when i wake up: porn, when i eat: porn, whatever i do: porn and when i go to sleep: porn. P is the only thing i can think about. I don't know what to do anymore. the only time i resisted more than a week (2weeks) it's when i had a job and even, there's still a moment where i can't hold it anymore... yea i know it's sound very weak and maybe i am after all.

    Do you have any idea of what i should do now? Also, forget about professional help as mentioned in another thread you might have read, there's no therapy for sex/porn addict in my area and i have a very big and not so good background with regular shrinks. Anyway, I really think about giving up... Back in the days, i used to edit P and everything, maybe i should do that again, maybe there's a future for me as a porn editor or something?.... I know it's very pathetic but i really don't know what to do anymore... i'm just sick of everything...
     
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  2. Patchq

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    Be responsible for your actions. It may sound dramatic but if you give up this fight you will give up your peace of mind. Don't expect to be at peace if your not willing to put in effort into this fight.

    Your doing the right things. Your doing the exercise, the reading and the cold showers. Your doing more than most people. But dont expect to see the results straight away. Nothing is handed to you on a plate. You need to be willing to not expect anything from your efforts and do it just because you know its the right thing. Keep on fighting this fight and im sure you will see the light you want.
     
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  3. Patchq

    Patchq Fapstronaut

    Face your problems and don't lie to yourself.
     
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  4. Exadict

    Exadict Fapstronaut

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    I won't give up.

    I was a bit low last night after a relapse but even if sometimes i really want to give up, i just can't do it. i don't even enjoy porn anymore, i know i just watch it for the dopamine release. I'll keep trying everything i can to stay away from it and finally beat this addiction.

    Thanks for your answer and support!
     
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  5. Deforio11

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    Good luck!
     
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  6. cr7da8055

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    When you have urges, drop everything and sprint like a mad dog on the road. It will release dopamine and tire you so that you don’t fap. Be patient with yourself, great things take time, try staying in the moment and think that you won’t rap that particular day! All it takes is getting past the 2 week mark, and then I think you’ll find your way from there!
    Peace!
     
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  7. Rehab101

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    Try finding something you enjoy amd share with other people. Like playing any classical board game? Try playing go and there is a big online community out there. That stuff is good for meditation and understanding life imo.
     
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  8. Exadict

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    Thanks a lot for your answers and support guys, i'll try anything i can to stay from this addiction!
     
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  9. Ogikubo

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    I get the feeling you want to get out a bit and talk to people, but something keeps you from doing that. Would you say shyness or anxiety is a big factor for you?
     
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  10. Fractured Mindset

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    you will see changes if you can really get your reboot going. It's night and day when you get there and then you have more motivation to keep going.
     
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  11. King777

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    And I thought that was MY secret counter-urges defend system...Sprinting like a mad dog or doing some pushups... I can definitely relate to that. One thing I know is that your house is the devils pit, I don't remember myself jerking off outside. So the less time you spend at home, the less likely you are to pmo.
     
  12. cr7da8055

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    keep going! I’m sure you’ll reach where you truly want to go
     
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  13. Ronila

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    What would you rather do during the time you watch porn?
     
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  14. Exadict

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    Shyness, anxiety, severe depression, self-hatred, trust issues and so many other things... but i'm not that eager to talk to people actually, i just want to be able to act normal when i'm around them...

    Back in some dark days i did it but yea i agree that my house is the real danger. Also, running away from your home when you have urge kinda sounds like jerking off to P to escape your problems to me, even if i know it works...

    Well, that's the whole problem, nothing seems to be as enjoyable as porn. I know it's not true but to my addicted mind, porn is fun, porn is beautiful, porn saw me growing up, porn is the only thing i ever known. I spent way more time in P and learning about is industry than in other activities. Now, i try to spent time to learn about the video games and music industry but it's pretty hard to be as interested in it as i was for the porn industry. I hope it's just a matter of time though...

    I know i already said that but thank you all for your answers and support! i really appreciate it!
     
  15. Ogikubo

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    I wish you only the best and please do not be offended by what I am going to say: You have a shitload of issues here. And yes, you have had, you say, a not so good background with "regular shrinks." Nevertheless, I would urge you to find the right person to talk to, and I mean a professional. You can get all the cheering and good wishes in the world here, but they are not a substitute for real help. You yourself say you have an addicted mind. Addicts do not get better by willpower.
     
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  16. Ronila

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    Life is not about doing things that are most enjoyable, its more about making things you have to do to achieve your goals, engaging and rewarding.
     
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  17. Exadict

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    I completely agree with that but it's always easier to do those things if you enjoy it. Also, i think it will become way more enjoyable when i won't have this addiction filter on my brain anymore, i think it's just a matter of time.
     
  18. Alex1111

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    Think about all the things you'll be able to accomplish if you quit pmo (there are dozens) . If that's not gonna help, then I don't know what will.
     

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