What should so recovery look like, im desperate

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  1. Cfr2020

    Cfr2020 Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone
    I could really do with advice on people who are trying or how to cope through so recovery. Iv had a rough ride 6 years in total. So he stopped using PMO 6 weeks ago first time in 13years. Hes damaged the way he views me and women. Our love life ended me being his P STAR i didn't even know it. PMO has started become a sex addiction also. Inappropriate behaviours! this moment he still betrays me in looking at other women which tears me apart. I feel im contending with not only women on the street but in P.its heart breaking and im waiting for the next thing to slam me down. He is a liar and gaslights me everytime i catch him out. Why doesn't he just stop?! Is being betrayed going to be something i have to live with? iv contended with alcohol addiction through my mother it was a horrific childhood i endured. I feel i back there. He will even blame the accountability app being wrong!! Thats how far it has gone. Im lost, scared i dont know what to do. Does it get better? Is it to soon to tell? He is in counselling and she wants to see us both. Hes on his 4th session. Please i would love to here other stories to compare. Im in way over my head here.
     
  2. Real Roboin

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    I have no idea what to say. Mine just went to psubs so it never really stopped here.
    He is not serious if he is still looking. the app does not lie or PA's lie.
     
  3. Cfr2020

    Cfr2020 Fapstronaut

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    I think i am trying to fool myself there is hope. My gut tells me completely different. Let him go and cut him loose.
     
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  4. Real Roboin

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    I believe we fall in love with the potential if they stop using. Years ago, I wish I would of stuck with cutting my losses. I do not regret my children which no wonder I had a hard time conceiving. He had low sperm count because of all the masturbating. Now I know that. Anyway, I am so sorry and hope you or wish you the best, I really do.
     
  5. Psalm27:1my light

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    Trust your gut. Always. It’s there to protect you.
     
  6. Cfr2020

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    Thank you so much. Iv decided to concentrate on me and my career and children. And this is all up to him. I'll feel stronger moving in my own direction, rather being consumed by his addiction recovery. And have my own life for a change. Thank you for the support
     
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  7. Psalm27:1my light

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    That’s exactly what I did. We had no idea it was an addiction but 10 years into Our marriage on my 2nd dday, I stood there listening to his lies once again and decided he doesn’t care, so he doesn’t get me to care for him. All my energy went to my kids, my self, my career and my animals. We basically lived as roommates who were friends. All of that changed once I stumbled on a Facebook post about betrayal trauma and porn addiction. Within an hour I had made an appointment with a csat for the following week and then 3 appointments later took my husband. That was when he started to get help and get into recovery.
     
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