What was your life-changing transition?

Traveling to Asia.

 

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My motivation is i am going to get married and have A family. I don't want to stay in this demon loop forever.

If you want to know success. I almost scored perfect GPA last semester because of nofap. It increases the ability to study.

For job, i can maintain my emotion during work and not angered easily like in the past.

For spiritual, i never missed a single prayer since i am doing nofap.

Also the interesting fact, since i do nofap. My mbti test result changing from INTJ to ISTJ.

 

There will most likely never be one thing that sets you into a chain reaction of change. You literally just have to do the stuff you want to do. Don't think about it just do it. You will have lots of ups and downs. Its not like one thing will click and then you are for ever completely disciplined. You also never become succesful. Most likely the people who you think are succesful don't even think about success, they just go about there day doing there thing, and their thing happens to be great.

You shouldn't need to motivate yourself. Pick a few things that you like doing and are good for you and revolve your life around those things. Don't put too much thought into much else. For example, for me right now those things are going to the gym, uni, working, skateboarding and learning spanish. I don't have time for much else. I go to the gym four times a week, work 2-3 shifts and have uni 3 days a week. If I am at home I am either doing uni work or learning spanish. If I have some free time I will go for a skate or hang out with my friends. I don't even have time to think about watching porn or wasting time on youtube. I enjoy all of these things. Sometimes they can be hard but I know I will be rewarded if I push through.

I don't think about this stuff I just do it because I enjoy it. I am starting to get better in all of these areas and one day I might be 'succesful' but I don't give a fuck. As long as I am still enjoying them I will still do them.

 

When I think about my own journey to getting better, I would say the starting point was when I cleaned and rearranged my room. Such a simple thing that might seem minor, but it was a hugely significant factor to me starting to fix my life. Your personal environment is like the foundation of your daily life. It is logical to start improving from there. The cleanliness and order of your home will directly impact your mentality and behavior.

Prior to me creating a well-established structure in my environment, I was at the lowest point of my life. It was Christmas time, and I was feeling ill both mentally and physically. I was having a flu but also some weird cramps going on in my body that forced me to stay in bed. I was staying in my room alone, speaking to no one and doing nothing while obsessing over everything including how I disliked the setup of my room. My head was a mess. It felt like everything had led up to that point, and that I couldn't go any further into the dark hole I had dug myself in.

I recovered from my sickness, and began fixing my life, starting from my room. I threw everything out: every single piece of furniture and useless item, and replaced them with new, clean ones. I also rearranged the order of them in a logical way. And I cleaned every surface and dirty spot I could find. The order of my old room reflected my entire past, and creating a new habitat was the beginning of my enhanced life. It was a necessary step, my environment was blocking me from advancing to bigger and better things that I was ultimately after.

Now I had allowed the snowball effect to start take place in the progress of my self-improvement. Over the next 2 years from this point, I would be transforming myself for the better in every single way. But that process was far from perfect. There were some major mistakes made that regressed my improvement, but overall my choices put me in a position that I couldn't see being any better. I surpassed the clouds while climbing the ladder, now in the clear sky, overlooking the struggles of my former self. And it can only go up from here, by choice.

I only talked about how this all started, the major improvements were made in the past 2 years of my life, including becoming free from my addictions. I can write about those in the future, but for now I hope you enjoyed my little story!

 

i am on final year, and will defend my final project two weeks from now. Well you are better than me, 167 days is amazing. Right now i am learning to control the urge to sex. Doing no PMO make me realize urge to P,M and sex is different. But to diminish the urge, we usually M. But, unfortunately no girl to help:/. So i learn to being grateful instead of fighting it.

Right now even i disgusted by P. Why the hell i must happy to watch some men pleases women? I must be jealous of course, i should be the man, not the observer

 

"The sage does not hoard. The more he does for others, the more he has. The more he thereby gives to others, the ever more he gets… Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you… If you realize that you have enough, you are truly rich." - Lao Tzu

PMO abstention can help you regain self-control over your own thoughts and actions but but it will not bring you what you desire. Do not pursue wealth, status or "success". Find your life passion instead, set yourself a goal and try perfecting the path towards it without attachment to the outcome. "Anyone looking for goal will remain empty when it will be reached, but whoever finds a way, will always carry the goal inside" (Nejc Zaplotnik)

 

@Marvelgurl23

It's an event that didn't happen during my current nofap attempt, but during my last serious attempt 9 years ago. It's the only thing that I'd call a life-changing transition so far.

I was 20, a virgin, heavily addicted to hardcore fetish porn (much more than now), depressed, even suicidal on many days. I didn't know what to do with my life. I didn't expect anything from life anymore.

So by coincidence I got in touch with a girl online and we started chatting. It wasn't even a dating platform or something but merely a trivial general forum. The chemistry between us was amazing. After a few months writing back and forth she asked me if I want to visit her in real life. Now, I was on some kind of 2 months nofap streak during that time, even though the term "nofap" didn't exist yet back then. I was just so deep into PMO that I thought it's either quitting porn or death. This girl lived 1500 km away abroad from my home country. Usually back then I would never have dared to do such a thing, I was this anxious-depressed type of guy. I never kissed a girl and never approached one because of my porn addiction. Travelling alone to a completely foreign country to meet someone that I only know virtually seemed like an impossible adventure.

But somehow during that nofap streak I just thought to myself that either I do that or I'll regret not having it done until the day I die. And I did it and it were the most amazing 3 years of my life. I just went against all my anxious thoughts. I didn't even know how this girl looked like before meeting her, but I just did it anyway.

This relationship didn't cure me from PMO (even though it drastically reduced it) and I'm still struggling with quitting PMO at this very moment, but I'd definitely say that without this life-changing transition back then I either wouldn't be alive now or would be a patient at a psychiatric clinic. I'm so glad that I did what I did 9 years ago and I'm pretty sure nofap played a big part in taking this decision.

 

To me life achievements are done by progressive efforts. There is no "Life changing to a good living" for good. A person will set a goal and keep working on making balance in his life to face the challenges and reach what he hoped for. As you keep managing your lifestyle and improving yourself, one day you will find that you have passed a very long journey of success.

 

I have. The thing that set me forth on this "chain reaction of change" was my wife telling me that my porn use had destroyed her self-esteem. The moment that made me feel "truly successful" was recently when she told me that she had never felt more loved by me.