Couldn't agree more. These are all insecurities that need to be dealt with. This is why I cannot accept that it is just PMO that is the root of the issues. Some of us will still have the same unhealthy insecurities even if we were 300 days PMO free. The root of the problem to everything is always the unhealed emotions that we are not taking time to work on and heal. Self reflection is so, so important. Retaining the semen is about allowing ourselves to be real with the emotions that come up while being on this journey. Allowing ourselves to go right into the sadness, loneliness and all of the other dark emotions that come up. The emotions that we find rising to the surface is what's ALWAYS been there... We've just been covering it up with PMO, using that as an escape to hide the real emotions that we face everyday. I'm not sure why people are so surprised when they say that different emotions come up for them when refraining from PMO. The emotions were always there. The emotions we've been denying and suppressing for years is the issue, not necessarily just the PMO habit itself. The PMO is just the effect, not the cause.