What's the point when I'm all alone?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by MissionCritical, Oct 23, 2020.

  1. MissionCritical

    MissionCritical New Fapstronaut

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    Hi guys..for the longest time I've been struggling in and out of pmo and I came to realize that the main reason I keep relapsing is because I don't have a strong enough reason to do so..

    I'm currently single, don't have kids, hardly any friends, my relationship with family is not the best..etc. Whenever I attempt a long streak and things get hard I simply give up because I feel like I have nothing, and I'm all alone in this world so what's the point..

    I'm trying hard to find a reason within myself but I'm really struggling to find one strong enough..any advice?
     
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  2. alphakadabro

    alphakadabro Fapstronaut

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    Get a blood test and check for underlying conditions (like low testosterone), or other imblances which can cause loss of motivation and depression.

    Connect with your native traditions, customs, culture and religion. Reconnect with your interests and passions, and follow your intuition if you don't know what they are.

    Learn more about your body by becoming physically active, assertive and having a safe outlet for controlled ggression (i.e. sports or fighting, etc.). Many PMO and sex addicts have a self-esteem issue because they have a dysfunctional relationship with their genitals. Our energy gets channelled into that one localization, our thoughts follow, and soon its all we can think about.

    You need to physically reroute your energy through traditional disciplines (i.e. calisthenics, lifting, stretching, yoga, meditation, etc.). You need to refocus your mind on the expansiveness of life, which is way larger than your particular emotions/feelings/thoughts in any given moment.

    Challenge yourself with new goals. Read books. Expose yourself to new opportunities. What do you have to lose? Go take a risk that you know in the back of your mind that you should probably be doing for yourself anyway.

    Hold yourself to a higher standard. From now on, take notice of all the low-effort habits and routines you fall into. Most importantly, take notice of how they negatively effect you and make you feel worse. Then commit to doing what brings you more strength, more insight and more peace.
     
  3. MissionCritical

    MissionCritical New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks..I got a blood test done recently and my testosterone is on the lower end of normal so I'm wondering if that jas something to do with the depression..
     
  4. alphakadabro

    alphakadabro Fapstronaut

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    I mean, that doesn't sound so good. So you should definitely switch things up in your life, whatever it takes. You need to get fired up about something.
     
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  5. MissionCritical

    MissionCritical New Fapstronaut

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    I'll try..your input is much appreciated
     
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  6. Luxor

    Luxor Fapstronaut

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    You may be single now but you will find someone at some point in your life that will mean everything. Turn your world upside down so to speak. Don't wait till then to start dealing with the porn stuff. Do it now while you're still single, start being the best human you can be so that you will attract the same.
     
  7. RobW

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    Don’t give up! I was in a similar situation, years of being on my own, family ties severed/poor relationship. I’d spend all my spare time online with P. It was an easy option.
    The habit has continued, even though I am now married and have kids. BUT, I am now three weeks into my recovery proper. It is difficult at times, but it is worth it.
    I guess what I am trying to say is that you don’t know what life has in store for you, but don’t let PMO ruin your opportunities. There is a whole life waiting (even with COVID around). Don’t watch it pass you by, I did, and I regret missing out on so much.
    Help is here my friend.
     
  8. CenteredMan

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    What if you reversed your point of view?

    You say you have no motivation, because your life sucks right now.

    Well, isn't THAT the motivation? NOFAP has the potential to turn your life around! You can grow so much as a person by fighting this addiction, you have no idea. See I said FIGHTING, not WINNING OVER, because even though it is our ultimate goal, it's sometimes unfortunately too far. Fighting is what counts. Your confidence goes up, your relationships improve, you suddenly feel that there are so many things you want to do in life. And then you realize that porn, among other things, is what's holding you back, what literally steals significant chunks of your time that could, and should, be spent otherwise.
     
  9. JoeinUSA

    JoeinUSA Fapstronaut

    What age group are you in? What, if any, are the negative pitfalls of this addiction in your life presently? Does it devastate you in any way?

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  10. pump20

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    Well, if you're alone, you're blessed because of freedom, lots of time, energy to do the things you want to do. I'm single and proud of it. If I were you, you don't want to have female relationships because you may never that they have evil spirits inside of them. That's called Jezebel and succubus meaning that they're energy vampires drains your energy and all of the sudden, you'll feel depressed, miserable, and wished you would have been back to single again. Think about that for a minute. Hope it changes your mind.
     

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