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Whats the point?

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by mick5643, Mar 16, 2021.

  1. mick5643

    mick5643 Fapstronaut

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    Hello everyone.
    Recently I have been really down and without any energy/motivation. I think that im in a flatline and on top of it i was sick 2 days. I peeked once today but didnt M or O.
    My mental health is in shambles, I go to a therapist and even though it helps my career is very demanding, starting tomorrow I will have class from 9:30 to 18:0 with only an hour break to eat lunch. I will need to workout at night
    I havent socialized a lot this week. And its taken a toll. I try to reassure myself that I someday I will be loved. But it gets hard. Probably this week will only get tougher, but I have to keep moving forward.
     
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  2. GetRight

    GetRight Fapstronaut

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    I struggle with the same thought.

    What is the point to all of this? What if I am just fighting my own nature?

    These thoughts are usually loudest after I relapse. However, I keep trying because when I have had a little bit of success, when I go a week or two without PMO, I feel much more mentally sound.

    I also like to think that if I manage to completely kill the habit that I will be much stronger for it. That was the case when kicked alcohol and I guess I am trying to repeat that. There is no denying that this hard. Personally as hard as it was to kick alcohol. Kicking porn seems twice as hard.

    In the end the transformation that happens interanlky is what makes it worth it. I hope so.
     
  3. its not your nature , never is ,never was, sorry if im being religious but there is a concept in our religion that a man is what he does , he is nothing by nature and by birth (neither good nor bad) ,he gets to choose to rather be good , strong , brave and pious and compassionate or he can choose to be evil , full of lust , coward etc
    everything is a choice . focus on one thing only now , not on correcting each and everything at one time , just pick one , like forexample porn .
    and hey .... i have also been there , for like 4 years i was in the loophole of feeling worthless and shit , so if i can get out , everyone can
     
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  4. Hey man. It's an important question you've raised, and we should be clear about it. Our sexual energy is part of our nature. We can't run away from it, nor should we. It can be a really powerful and beautiful force in our lives.

    But many other aspects are habits we fall into, and the results of choices that we make. The longer I went without porn, the less it felt like a core part of my sexual nature. It still feel the pull of it sometimes, but the vast majority of my sexual life has nothing to do with it anymore. It took a lot of time and commitment to get to this point, though. Keep at it and trust the process! Sure there's some suffering involved, but think of it as an exciting journey too. Good luck!
     
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  5. Yes I agree, what is the point of this? I didn't ask this same question to myself till I reached Day 7. I haven't been in a relationship in 2 years and my last relationship was my first in 10 years its all because of where I live and I'm Disabled. So if and when I reach the 90 day mark nothing about my Sex Life improved or disapproved. Does this mean I'll stop after Day 7 no I won't just very curious.
     

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