What's wrong with me?

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Hugh Jackman, Oct 18, 2019.

  1. Hugh Jackman

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    I have social anxiety, whenever I go in crowd,I see if anybody is looking at me.I don't have any gf.I have problem with talking to girls.I am not attracted to real life girls.I have big crush on pirates of carribean actress(Keira knightley).I think of her everyday, her photo flashes in my mind at least once.Something is wrong with ne these days.I cry 4-5 times a week since 8months.I don't like to live,but I'm alive only because of my parents.help me!!
     
  2. Protagonist

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    Not trying to be judgemental, but there is nothing to worry about not having a girlfriend. Numerous people don't have girlfriends. I don't have a girlfriend.
    It's okay my man.

    Although, it'd be good if you could elaborate more, and we'd be able to help you more.
    Why is it that you don't want to live?
     
  3. OakenAxe

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    How old are you? How bad is your porn addiction? Why don't you want to live?

    Don't be too hard on yourself, we all have some kind of anxiety, and don't worry: it's totally tamable
     
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  4. Hugh Jackman

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    I'm 20yrs old.I am struggling to make friends,I still have childhood friends.I have changed a lot ,I become boring person.I am becoming more shy and quiet person.Whenever I talk to people,they seem to ignore me.I have lack of achievements and no talents.Everything has become boring now.My greastest hobbies were playing games and watching movies.Now ,they have become boring too.I watch porn 1-2 times a day with masterbation.I have very bad thoughts, sometimes I feel everybody hates me(even my parents).
     
  5. Max666

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    The advantage you have going for you right now is you're starting to find playing games and watching movies boring. That's good. Most people continue that addiction until their time expires.
    What you need is interests, passions, this is what's gonna rid you of social anxiety. Confidence comes from believing in yourself. You can only do that if you're doing something you can really apply yourself to. I was like you too but then I found something I was good at and stuck with it. Now I have no fear of anything.
     
  6. Protagonist

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    When you feel tired and bored you don't need rest, you need shit that you're excited about.
     
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  7. Hugh Jackman

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    Thanks a lot guys,that was very helpful.
     
  8. Milhouse Van Houten

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    Take up a musical instrument homie, if I didn't start playing music as a teenager I surely would have killed myself by now.
     
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  9. Hugh Jackman

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    The problem is nothing excites me anymore.I used to enjoy music before.I became emotionless now.
     
  10. NF SINCE BIRTH

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    If you dont feel like you want to live you should visit a site like https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

    A good therapist can help you out. With that said some of your symptoms may be a side effect of too much PMO and maybe other addictions you may have. Visit yourbrainonporn.com for info on the topic. Hang in there. Life is worth living.
     
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  11. Xander_

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    Hey man, just here to let you know that you are perfectly fine and what you feel right now is perfectly fine. Seeing and being ignorant about the problem is what is wrong with people nowadays.

    Its completely fine if you have social anxiety, its completely fine if you don't have a girlfriend, its completely fine that you obsess over that girl as well. Relax, everything is going to be alright, take a deep breath. Obviously you notice you tend to see so many problems around you, but no drive to solve them. This place exists for a reason, none of us here is completely perfect and without a flaw, that's why we are bound to fix it.

    This is what happens when you're stuck with porn addiction, focus at one goal at once. Perhaps, now all you should be focused on is getting rid of porn addiction, as it would help you to slowly work on other negative aspects in your life. If there's anything you are suspicious about, i am letting you know that there's plenty of people here willing to help you and have you on the right track.
     
  12. lolos

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    Damn Hugh Jackman really going down hill these days
     
  13. Basic Element

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    Understand that you are the person, an individual. Everything depends on you. You can cry, and you can act.
    Try to change yourself. Have fear of girls? Beat it! Take numbers, speak, go out, date! We live only once, make at least little steps.
    It's cool when you feel that you achieved something, when breakthrough comes.
    Moreover, try to find hobby, something that distracts you from PMO, bad thoughts, and so on.
    And of course try to get acquainted with some1. Loneliness is not the way out. Your parents would be happy to see you happy. Put them on your place.
    Best regards.
     
  14. Hugh Jackman

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    Don't worry I will not do suicide at any cost because of my mother.I will not worsen her life.My mother had clinical depression and my father also has some mental problems.So ,I'm not going to do suicide.
     
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  15. Hugh Jackman

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    I tried to change myself a lot,i accepted I'm different from others.I have low self esteem,and i suffer from panic attacks.So,i am afraid to do something in front of others.Everyone i know is good at something,some who are poor at academic are good at sports.I suck at both.I get lot of negative thoughts about everything.
     
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  16. Basic Element

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    You are giving the answer yourself.
    Your thoughts have to be changed, I know it's not so easy as it seems, but... There's no simply other way out. I used to have some stuff like this too b4 due 2 PMO, but right now I understood, why should I destroy myself? Really, try to judge yourself from the neutral position and not to think too much at all. Thinking is a good thing, but not overthinking of course. Step by step everything can be done.
     
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  17. OakenAxe

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    That's awesome! I also have a strong circle of childhood friends, and that's a very good thing. I imagine you feel comfortable around them, it may be a good space for healing your mind and feeling love.

    I can relate to that, and I improved a lot in those aspects. Do you know what helped me? Quitting porn and understanding the mind, how and why people behave the way they do. You see, some people are quiet (shy, anxious or just calm and peaceful), others talk a lot (big ego, need for attention). When someone ignores you (if they really do, sometimes they just don't hear you), they may do it because their ego is telling them that it is not rewarding to interact with a quiet and shy person, it won't bring attention to them; they might feel uncomfortable. They can't see past that, they're driven by their emotions/the stories their mind is telling them.

    In other words, don't expect anything from people, don't let other's behavior influence your well-being. It's like when you greet someone 'good morning' and they don't reply: the problem is on them.

    Thoughts are just thoughts, we decide if we want to follow them or not. Keep in mind that all of that are just stories your monkey-mind is telling you, not reality.

    Are you emotionless? Or just having bad emotions? Afterall, you're alive! You know, nowadays little things bring me joy, like the birds chanting on the morning, the sun on my skin, the smell of coffee or tea, greeting someone, having a good time with friends... we can find happiness everywhere, it's all about our state of mind. Meditation and buddhist philosophy helped me a lot, so I recommend it to you.

    I watched this 2 days ago, just remembered, may be of some use to you:
     
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  18. Hugh Jackman

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    Thanks a lot bro ,you seem to put lot of effort to write for me.
     
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  19. Hugh Jackman

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    Thanks a lot guys.
     
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  20. Hugh Jackman

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    I observed myself a lot , every action depends on our thinking.If I think positive about something,I can solve any problem.I suffer from OCD and maybe mild shizophrenia(being suspicious about everything).I should adapt some way to be positive everytime.Then I can improve myself.
     

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