What's Your Motivation?

Hi ! I am very happy to find this thread today : I am also 23 years old and actually starting NoFap seriously.

I have known NoFap for many years and have fully admited that I am addicted to PMO and that it is a problem, I think at least one year ago. But for the first time, I think of it as "a war against porn" that is not over untill it is won.

The point is, I have started reflecting on my motivation the past few days. I know that NoFap is what I must do (because I am obviously very addicted to extrem content, it is easy for me to be sure it is what I must do), but I am currently trying to formulate what it is that I expect from it.

The first important fact is that : I cannot have a woman in my life as long as I have this toxic addiction. I think this fact led me to NoFap. But I agree with you on the fact that I want to be the man of her life, and this is not, I think, just me without PMO.

Thus, as see NoFap as a part of a bigger picture : I don't want to just remove what is bad in my life but I must also cherish what is good and nourish myself with better thoughts and actions.
So removing pornography (which is my goal today), is a way to be coherent with myself : I know it is bad so I must stop it for myself.

I hope I am understandable, and anyway, this is a thinking in progress.

Take care !

 

For me, that was almost like you, to become a person whose parents, girlfriend are proud of(howewer, I don't have a girlfriend). To become a man, not a being with penis, real man, who takes a responsibility for what he has done, increase masculinity, to get those character real man should owe. To make my hormon balanse okay.And that's not everything, that's the main reasons. Sorry for my English though.

 

"That said, the epitome of our manhood is highlighted by the confidence and ability to conquer those serenely beautiful women in bed, not watching them bounce on other men’s laps.
Lastly, pornography should only be used as a tool to spice up your bedroom game as the dominant Alpha, not to be a substitute for it."

This is my motivation.

 

most of us have the same goal of finding an SO. it's a good piece of motivation, very good infact.


for me it's more to about my own pride. I hate being controlled/influenced/intimidated by other people as well as other things.

Porn triggers the same things in your brain as sex does, that's why it's so addicting. The problem is it absolutely fries your brain in the process. It is literally free, intangible cocaine. every time i relapse i have this strong disappointment which i absolutely hate. My motivation is winning the war against porn that I've been fighting since July last year and so far, i'm winning

 

I don’t think I had a single defining moment, but multiple moments that caused a gradual hatred for what I was doing to myself and who I became. I have severe PIED which has left me embarrassed more times than I can count, which leads me to partake in even more PMO, it’s a vicious circle of nothing but pain, self sabotage, guilt, and destruction. One day I was watching some really gross P, and it just hit me. I started thinking “there’s no way any normal person would watch this kind of shit for pleasure” and I started reflecting, thinking what I allowed it to become.

Thoughts of myself as a happy child before I ever took that first step toward watching P almost brought me to tears thinking how I gave up my innocence and light for something so destructive, disgusting, and pathetic. The thought of my parents, my family, how they would feel if they were to find out about the kind of shit I watch, or how much control PMO has taken over me. The thought of my mother wondering what happened to her little boy, causing her to wonder what she did wrong. The thought that one day, the perfect girl for me will show up and I’ll ruin it because my brain is used to P being the love of my life and not her. The thought that I’ll never have a family of my own because of this.

I just know I can do better, and I owe it to myself, to my family, to my future wife and kids, and to God to not willingly let it destroy me. I HAVE to be better. There is no other option.

 

one of the motivators for me was desire for a REAL relationship with a woman, not sex, but having someone in my life. not some woman i nut too on the internet. The Catalyst that started this Journey was I met a girl couple years ago. She was gorgeous. She geniunely showed interest and pursued me. When we hung out together, there was a connection. Her smile and the attention I was getting, made me feel "happy". hard to explain, but that geniune feeling of good and happiness, not pleasure. But i was so messed up in my head from brain fog and Anxiety from my years of nutting to porn all the time. I legit did not know how to handle/process this kind of attention. I was in my head all the time and full of anxiety. I had friends tell me "dude, she likes you, wtf are you doing?". Not just her, but random girls too, friends would tell "she was looking at you, you didn't notice?" or "dude I can tell she liked you, why didnt you ask for her number?". I would just give a confused blank stare.

To make a long story short, this girl basically pulled back and moved on from me, before it could have developed to anything more. I tried talking to her, but I would just get "indifference" from her. This was such a shock to my system i ended up questioning "WTF is wrong with me?", then i started realizing I had other issues in my life, because I was so addicted to PMO. It finally sank in "something is really wrong I need to change. I gotta straighten out my life" I even contemplated seeing a therapist, I was so depressed. I was in tears almost every night, because this such a punch in the gut. Then I discovered NoFap and the principles behind it. I now realize prior to all of this how "Lost" I was. All I did was go to work 8 - 12 hour shift a day and all I would look forward to was getting home and PMO'ing. I was Numb and Depressed without realizing it. Life was literally passing by and I wasn't even paying attention. I wasted so much time ill never get back.

2020 rolls around, I moved to a new city and got an amazing job. I vowed this will be the year I commited to NoFap and Rebooting my life. This Journey has not been easy, I have relapsed a few times. But I am happy to report, I'm now going on two months of NOFap. During this journey, I've been tiressly working to improve myself mentally and physically best I can. Without Nofap I would not have the energy to do any of this. But piece by piece I am "rediscovering" my Purpose in life and realizing my BIRTHRIGHT as a man! You can too! you were not put on this earth to beat ur meat stick to internet porn all the time. im already noticing benefits, my voice is slightly deeper, my jaw is slightly more square vs round, Muscle gain has slightly increased,I am more productive and my mind is clearer. Also women started looking at me. Fyi I am an overweight(workin on it) average guy. So hang in there brotha! break the cycle Rediscover your Birthright as a man! I think what happened to me was God's/Universe's way of slapping some sense into me.

I know this was alot to write, but its therapuetic for me to write my story to maybe help other men struggling.

 

For me is:

Imagine you are with your wife in house and thinking when she will go somewhere just so you can go watch porn. For me that would be same as cheating, betrayal. And we MUST get rid of porn so we can love with pure heart.

22 here.
Regards bro