What's Your Trigger?

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  1. DenverGuy

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    What's the emotional state that can cause you to relapse?

    Of course, while I can have overt triggers, such as seeing ads for bikinis, there's an emotional component underneath it. For me, it's typically boredom. For others, I might imagine feelings of loneliness, street, feeling a need to exert control, upset, anger, and others.

    As we know, when there's relapse, there's usually a complex set of reasons and emotions behind it. Without a good emotional state, then the overt trigger can cause relapse. At that time of relapse, what is your emotional state taking you down that path? Thanks
     
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  2. Will Lee

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    Any negative emotion really. Negative emotion---> need to make myself feel better ----> crave PMO as its what I'm used to medicating with.

    Boredom can make you relapse but the really dangerous ones to look out for is if you start feeling negatively about yourself, your future, your situation, are anxious or stressed. Those tend to make you lose focus of what your goals are or even not care about them anymore,a that's when you're super vulnerable.
     
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  3. Anubis Rises

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    i think higher stress that im use to
     
  4. For me its a combination of boredom and a need to make a social connection. I never masturbate watching porn or without social contact. For me i get this need to connect with someone and drives me to a chatroom. Once there I seek out others with the same enthusiasm. Then its chatting, sharing pictures, and masturbating - usally edgin for 3 to 4 hours.
     
  5. Ibnmorales

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    I think its boredom that gets most people because being horny could be subdued , but getting up and being active wherever it may.
     
  6. Ajikan

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    Bored and alone with nothing to do, in a small room.
     

  7. Also, being aroused itself can be a source of stress for an addict like us. I have used a method where I accept the fact that I cam aroused and even take any pleasure, but refuse to act on it - dont masturabte. That arousal usually passes, and so does that stress.
     
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  8. Di.Do.555

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    I love everything about them and if i dwell on sexual thoughts for few days ( combined with stress and/ or lack of sleep) i relapse.
     
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  9. Di.Do.555

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    What happens if u are bored but in a big room?
    Lol
     
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  10. crazyaf

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    This
     
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  11. Anne-Dauphine

    Anne-Dauphine Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    For me it's really definitely boredom as well. And periods. Almost unbeatable. I mean I've beaten it countless times but it's so intense because it's physical pain. But boredom for me is usually linked to depression because I can't stand not being active two seconds so I would say being in a bad place mentally is what ultimately causes it. I'm also incredibly, incredibly curious, I remember when I first started watching porn the number one thing that got me is to discover how others bodies were shaped. And since I'm a virgin I can't rely on my own memories.
     
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  12. Di.Do.555

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    Have you tried meditation or breathing.?
     
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  13. Baerle

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    For me it's sleeplessness, boredom and any kind of stress.
    On top of that I have had "perfect" days where I was doing stuff with my best friends and overall felt amazing, but in the evening I still relapsed. My guess is that my brain received dopamine from the activities that I did on this day and confused it with watching porn, so it had the familiar "more, more!"-reaction
     
  14. Comando

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    Cuando ha tenido mucha actividad , o simplemente vi algo que despertó mi deseo
     
  15. Fordie

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    Depression and anxiety, especially anxiety in social situations. It can't be boredom because I keep myself occupied.
     
  16. e123

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    Women in shorts
    Feelings of helplessness

    The list used to be much longer
     
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  17. Hros

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    Boredom, frustration, loneliness, anxiety and possibly also tiredness.
     
  18. Infrasapiens

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    This may not be a trigger because I haven't relapsed even once but when a woman shows some kind of attention towards me, it makes me feel something. That counts?
     
  19. Uncomfortably Numb

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    Not sure of the purpose of this post.

    We all know our own triggers and I'm not sure it is healthy for us addicts to learn 'new' ways of being drawn into this evil... just my thoughts, no offence intended.
     
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  20. Ibnmorales

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    thoughts' usually lead to action , so triggers can be subtle or straight forward.It really comes down to mental warfare its a battle against yourself .
     

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